Husband’s attitude towards aging

Play stupid games, get stupid prizes.
It is your fault, OP. He is just answering honestly the questions you are throwing. You don't have to agree with his views, but he is entitled to them.
It is good that you have at least realised you were being stupid, as you stated in your first post.

I wonder how many relationships have prematurely ended because someone on here planted the wrong idea in someone naive poster's head.

None, I’d say.

You weren't being silly. Your OH is unpleasant. My OH would never tell me he finds someone unattractive in such a disgraceful manner.

MN is hilarious for armchair psychoanalysis. I wonder how many relationships have prematurely ended because someone on here planted the wrong idea in someone naive poster's head.

Anyhow. Disrespectful husband. Other husbands are available tho!

A male friend casually stated that women who were beautiful when they were young, don't realise they're not attractive now they're old. That they need to make way more effort than they do to look half decent..... I'm in my 50s, so that was a stinger.

He also thinks I'm stupid for having 'tweaks'. He says I'm beautiful as I am and don't need it.

Can't win that one either way really ...........🤔

You sound like hard work. He probably fancies your friends and still fancies Kelly Brook, and wanted to find a reason that sounded plausible like "they're too old", to stop you harping on and trying to catch him out.

It's a basic fact young women are more attractive. The human race would be extinct if men weren't attracted to fertile females over those that aren't!

You asked ridiculous questions to start with, which put him in a difficult situation however he had answered. If he had selected one of your friends he fancied you would have equally be upset.

It's hardly a surprise regarding Kelly either, as well as aging she has put on considerable weight in that time. My husband and I have both more bumps, bags, wrinkles and grey hair than when we met 30 years ago, very few people get better with age, so definitely not as attractive as we were, however that doesn't mean we don't love or still fancy each other for who we are, and journey we have been through together.

The difference is men just seem far less worried about aging than us.

The OP asked him which of her friends were most attractive. Which admittedly is a daft question. However, he could have answered this by saying he didn't find any of them attractive, or he could have chosen the one he found the most attractive (albeit not attractive to him). Instead he chose to tell his partner of the same age that he found them unattractive because they were too old. With an Eew of disgust to ensure the message hit home. Unless this man is as thick as a brick and with less sensitivity, he was being unnecessarily cruel.

Says a chart compiled by men.

In reality women continue to find young men attractive but they’re more dignified, less pervy and less delusional.

I don’t generally find men my age attractive, I’m very lucky that my DH still has hair and a good physique - bald, paunchy, white hair - really not into that.

His replies are a bit too Leonardo Dicaprio for me!

Well this is why the problem was the OP asking these questions in the first place. He didn't share his feelings unprompted.

Anyone sharing their "type" unprompted is being quite crass imo (whoever that person is and whatever their type is). But if you ask the question you should be prepared for the answer!

He sounds like a to$$er, who thinks he's probably still attractive to 25 year olds.
Get him a mirror for Christmas.

If you don’t want an honest reply, don’t ask!

Isnt it normal to no longer fancy a celebrity when they’ve aged? I went to see Clive Owen in a play recently, I was really looking forward to it as I used to think he was super hot. I was bitterly disappointed! 😂

I think -

OP's husband was put in a position where he was obliged to lie, and he said the second thing that came into his head (the first thing being whichever of OP's friends he most wants to shag).

When he was asked if he finds Kelly Brook attractive, he naturally assumed that OP was trying to start round two of the argument, so said no to be contrary.

Its not being attracted to younger women that's misogynistic, provided it stays in the privacy of the aging man's mind.
Where it becomes misogyny is when men like the OPs husband feels the need to share this with older women, expressing disgust at them, trying to make them feel lesser by comparison.
Or when they ignore their own decline and believe themselves entitled to young women, making a nuisance of themselves and complaining when rejected. Or use their power to gain the attention of young women at work, for example.

So true.

Your own fault!

(Sean Connery and Catherine Zeta Jones - disgusting)

And yet in real life, Catherine Zeta Jones (56) is married to Michael Douglas (81) and has been since she was 29 (and him 54)!

It's not about what he finds attractive, it's about the "eww" and sense of disgust over ageing. He needs to think about whether he's disgusted with himself having aged as well - if he's not then he needs to realise he can't apply it to others and not himself.

Kelly Brook is still beautiful. Not in the same way as when she was younger of course. She looked a bit like Cindy Crawford back in the day.

So you think that what/who people find attractive should depend on how attractive they are themselves? Yeah, it doesn't work like that. 😂

Some women with a lot of money seem to go for younger men too. I can't believe that Madonna who is deep into her sixties goes out with men in their twenties. My brain just can't handle that - whether it's an older man or an older woman,

Sienna Miller is also with a younger man, but the age gap there is only 15 years.

Where is that graphic from? It means absolutely nothing at all without a source, you could have made it yourself!

I'm not disputing that men find younger women attractive btw, but that women find men their own age attractive when they are over 40 and we're talking about superficial attraction to strangers/ celebrities rather than dating preferences (dating preferences are about wanting someone at the same life stage for a relationship for most women).

I suspect a man made that graphic to show something he wanted to be true, on the basis of some very sketchy survey in which the question was not directly "at what age are men most attractive?" ...

Did you keep reading?

Honestly, the number of women claiming to have zero understanding of how a man can't be a dick is really sad.

1 stop asking him dumb questions
2 accept you’ve got a guy with zero emotional intelligence who is as shallow as a puddle.