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To just stop going to my nail salon without telling them?

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ApplePie16 · 02/12/2025 15:54

I have been going to the same nail salon for about four months now. Before this, I had been with my previous lady for 5 years.

I really don’t like this new salon, but it’s the only one in my area. The builder gel is never even and the colour selection is crap. AIBU to just cancel my appointment that I have standing, and just stop going? I’m going to do them myself now because it’s going to work out being cheaper

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GreyBeeplus3 · 14/12/2025 15:38

That's business Kid!
If they'd wanted yours
They'd done perfect
Every time

TootsMaHoots · 03/12/2025 08:05

If anything it’s bad manners,

I once found out that my friend sorted her laundry by person rather than colour. Her mother had taught her that was what you did and she was amazed that nobody else thought it was the right way.

monkeysox · 03/12/2025 07:57

The only place that ever noticed me stopping going there was a chain hairdresser. They hammered me with texts

Bobiverse · 03/12/2025 07:55

ApplePie16 · 02/12/2025 18:16

I’ve been taught it would be polite to just send a message saying “I won’t be coming back, because of life circumstances”, but obviously that was wrong

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That’s just weird. You’re being very weird.

Maybe if you’ve been seeing the same person for something for several years, as you’ve almost developed so sort of “professional friendship” so you’d say something about not coming back. But not for every odd place you go for some sort of treatment or activity. You just don’t go back. You don’t need to announce it. You’re being really weird.

TheTortiePuffinNeedsHerBreakfast · 03/12/2025 07:51

I think if you'd been going to the same woman for years, you might give a bit of an explanation and goodbye, but not if you've only been going a few months and don't really have a relationship with them anyway.

ApolloandDaphne · 03/12/2025 07:47

I have been going to my current salon for about 8 years. The woman who does my nails is setting up on her own and i am going to go to her. I won't be saying anything to the salon i go to.

BakedBeing · 03/12/2025 07:47

LarryIsMyRomanEmpire · 02/12/2025 15:56

Huh, you're meant to tell salons if you stop going?
How self important are you!
I doubt they'll care.

No need for that.

NamelessNancy · 03/12/2025 07:46

Where do you draw the line with this etiquette? Do I need to tell Sainsburys I intend doing my regular shop in Morrisons from now on?

Think you've misunderstood OP. It's one situation where it's fine (dare I say, normal?) to ghost them.

Thepeopleversuswork · 03/12/2025 07:44

God no. You're a customer, you can shop where you like. It's a free market and its not an act of charity.

Frynye · 03/12/2025 07:42

You don’t need to apologise. Cancelling it is enough.

FracasFracas · 03/12/2025 07:40

My parents taught me to always defer to a man, that female self-confidence is odious, that no one likes intelligence, and that university ‘wasn’t for the likes of us’. Guess what? I grew out of thinking they were right.

TappyGilmore · 03/12/2025 07:37

I certainly wouldn’t after four months. I might if I’d been going longer. I don’t usually bother saying anything when I’ve stopped going to various places in the past. The only time I did was when it was someone who did a great job and I really liked her as a person, but I stopped going because she was clearly very popular so it was hard to get an appointment when I wanted one, so I felt like I wanted to give her some feedback.

Cnidarian · 03/12/2025 07:28

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 02/12/2025 17:27

Many girls are raised to be apologetic, put their needs lasts, and take up the least space possible. It's something to work on rather than something to be proud of.

It's a business transaction and not a friendship. You owe them nothing.

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This post says everything. I've been taught, how I'm raised, polite, good manners, none of this applies to a casual business arrangement. It's not a point of pride, you can have better boundaries. Not everyone should get your emotional labour.

MasterBeth · 03/12/2025 07:26

Did your parents teach you to use the bizarre phrase "life circumstances"? It sounds like you are about to join a cult!

GAJLY · 03/12/2025 07:13

I wpuld cancel the appointment and stop going, I wouldn't say why.

Anywherebuthere · 03/12/2025 07:08

ApplePie16 · 02/12/2025 16:05

I always thought you were, I always have in the past! Just as a matter of courtesy

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It's polite to let them know you won't attend an appointment. They won't even notice if you don't make further appointments and stop going after that

I do believe you should speak to businesses before leaving any negative feeback/reviews so they have an opportunity to address the problem. But other than that you don't need to announce your departure

AutumnLeavesFallingFast · 02/12/2025 21:12

ApplePie16 · 02/12/2025 18:16

I’ve been brought up to believe it’s good manners. Especially in a small town.

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Well if you've been brought up that it's good manners to tell them
you won't be making any further appointments why are you asking us??

it goes without saying (I would have thought) if you have an appointment BOOKED then yes, you tell them you won't be coming AND pay any cancelling fee that's applicable.

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ApplePie16 · 02/12/2025 19:32

GreyCloudsLooming · 02/12/2025 18:32

Who taught you that?

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My parents. We live in a very small town.

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KilliMonjaro · 02/12/2025 19:02

Why are you overthinking this?

Pollqueen · 02/12/2025 18:43

I doubt they'll remember you, let alone care. I was in Lidl this week and when asked if I had a loyalty card, I reminded the cashier of a conversation we'd had about this a couple of days ago. He looked at me as though I was mad and calmly reminded me he'd had hundreds of customers since then and couldn't possibly remember every conversation he'd had 🤣

He was quite right. We remember them, but they don't always remember us 😉

MrsPinkSky · 02/12/2025 18:40

ApplePie16 · 02/12/2025 18:16

I’ve been taught it would be polite to just send a message saying “I won’t be coming back, because of life circumstances”, but obviously that was wrong

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You had a strong inkling it was wrong anyway, hence the thread 🤷‍♂️

GreyCloudsLooming · 02/12/2025 18:32

ApplePie16 · 02/12/2025 18:16

I’ve been taught it would be polite to just send a message saying “I won’t be coming back, because of life circumstances”, but obviously that was wrong

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Who taught you that?

MummytoE · 02/12/2025 18:22

ApplePie16 · 02/12/2025 18:16

I’ve been brought up to believe it’s good manners. Especially in a small town.

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It's not good manners but, it's weird. It will either make the workers feel bad or very awkward

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ApplePie16 · 02/12/2025 18:16

FracasFracas · 02/12/2025 17:25

What, your parents taught you it was polite to go and offer an apologetic personal explanation to anyone whose workplace you are no longer going to use after a few months because they’re substandard?

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I’ve been taught it would be polite to just send a message saying “I won’t be coming back, because of life circumstances”, but obviously that was wrong

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ApplePie16 · 02/12/2025 18:16

AutumnLeavesFallingFast · 02/12/2025 17:31

This really, you've been less than half a dozen times, why do you think they'd notice/care?

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I’ve been brought up to believe it’s good manners. Especially in a small town.

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