Good teeth as dating non-negotiable

Same here. My meds have destroyed my teeth and my bones.

I have extremely good hygiene. Brush twice a day, shower/bath twice a day, do my make up and style my hair, but my back teeth aren’t good due to having thyroid and parathyroid issues so calcium deficiency. I’m signed off work and don’t have the funds to put it all right at the moment.
Such a shame people are so quick to judge, like it isn’t something that can’t be repaired.
Very shallow. No wonder so many MN’ers are single.

Good teeth and good oral hygiene determine gut and brain health. I wouldn’t be with anyone who’s got bad teeth. And I don’t mean slightly crooked or uneven - I would also be seriously turned off by “turkey teeth”.

My friend and I were looking for a particular hardware store and weren't sure whether to go left or right so we stopped and asked a couple of builders who were working nearby. Both lovely friendly fit guys, young enough to be our sons but that's another matter, who gave us directions.

One of them, the more conventionally handsome of the two, had the worst teeth I've ever seen - gaps, some blackened, yellow, just awful. For the life of me I can't think that nothing at all could be done to improve them just a bit. He did look just like a pirate.

Just to say he had a London accent, so not like he's come from a poor country and hasn't had a chance yet to sort his teeth.

I find it hard to cope if I don’t like how they dress 🙈 😂 😂

It seems very commonplace these days. Must be due to the cost.

That’s interesting, re: mouthwash.

Just to point out as it seems relevant on this thread. One of the worst things for teeth staining is actually mouthwash. Especially Corsodyl! Expensive.and unnecessary.

I'll never go back to it.

Floss regularly and only rinse with warm salty water if you have sore gums. No staining.

You don’t want another date. The reason is irrelevant. Tell your ‘friend’ she can have his number.

Honestly, the ‘Ick’ you overlook on the first date because you somehow feel bad about upsetting this virtual stranger will probably become a massive cross for you to bear. I speak from experience.

No worries at all! Have a good day 😊

There are lots of genetic causes for bad teeth, our son lacks enamel on his teeth, this has been inherited.

I couldn't date someone with poor oral hygiene.

Bad teeth can definitely be genetic though. My husband brushes, flosses, eats healthy, uses prescription toothpaste, and sees a hygienist regularly and still gets the occasional cavity. I just brush twice a day and have never had a cavity in my life.

Research suggests a great deal is due to genetics. What you do afterwards (live with it vs get cosmetic treatment) is not genetic.

Well my teeth are stained because of medication I’m on. There’s no amount of hygienist appointments that will change it and without the meds I’ll die. Luckily my boyfriend isn’t superficial and loves me and my yellowish teeth. All clean and fresh just yellow unfortunate but I wouldn’t want turkey teeth anyway as they look vile.

I have missing teeth and I can't get them fixed they happened when I had a seizure and fell on cement 😕 not all bad teeth means they don't look after them

That's ridiculous. A neglected childhood can mean bad teeth. Poor health, certain conditions, certain medications etc can mean bad teeth. It doesn't reflect on a person's hygiene, especially their home.
This is going to be an issue many WC children will have, as well as the low waged. There isn't NHS dentists about. Threaseholds are tgat low that a child needing multiple teeth removed under 7, doesn't even hit the radar.

It would be a dealbreaker for me too. If it’s shallow to not want to date someone that you find physically repellent then I’m quite happily shallow.

You get to choose who you date and can reject anyone for any reason or no reason at all. I don’t really understand the need to ask if you’re being unreasonable.

i was only born with 2 of my 4 adult front teeth so I have bridges, but they can get knocked out. My oral hygiene is impeccable. I would never judge someone until I knew their story. My ex husband had teeth and was horrendously abusive. My now partner has some teeth missing. He again has fantastic hygiene and breath and has teeth on a retainer plate, he just lost teeth through sports. I’d rather the less teeth and no abuse

I think with the over 55s it’s generally a bit hit and miss with how crooked one’s teeth are.
OP is it back teeth or front ones that are missing?

Although if they are too perfect I would be suspicious - too many druggies need them all replaced

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You can have anything you want as a non-negotiable. If you can't get past it, you can't get past it - it's important to find a partner attractive, and I'm sure everyone has at least something they just can't look past.

I would, however, disagree with all the PPs insisting that discoloured or missing teeth automatically equals poor hygiene and bad breath. Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't - staining doesn't affect the health of teeth, and there's a multitude of reasons that people can lose teeth that have nothing to do with decay and poor hygiene.

For me, it would just depend on the individual, the rest of their looks, what kind of dental issues he actually had etc. For example, I could easily look past a missing premolar in a really attractive man, and I actually quite like men with certain types of crooked or chipped teeth. But missing front teeth, or a mouth full of decaying stumps, would certainly put me off.

Dentistry is expensive. Genetics and ageing can be cruel. I could be forgiving to a point, like I wouldn’t mind a crooked tooth or a gap, but I also get the ick at decayed/unclean teeth. If they can’t clean their mouth, god knows what downstairs is like!

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to quote you @musicalfrog ! And I can't even remember who my post was meant to quote now. 😆

Sorry!

I can't stick bad teeth in a man. Im 63 and make sure any gaps have implants in them, I get them whitened when they need it and go to the hygienist every 6 months. I could not kiss a horrible mouth. God knows what bacteria they are harbouring in a dirty mouth.