Would you continue to see him if you found this out?

Even when this was more socially acceptable or taking into account those who are saying 15 year olds look older or lie about their age, this hasn't usually resulted in a suspended sentence. So what is he omitting to tell you OP?

Good god no! I accidentally hit YANBU and can’t change my vote but you absolutely would be unreasonable if you continued dating him!

Being older, and being in my mid/late teens in the 70s/80s - this was a fairly common scenario.

So for me personally, if the bloke was older like me then it wouldn't worry me as that was his norm at that age.

A friend's 15 year old looks like a 15 year old in her school uniform. But out of school, with make-up, clothes, hair, huge long lashes, pouty expression etc., you would be hard pushed to identify her age and she looks no different to the 20 year old I work with.

Sex offenders are also highly highly manipulative. I'd doubt that he's telling the truth tbh. They consistently downplay their own behaviours and limit their responsibility for their own actions.

This is a standard line they use - not their fault, trapped by the girl, couldn't have known etc then you find out they picked her up from school whilst she's in uniform, celebrated her 14th birthday with her and know her parents or similar creepy stuff.

Similar here. Although something must have been reported (I never did nor wanted to) which kinda makes it very different.

No

I would also think hes lying and downplaying the situation

But did you go to the police? Was he charged?

This guy was so we can probably surmise that he is minimising what happened in some way.

It is a long time since sex that a 15 yo ‘consents’ to resulted in a prison sentence. And a suspended sentence is a prison sentence held in suspension , it’s a serious conviction.

Probably if it was years and years ago. I was 15 and slept with a guy in his early twenties, he had no idea and thought I was 18. I had a fake ID and everything.

How did you find out? Personally I think it's a bit icky.

no

So he was 7 or 8 years older then her. That's old enough to know better.

No I wouldn't.

Absolutely fucking not.

Once a sex offender, always a sex offender in my book. Utterly untrustworthy.

Very much this.

I could have easily passed for 18 at 13 years old let alone 15. I also quite frequently lied about my age! So no i wouldn’t judge him on this if it was a one off that has never happened since.

Having sex or being in a relationship? Having sex with a youngster as a one-off feels totally wrong in early 20's (taking 6-odd years, that is a lot when that young) or if in a relationship I can't believe he wasn't aware of her age.

So basically, no, feels wrong but I'm not the one having a relationship with him though. OP I presume you're not too keen either having posted here on MN? One thing though, kudos for him telling you.

Depends how long ago.

I'm 42 and if the bloke was my age or older then I wouldn't be so bothered as when I was 15, dating men in their 20s was pretty normal.

If he's younger than 36 though, I'd say definitely not.

Absolutely not

When I was 15 myself I thought a year or so was negligible. Now I have dc that age I realise how young and vulnerable they really are and also that as an adult woman, I can very clearly distinguish between teenagers and adults. As can most adult men.

Honestly I probably would. I was 15 when I dated a man in his early 20s. We got along well and he was kind and respectful- not like my next boyfriend who was my age and an utter twat.

If he was late 20s, I’d think it was wrong, but 15 and 22 (for example) isn’t that worrying to me.

No, definitely not. I’d block him without explaining why, he will know why.

You’ve never met a 15 year old that couldn’t pass for 16, really?

Having been in that situation (admittedly I was 16) I don't see why not.

To an extent it depends on how long ago this was, things were quite different in the 70s/80s. If you feel icky then don't. It's how you feel about it.

Absolutely not. It doesn't matter if she looked 25, a 15yo is a lot different in manner than a grown woman.

No.

Absolutely no way.