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My teeth are awful and I’m scared to go to the dentist!! Pic attached.

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SwingleSingle · 03/12/2025 12:53

I have name changed for this. I am disgusted and embarrassed by the state of my teeth. I’m only 37 and don’t know how they got like this. I think the years I suffered from bulimia haven’t helped.

I am too embarrassed to go to the dentist. Can anyone help to reassure me somehow.

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GumFossil · 03/12/2025 14:49

Unless you give more detail, it’s hard to advise.

They look normal to me - maybe tartar or staining near the gums, but that’s an easy fix. And as others have said, you could get them whitened if the colour bothers you.

Berlinlover · 03/12/2025 14:48

You should see my teeth after six rounds of chemo, yours are fine x

Megifer · 03/12/2025 14:47

I was expecting to see a row of Billy Bob teeth and am slightly disappointed 😂

Are you scared because youre embarrassed about them? Really dont be, maybe they could do with a bit of a whiten but most people would benefit cosmetically from that!

HoneyPie12 · 03/12/2025 14:40

I had never gone as an adult (19 years) due to extreme dental phobia but I had to go for an emergency appointment to get my tooth pulled out when there was a hole pushing into my nerve. He said he was expecting a lot worse because of how long it had been but that I wasn't the longest avoider! Even if you just go and sit in the chair and chat first you've made the first step! X

dimple285 · 03/12/2025 14:40

They're better than mine OP, they look lovely.

HoneyPie12 · 03/12/2025 14:40

I had never gone as an adult (19 years) due to extreme dental phobia but I had to go for an emergency appointment to get my tooth pulled out when there was a hole pushing into my nerve. He said he was expecting a lot worse because of how long it had been but that I wasn't the longest avoider! Even if you just go and sit in the chair and chat first you've made the first step! X

bodyofproof · 03/12/2025 14:38

Mistyglade · 03/12/2025 14:30

Is teeth dysmorphia a thing? They’re better than mine.

I think so. I hate mine but I think other people probably wouldn’t see what I do

NoSoapJustUseShowerGel · 03/12/2025 14:32

SwingleSingle · 03/12/2025 12:56

Pic below

What's wrong with them?

Grammarninja · 03/12/2025 14:31

Op, I was in the same boat as you until 2 months ago. Hadn't been to the dentist in 7 years as I was afraid of what they'd say. Finally bit the bullet and turned out I was still cavity-free at the ripe old age of 43 and that the only damage I had was to my gums (minimal) purely because I hadn't had them professionally cleaned in so long.
I thought I was going to need a filling in every tooth!
Your teeth look like you take good care of them. Go to the dentist! And make your next appointment while there! I'm convinced it will be all good news!

Mistyglade · 03/12/2025 14:30

Is teeth dysmorphia a thing? They’re better than mine.

hairbearbunches · 03/12/2025 14:30

Your teeth look really nice, as others have already pointed out.

I had a bad experience with a dentist and didn't go for almost 2 decades, I was fastidious about looking after my teeth though. I eventually found a dentist who specialised in anxious patients, spent about 18 months farting about on his website and finally plucked up courage and made an appointment. You need to do the same. My guy is brilliant. He kept getting me in every 3 months, ostensibly just to sit in the chair and be leaned back. Totally desensitised me to the whole dental experience and now I'm quite happy to go every year for a check up and clean. Someone who understands dental anxiety and treating people who have had a bad experience in the past is key to getting over your fear. I actually look forward to seeing my dentist now!

Fifthtimelucky · 03/12/2025 14:28

I agree with everyone else. These look to me to be a good healthy set of teeth.

People with a set of perfectly even brilliant white teeth probably acquired them in Turkey.

CraftyPlayer · 03/12/2025 14:27

Honestly your teeth don’t look bad at all! But go to the dentist, they will be lovely. Tell them you’re nervous.
I was in desperate need of a couple of fillings so had to go in September. It was the first time I’d been to the dentist in over 20 years! They were absolutely lovely and so reassuring.

Xmasdemon · 03/12/2025 14:24

They're really not that bad although I can see your enamel has thinned. NHS now do sedation treatment if you meet the requirements, tell them you have a phobia of the dentist and ask about that. Go to the GP and ask for diazepam and take it an hour before the initial checkup

SparkleSpriteDust · 03/12/2025 14:24

They look beautiful! Do not feel embarrassed to go in for a hygiene appointment and a check up, I can categorically assure you (work in the industry) that dentists see far worse and they do NOT judge.

HaveACheekyChristmas · 03/12/2025 14:19

It's hard to tell from that picture what you are concerned about.

It looks like your second left incisor is protruding markedly or overlapping with the adjacent incisor. Is that your issue? A front view would help.

Or is your concern discolouration or plaque on the lower pre-molars/ molars or something else?

BIossomtoes · 03/12/2025 13:51

Absolutely normal nice teeth. Have a look at some “before” pictures on dentists’ websites - your teeth look like the after pictures.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 03/12/2025 13:48

Your teeth are fine! Need a bit of a clean but that is literally what the dentist does!
Go.... it will be fine.

BeWellJ · 03/12/2025 13:33

Your teeth are completely normal.

There are dentists who specialise in treating people who feel anxious about treatment- you may be able to find one near you.

mochimoons · 03/12/2025 13:31

Your teeth look really good and totally normal! It looks like you have a little bit of plaque build up and a hygienist can sort that out pretty easily which will also help with discolouration too. Definitely doesn't look like much to worry about at all!

hby9628 · 03/12/2025 13:07

Your teeth are fine. My teeth are awful, I’m only 46 so trying to keep them as long as possible so I go to the dentist every couple of months. You’ll be fine!

StepAwayFromMyCrutches · 03/12/2025 13:05

Another one saying I am not sure what we are supposed to be being disgusted by. I see a normal set of teeth.

EddyNeddy · 03/12/2025 13:05

Your teeth are absolutely fine. Enamel thins with age and our teeth naturally get a bit yellower. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong. Your teeth aren't stained and there are no visible signs of decay.

givingitanothergo · 03/12/2025 13:03

Hi, the pic doesn’t show up but no I understand your fear and have been there myself.

my parents stopped taking me to the dentist when I was a kid and over the years they got bad, last year at 36 (and 26weeks pregnant 🤣) I finally made the jump to just do it and go, I wish I had done it sooner to be honest!

I found a private practice, one that had pictures of the dentists on their website so I knew who I was seeing and I just got off my ass and went. It was not easy, but the first visit was only to check and see what needed doing, they will not do any work on the first visit so you can mentally prepare yourself for that after!

my dentist knew I was nervous and he was amazing throughout all my appointments to get me where I am now!
I had to have a large break inbetween some of my appointments because of pregnancy and he even joked that he didn’t think I’d come back to complete my treatment 🤣

ResusciAnnie · 03/12/2025 13:03

What’s wrong with them? Paranoid about my teeth now, they’re worse than that!!

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