Husband’s attitude towards aging

vast majority of men find young women attractive

I don't know why so many women try to kid themselves that they don't

just best not to ask these questions or accept that if the answer is what you prefer to hear that he is likely lying

what does it matter anyway

My partners friend is like this single @50 and is looking but ‘doesn’t find women his own age attractive’ and is looking younger on dating sites etc.

I explained to my other half very few women he deems an attractive age 30s i’m guessing will be interested in a man in his fifties. I’m not ruling out everyone but why do ageing men want young women. urgh.

P.s my partner still has a thing for Kelly brook we are of similar ages. I don’t know his exact opinions on ageing women but he doesn’t seem to have an issue with it

What he looks like is irrelevant. She asked about her friends and he answered the question.

His appearance does not really factor into it because the discussion was not about him in the first place.

So in my opinion, the OP is YABU.

As others have said, if you ask a blunt question, you'll get a blunt answer.

Personally, I don't think it's a big deal. He gave an honest reaction. He looked at your friends, decided they seemed older and did not find them attractive.

It's simply his opinion.

Whether he is attractive at the same age does not really matter in this situation.

Voted YABU.

Next time tell him to take a look in the mirror and ask if he still looks the same as he did in his 20s.

Yanbu, what an ick of a man.

OP, my husband has done the exact same--the faces, the "ew." I find HIM "ew" when he does this.

The issue isn't the questions you asked, it's the way he answered them. Like he somehow thinks he could do better than these gross "old" women when he is the same age.

Sounds like it's time for his ego to come down a few notches until he gets a reality check.

My husband is 5 years older than me and seriously looks 15 years older. He makes these "ew" faces over television actresses in their 40s (my age) who look very good, obviously! He either has a very disordered view of himself or he is very insecure and is projecting those feelings onto others his age--either way, I have cooled way off from him because of it.

As women age we generally continue to find men of a similar age to us sexually attractive.

As men age they continue to find 18-25 year old women sexually attractive.

So he’s the same as 99.9% of all men on the planet. His mistake is voicing that to his wife.

So he thinks younger women look more attractive ? Hardly a revelation. Did you want him to lie ?
I think this is more about you and how you now feel less attractive as your aging. Your asking him these questions so you can then blame him for how you feel.

"I also reminded him he isn’t 25 any more and not getting any younger himself". Unfortunately, this is not a valid argument, UNFORTUNATELY. Look at the Hollywood or BBC or any other film studio protagonist paring (Sean Connery and Catherine Zeta Jones - disgusting), etc. etc. Look at the adverts - unshaven, unkempt, wrinkly, elderly-looking George Clooney has been signed up in an advert campaign by a Swiss watch brand, and women keep saying 'sexy'. Advert campaigns by luxury bags manufacturers featuring mature women - Dame Maggie Smith and Olivia Colman do not move merch and are perceived as mature 'eccentric ladies selling things', not sexy or attractive in any way. Compared to that, elderly Connery and Clooney adverts have always been perceived as 'sexy'. Unfortunately, it seems, we, women can't fight biology - as soon as we LOOK as if we can't ovulate anymore, we are not perceived as attractive. Healthy men, on the other hand, retain their sperm production until they die. Unfortunately, biology is not on our side when we talk about attractiveness, but oh boy, is it on our side in terms of longevity!!! Again, not every woman outlives a man, but on average, women live longer.

It's just biology. Women tend to look their most fertile around 20 - 22 and men have evolved to be sexually attracted to high fertility.

My mam use to get creeped at because when I was young all my celeb crushes where on men her age or older.

They still are too be fair, Norman Reedus for example is the same age my mam was and is still damn hot and I know a tonne of girls my age and younger that had a crush on him. On the flip side I have never had celeb crush on men younger than me or even the same age.

My relationship with DH is deeper than surface level attraction, we are best friends and life partners. Hell he has seen me at my least attractive in all the glory of passing a human out of my body complete with all bodily fluids multiple times and we are still going strong.

People put way to much weight in 'attraction'. We all age and change and look rough at time and have our bodies fail and suffer gross things. If 'attraction' is what people based picking their mate on it won't survive all that.

It’s a biological fact that younger women are most sexually attractive judging on appearance alone. That fact doesn’t make men “misogynistic”, it’s just nature.

Men are no more misogynistic for being attracted to young women than a straight person is homophobic for not fancying someone of their own sex!

I’m going to take wild guess here and assume some blokes think Kelly Brooke was at her peak during Piranha 3D. I think you were stirring asking that

What came to mind was making a mountain out of a molehill.

You're 41 not 81- hardly old!

1. your questions / comments about him fancying / rating attractiveness of your friends are weird - you seem to give too much importance to physical attractiveness.
2. 43, 46 is not that old, he is reacting with disgusted look as if your were asking if he finds a 85 year old nan attractive. So he is weird there.
3. when he pulled that face and called them old, you should have asked him then what age group he finds attractive. Because you overreacted, and went full on him about he should be ashamed, he found it easy to apologise and end the discussion rather than this being an opportunity for you to learn something about him, though not sure it will do any good to anyone.
4. you both sound a little superficial

Brilliant
so it’s really easy for him to answer “better” but you’re not willing (able) to say what those supposedly better answers could be.

Women routinely belittle bald men on MN.
If he's not 6ft or more he's undateable etc.

You need some better conversation starters OP! I’d think my partner had lost the plot if that was what he wanted to talk about 🤣 it does remind me of things teenagers talk about (usually based on being insecure)

Isn’t that 2 different questions

Men find younger women attractive but then asking what age group do women like.

My 40 year old husband loves Kelly Brook. How on earth can someone our age look at her and not think she's attractive? He also loved Charlotte Church in Traitors 😂 I think it's a cop out that men only stay attracted to young women. Trying to "biologically" explain away their creepiness. I work with plenty of young men aged 18-25, and they just look like children to me and find it gross when women make lewd comments and call them out on it!

You don't have to fancy someone as they get older... like I love me a young Tom Hardy but find him a bit gross now.
That's how surface level sexual attraction works. It's not the same as your partner who you love and who grows old with you...

So yeah, Kelly Brook is not as hot as she was! She got old.

He was probably screwing his face up and saying "ew" to make it clear to you he wasn't fancying other women.