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Massive increase in cost for lessons, is this normal?

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WouldRatherBeOnaBeach · 03/12/2025 02:18

As per title, one of my children has flute lessons. Heard last night from the teacher guy that the lesson will be going up from £32 to £40 in the new year, for the same amount of time.

Daughter loves the lessons, but our money is very tight. Husband gives me £85 for the week and I have to find this lesson money out of it as well as feed a household of 5.

I dont understand if things are going up by 3% (or whatever it is ), how are some things going up by SO much. Hubby says I should just pay it as the teacher might not have increased his rates for years, but we’ve only been doing the lessons since the summer and the percentage increase feels huge.

(The teacher is a guy my husband used to work with, not sure if this could be why he just wants me to shut up and pay, to save his embarrassment?!)

I already find it such a juggle to make sure everything is covered on such a low income, I am feeling sad that I now have this additional stress.

Is it me? Am I being unreasonable??

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Blueuggboots · 03/12/2025 04:49

It will be £40/week I’m sure. My son’s guitar lessons are £25 a hour and that’s really cheap. His school charge £22 for 30 minutes!!

ChocolateMagnum · 03/12/2025 03:09

Your bigger problem is this bit:

"Husband gives me £85 for the week and I have to find this lesson money out of it as well as feed a household of 5."

Ffififofum · 03/12/2025 02:47

What does your dh earn ? Is £85 / week a sensible portion of his weekly pay ? Are things genuinely tight or is your dh stingey ?

If he wants dd to continue getting lessons then he must pay the extra to you !

I voted YABU because of your acceptance of the financial set up at home.

sleepylittlebunnies · 03/12/2025 02:40

Is that £40 a week or a monthly fee? How long are the flute lessons?

If you are on a very low household income are there any subsidised music lessons your dc could attend. The kids who got free school meals at my kids’ primary school had free music lessons from outside tutors who came to school.

Or is DH keeping you short of money. Music lessons shouldn’t come out of a very tight food budget.

KetchUpWithEverythingPls · 03/12/2025 02:35

Eh? So one child gets nearly half the family food budget on one flute lesson?

Why?!!

That's completely mad

Mothership4two · 03/12/2025 02:32

Hubby says I should just pay it .. (The teacher is a guy my husband used to work with, not sure if this could be why he just wants me to shut up and pay, to save his embarrassment?!)

Well tell him to pay it then. I don't know how you manage on £85 for everything including extras for your children

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 03/12/2025 02:29

Id tell husband to do the family shop and meal plan

Toddlerteaplease · 03/12/2025 02:27

Is that all your husband can give you or is he being financially abusive?

bronnibro · 03/12/2025 02:27

I also wouldn't be spending almost hair the budget on one person's hobby Vs 5 person food which is already quite low so I'd look at that first and sadly can't afford expensive hobbies? Mahy kids can't

YesItsMe44 · 03/12/2025 02:25

That's a 25% increase for the lesson. Definitely on the high side. Especially when looking at $128/4 weeks vs. $160/4 weeks.

Blueuggboots · 03/12/2025 02:23

That’s a 25% increase??!!!

Linenpickle · 03/12/2025 02:23

A 25% increase is ridiculous - challenge it. However, you get £53 to feed a family of 5 a week? Seriously? Give up the flute. Is money tight or is your dh tight?

Blueuggboots · 03/12/2025 02:22

how on earth do you feed a family of 5 on £85 a week??!!

why are you being given so little money? Do you work? Do you have access to the finances?

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