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To think this is really rude?

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Wtfisgoingin · 02/12/2025 12:19

My flat is part of a larger building that currently has scaffolding up because the owners are having some work done. Late this morning (around 11.45), I heard the builders showing the owners around. My curtains were closed, but they could probably tell I was still in bed.

I then heard the woman mutter “what a lazy girl” and “get a job!” as they went past. I assume because she saw me lying down.
For context (not that I should have to explain), I’m an adult with a full-time professional job and I simply had the day off today.

I’m honestly fuming. I work hard, earn a good salary and live in a nice flat. The cheek of her making comments like that about a stranger!

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Usernamenotav · 06/12/2025 13:29

Wtfisgoingin · 02/12/2025 12:23

My window was open and my the bottom part of my blinds were open. I assumed they couldn’t see my but I’m guessing they could from the angle. They were very near my window so it felt quite intrusive.

How did you not say something back?? You should have pulled her up on it!! Vile woman. You could be bloody dying for all she knows.

PoliteRaven · 03/12/2025 18:06

So she owns your building? She sounds like an arsehole but also stupid as you're making money for her! I can understand your annoyance, people making assumptions is one of my pet peeves. Maybe she was throwing her weight around in front of the builders for a pathetic show of power.

Jorge14 · 03/12/2025 17:58

Yeah really rude

TicklishMintDuck · 03/12/2025 15:15

Wtfisgoingin · 02/12/2025 12:23

My window was open and my the bottom part of my blinds were open. I assumed they couldn’t see my but I’m guessing they could from the angle. They were very near my window so it felt quite intrusive.

You’re right, it is rude and intrusive. I often stay in bed late on my days off - it saves putting the heating on! I’m also in a flat (2nd floor) and some guys came with a ladder to fix a drainpipe so they could see right in!

KmcK87 · 03/12/2025 08:12

Oh I’d have had to shout something to them to make them feel awkward. Imagine having no concept of days off or shift working in this day and age.

ThisZanyPinkSquid · 03/12/2025 07:41

You are in a professions job meaning you have likely come across assholes in your time …she’s clearly one so forget and move on.

ktopfwcv · 03/12/2025 06:13

The owners said that?!!

MyMiniMetro · 03/12/2025 06:09

I had a conversation with someone promoting Reform the other day. They’d retired in their 50’s on a final salary pension after just 20 years of work but were aggressively calling everyone else lazy. I match that already and many of us will have worked 40+ years before we get anywhere near retirement. Some people are just dicks, don’t let it get to you x

Lurkingandlearning · 03/12/2025 03:01

Yes it was rude but also incredibly stupid. As PP said you could have been a nightshift worker, you might have been ill, it could’ve been your day off. Just focus on what morons they are. And nosy morons too. Sure, they will have noticed your window was slightly open but looking into your room wasn’t necessary.

Keeping that window closed while the scaffold is up might be a good idea if only because the work they are doing is likely to be dusty

Jane143 · 03/12/2025 02:12

Get some curtains or keep windows closed. I’d hate knowing people could see me. She was very rude

Theslummymummy · 02/12/2025 23:58

How could they see you laying down if your curtains were shut? I'd definitely have shouted fuck off

Terrytheweasel · 02/12/2025 23:29

I would be having a chat with the builders to make sure they never do that again.

I genuinely think the woman is a total moron though. You could be ill, grieving, having a day off (as you were). You mustn’t let it affect you as she really is a complete idiot.

TeenLifeMum · 02/12/2025 23:28

I’d be irrationally irritated by that comment. You’re totally allowed to be lazy in your own home!

Arlanymor · 02/12/2025 23:27

Still not sure how they could see you, but I would have just responded: "It's my day off and none of your business thanks!" VERY LOUDLY.

Then I wouldn't give it another moment's thought. What idiots. Who honestly cares what they think? No one. There are heaps of reasons why someone might be in bed later in the day.

ScottishFi · 02/12/2025 23:26

I know you should probably rise above it but are you not just a wee bit tempted to put a notice in your window for next time the builders are showing them their work?! Something along the lines of 'to the person who I heard saying I was 'lazy' on my day off - I am at work today but you are still an idiot' (comment influenced by a previous comment on your post) 😁

StruggleFlourish · 02/12/2025 23:23

Whoever said this, the female owner, or otherwise, is an arse.
There's a dozen reasons why at nearly noon you could be in bed.
She was just being a judgy Ms Judgy-pants.
Pay no mind,

Sophabulous · 02/12/2025 23:17

Wtfisgoingin · 02/12/2025 12:19

My flat is part of a larger building that currently has scaffolding up because the owners are having some work done. Late this morning (around 11.45), I heard the builders showing the owners around. My curtains were closed, but they could probably tell I was still in bed.

I then heard the woman mutter “what a lazy girl” and “get a job!” as they went past. I assume because she saw me lying down.
For context (not that I should have to explain), I’m an adult with a full-time professional job and I simply had the day off today.

I’m honestly fuming. I work hard, earn a good salary and live in a nice flat. The cheek of her making comments like that about a stranger!

Smacks of jealousy to me! Ignore and live your best life, lie ins and days off are allowed the cheeky mare 😂

toomuchfaff · 02/12/2025 13:34

YABU to give a shit what a passing stranger said.

Just get on with your day knowing that person lives a stress ridden life due to their own involvement in everybody elses business.

id even think of ways to perpetuate it so she proper loses her shit, Let her...

isitmytime · 02/12/2025 12:54

I don’t think I would have been able to stop myself opening the blinds properly and saying “you never heard of a day off” the cheek.
I’d also be fuming for the rest of the day!

Daygloboo · 02/12/2025 12:43

Wtfisgoingin · 02/12/2025 12:25

No sadly they’re in a different building so I’ve never met them! I’m fuming though

Wh7ly dont you go and find them and give thmm a piece of your mind. It will teach them a lesson.

Muffsies · 02/12/2025 12:38

People are getting increasingly more rude and judgemental. It shows a lack of humility and reasoned thinking. Typical dumb-arses who like to feel superior by putting others down (even when completely in the wrong).

Ironically they are the ones bringing society down with their idiot attitudes.

StrawberrySquash · 02/12/2025 12:37

It's the sort of thing one might say half in jest when you forget you might be overheard. I say that as someone who lounged around in bed to a similar hour when I had a day off last week. And I was having a nice lazy morning TBH!

SecretSquirrelLoo · 02/12/2025 12:31

Tomorrow you’ll be back at work, whereas that woman will still be an idiot. Enjoy the rest of your day off!

caramac04 · 02/12/2025 12:31

I’d have shouted well you’re not at work love so fuck off!

nomas · 02/12/2025 12:29

Sartre · 02/12/2025 12:28

Awful and it further shows a complete lack of critical thought. People work shifts, have days off, get sick etc. Total fools.

Probably property flippers.

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