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My teeth are awful and I’m scared to go to the dentist!! Pic attached.

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SwingleSingle · 03/12/2025 12:53

I have name changed for this. I am disgusted and embarrassed by the state of my teeth. I’m only 37 and don’t know how they got like this. I think the years I suffered from bulimia haven’t helped.

I am too embarrassed to go to the dentist. Can anyone help to reassure me somehow.

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xSideshowAuntSallyXx · 05/12/2025 07:10

I have massive dental phobia, I once had a panic attack in the chair (i was having a tooth out). I'm also needle phobic which doesn't help.

I force myself to go, because I need to go. It isn't pleasant but a good dentist understands people with dental phobia.

When I registered with my new dentist, I mentioned my phobias and they registered me with a dentist who specialises in dental phobic patients. He's absolutely wonderful, very calm, explains everything, takes his time. Same with the hygienist, she pauses and gives me time, very gentle.

Trendyname · 05/12/2025 06:54

Your teeth are not awful. I was expecting them to be really bad. They are pretty normal. These are not the kind you would be embarrassed to see a dentist. Sorry, but I think you are doing this for attention.

Lifelover16 · 03/12/2025 19:11

Your teeth look great! I’d swap with you if I could.
Take care of them and go to the dentist. Tell them about your anxiety when you book your appointment and they may offer some suggestions to help you.

IsntItDarkOut · 03/12/2025 19:08

Your teeth look nice. My friends partners teeth are all black and shrivelled - years of neglect, smoking, sugar. He goes to the dentist.
Yours will probably be the best set they see that day!

SwingleSingle · 03/12/2025 18:58

Thanks everyone. I really didn’t expect this response. I thought my teeth were yellow and was convinced my gums must be in terrible shape. It’s years since I’ve been to the dentist. I also get a very dry mouth, which I worry will be damaging my teeth.

I really thought mine were more yellow than everyone else’s. It’s a relief to hear they are more normal than I realised.

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PigeonsandSquirrels · 03/12/2025 17:02

They literally just need a clean…

themerchentofvenus · 03/12/2025 16:58

@SwingleSingle wtaf?? Your teeth look amazing!

Did you upload the wrong photo? All I can see is a photo of nice teeth.

Pistachiocake · 03/12/2025 16:49

Agreeing with everyone that they're fine to look at, obviously a dentist should check them for health and if you're in pain that's another issue. I hope you can get a supportive one and feel ok.
It is true sickness/ED can cause issues for teeth; mine worsened due to pregnancy sickness, which is very common they said, and there's nothing I can do but keep seeing the dentist and get treatment so they don't get any worse than they have to.
There's so many images of Ross white teeth online that some people expect theirs to look like that. Not many have completely white, even teeth normally.
Didn't most people have false teeth by their 30s in our great grandparents' time? I bet not many had teeth that look as good as the photo.

AquaForce · 03/12/2025 16:39

AutumnAllTheWay · 03/12/2025 12:57

I voted yabu, but kindly and with a massive amount of sympathy. I have a terrible dental phobia.

There's no pic yet but they'll always have seen worse.

Just get down there.

If you're in the UK, ask to be referred to the Community Dentist. Your GP can refer you if you aren't registered with a dentist.

It's an NHS specialist service. Among other things they deal with phobic/anxious patients. A friend told me about it. Somehow I was able to have a procedure I'd needed for 10 years but was too scared to deal with. It's a game changer ❤

duckduck1992 · 03/12/2025 16:37

Your teeth are fine!! (I was a dental nurse before my son was born so have seen it all) they are a tiny bit stained which could be scaled off or you could get teeth whitening. But they’re straight and healthy I promise x

Toothfairy89 · 03/12/2025 16:30

As a dentist you don't need to be scared of going even if every single tooth is decayed. I genuinely could not give a shiny shit, it is my job to care for teeth

However your teeth look fine in the photo. They are clean, your gums are pink and healthy, no obvious calculus, maybe a tiny bit of staining/calculus between some of your teeth but nothing a quick scale can't fix. In my current place of work those would be probably the best teeth I saw all day (certainly the cleanest). Don't worry, you have nothing to be embarrassed about

Calamiday · 03/12/2025 16:27

Can't see anything wrong with your teeth. If yours are bad then I need euthanasia in comparison.

dizzydizzydizzy · 03/12/2025 16:20

They look fine. Good in fact. Straight and evenly spaced. I thought they were going to be like somebody I hav seen at my local supermarket who has missing teeth and the ones she does have are at all angles.

Gettingbysomehow · 03/12/2025 16:19

The only thing that's wrong with your teeth is that you need to see a hygienist like we all do. Job done. I honestly have no idea why you are being so daft. The dentist doesn't care, they will just give you advice.

Almostwelsh · 03/12/2025 16:16

I think that picture is AI.

Isobel201 · 03/12/2025 15:21

Go for it, you won't regret it. I got my teeth sorted in 2018 and I'm still reaping the benefits despite moving dentists. I had a few fillings put in and a broken wisdom tooth removed.

InterestedDad37 · 03/12/2025 15:16

Jeez, I thought mine were OK, but you make me look like Shane McGowan by comparison! Nothing wrong with your smilers! 😁

bakebeans · 03/12/2025 15:11

Bunnyotter1896 · 03/12/2025 13:00

What i pictured from your description was nothing like your photo. Your teeth are lovely.

Me too. Massive dentist phobia and years of being fobbed off. Now they are a mess which will cost me thousands

Empress13 · 03/12/2025 15:11

Your teeth look perfect to me

DottieMoon · 03/12/2025 15:09

What are you talking about?! Your teeth as absolutely fine.

Summerhillsquare · 03/12/2025 14:58

Ha, I wish mine were like that, and I am spending a ton on orthodontic treatment at the moment!

I had a dental phobia for about 5 years, it is curable.

martinagiraffe · 03/12/2025 14:57

I didn't go to the dentist for 15+ years due to fear but in the end bit the bullet and it was fine! I need 2 fillings and both were painless. Now I happily go twice a year for a check up and hygienist.

Just go!

lonelylucy · 03/12/2025 14:56

They look incredibly lovely and healthy, YABU

Zov · 03/12/2025 14:53

SwingleSingle · 03/12/2025 12:56

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What on earth are you talking about @SwingleSingle Confused Your teeth are fine. Look like they need a polish and scale, as there is some plaque near the gums (that can lead to bad breath, and eventually gum disease,) but they look fairly straight and look like normal coloured teeth.

ToadRage · 03/12/2025 14:50

Your teeth are honestly not that bad and I guarantee any dentist will have seen worse. I'm religious about my teeth and visit my dentist regularly but this wasn't always the case, my brother had dentist phobia which rubbed off on me so I avoided it like the plague but my current dentist is lovely.