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Would you continue to see him if you found this out?

212 replies

Highlightnight · 03/12/2025 17:31

So I have found out that the guy I have been seeing got a suspended sentence for having sex with an under age girl many years ago. He was early 20s and she was 15. He claims he did not know her age and she looked a lot older. Would you continue to see him?

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Upthenorth · 03/12/2025 17:41

Did he volunteer this information or did you find out another way?

It prompts a lot of questions from me but you would never know if he was telling the truth.

Goditsmemargaret · 03/12/2025 17:41

Actually I might because I was the 15 year old in this scenario once. He was 24 and he absolutely did not realise, he thought I was 18 or 19. He was horrified when he realised and that was the end of us. I was heartbroken.

Ilovecheeseyah · 03/12/2025 17:41

I believe you already know the answer in your heart. I sympathize this is a horrid thing for you to find out but you know you are strong enough to do the right thing. Sending you the POWER

Americano75 · 03/12/2025 17:40

God no.

JudgeBread · 03/12/2025 17:40

Ew no, gross

CaptainMyCaptain · 03/12/2025 17:40

No.

Owly11 · 03/12/2025 17:39

Nope not a chance in hell. He will be minimising the real story so you would be with a sex offender and a liar.

Izzywizzy85 · 03/12/2025 17:39

No I wouldn’t. I’ve never met a 15 year old who wasn’t very obviously 15, regardless of what she looked like. Huge red flag.

TulipTuesday · 03/12/2025 17:39

God, no.

CharlotteSometimes1 · 03/12/2025 17:38

Absolutely not

Tootiredforthis23 · 03/12/2025 17:37

No I wouldn’t.

EuroTour · 03/12/2025 17:37

No.