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My neighbour is a convicted paedophile

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Obviouslyneedtonamechange · 02/12/2025 11:56

I've just found out from another neighbour that the man two doors down, who we chat to regularly and are friendly with, has been convicted of horrific child pornography charges. Like, the worst. It's really thrown me, I have a two year old and a four year old and I want them to be able to play in their garden without worrying about him watching or worse.
We live on a really small street which the name of was reported in the local paper so I am also a bit worried about potential vigilante type actions. I am obviously hoping he moves away (his marriage has collapsed so I'm hoping he financially has to) but no sign of that yet. Incredibly he got a suspended sentence, what a joke. Am I unreasonable to feel like I want to move?! What do I do?

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HoppityBun · 02/12/2025 14:02

I suggest that you make a Sarah’s Law request for information https://www.police.uk/rqo/request/ri/request-information/sarahs-law/information/v1/sarahs-law-child-sex-offender-disclosure-scheme/

ThisNeatRedMember · 02/12/2025 13:57

FlyingApple · 02/12/2025 13:56

I would honestly move. Yanbu.

To magic unicorn land where there are no people accessing CSAM?

Where is that?

FlyingApple · 02/12/2025 13:56

I would honestly move. Yanbu.

Velveletteslonleylonelygirlami · 02/12/2025 13:52

Bromptotoo · 02/12/2025 13:47

Bit of rationale

I think a lot of them dissociate the pictures from real kids whom they'd never dream of harming. Indeed there's plenty of adult porn use in the same way.

We had possibility of same n the event he didn't move in as the private landlord's agent rescinded approval for a tenancy.

Concluded that if the action is dissociative as above then sitting at his computer jerking off over pictures, however horrible they are, he's probably no threat.

Former colleague who was a Magistrate said the amount of court time spent on indecent pictures of children had to be seen to be believed.

Unfortunately demand requires supply and the abuse of real children being abused and sometimes being directed by the viewer is all too common.
How anyone (men) can watch the suffering of children is beyond me.

Schoolchoicesucks · 02/12/2025 13:50

I wouldn't be "friendly" with him any more.

I wouldn't allow my GC to "play" out in the street (eg with other kids when older).

I wouldn't allow them to play in a paddling pool in my garden.

But I would still encourage them to play out in my garden and home when they visit. I may plant a few more screening plants to reduce sightlines to my garden.

My GC wouldn't have any unsupervised contact with a neighbour so this wouldn't change anything.

He may well move away, but will have to live somewhere. Likely near some children. Keeping them safe is the priority.

IsItSnowing · 02/12/2025 13:50

Bromptotoo · 02/12/2025 13:47

Bit of rationale

I think a lot of them dissociate the pictures from real kids whom they'd never dream of harming. Indeed there's plenty of adult porn use in the same way.

We had possibility of same n the event he didn't move in as the private landlord's agent rescinded approval for a tenancy.

Concluded that if the action is dissociative as above then sitting at his computer jerking off over pictures, however horrible they are, he's probably no threat.

Former colleague who was a Magistrate said the amount of court time spent on indecent pictures of children had to be seen to be believed.

But they are harming children. That's why just being in possession of it is a crime. I don't care how they rationalise it to themselves, they are nasty, vile, criminals and there is no excuse.

OonaStubbs · 02/12/2025 13:48

Paedophiles should not be "released into the community" as they are a threat to children. The safety of children should take priority over the "human rights" of convicted paedophiles.

EstherGreenwood63 · 02/12/2025 13:48

I am sure it has been said plenty but just adding it again. Please don't use the phrase 'child pornography'. It is child sexual abuse images. The use of 'pornography' diminishes the depravity of the crime. And yes he is a cunt obvs.

Lemonfrost · 02/12/2025 13:48

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What a stupid, fatuous comment.

Bromptotoo · 02/12/2025 13:47

Bit of rationale

I think a lot of them dissociate the pictures from real kids whom they'd never dream of harming. Indeed there's plenty of adult porn use in the same way.

We had possibility of same n the event he didn't move in as the private landlord's agent rescinded approval for a tenancy.

Concluded that if the action is dissociative as above then sitting at his computer jerking off over pictures, however horrible they are, he's probably no threat.

Former colleague who was a Magistrate said the amount of court time spent on indecent pictures of children had to be seen to be believed.

IsItSnowing · 02/12/2025 13:46

I wouldn't want anyone to commit a crime. Just to be knowledgeable. Forewarned is forearmed as they say.
Far better to be super cautious with who has access to your children.
I'm advocating to stay away from him not go picketing his house.

ThisNeatRedMember · 02/12/2025 13:45

4thbabynamehelp · 02/12/2025 13:37

What did he do? There's a huge range here. Man who abuses children or shares child abuse images VS man who downloads regular porn through file sharing and accidentally downloads abuse images. Both would involve a prison sentence depending on the severity on the content. Dont ruin someone's life without knowing all the facts.

If you read the full thread you'd have more idea of the 'facts' as lots in your comment is untrue and you'll find that out if you RTFT.

Velveletteslonleylonelygirlami · 02/12/2025 13:44

Notmymarmosets · 02/12/2025 13:42

Wtf. What the hell is wrong with you?
You want this poor woman who is worried for her children's safety to commit a crime that carries a possible life sentence?

Burning someone out of a house is one helluva serious crime as you rightly say.
To engage in such is nuts.

WinterBerry40 · 02/12/2025 13:43

As awful as it is , and I bet he looked completely normal and never rose any somethings off about him vibes , but ,
You can't do anything about it .
Yes it's a shock , yes you are going to stop speaking to him , and possibly tell your kids he's not a nice man, but you only know he's done that because of the media , there will have been other men in your community that are doing dodgy things and maybe have seen your kids out and about but because you haven't heard / they are getting away with it etc they are not a cause of concern to you .
Just be vigilant .

IsItSnowing · 02/12/2025 13:43

Most sex crimes are reported in the local press. Unless the judge says otherwise (and they rarely do unless it risks the victim being known) then you can pass that info on.
We had someone who was involved in a sports club my family go to. Both me and DH were suspicious of this person. He would try to go into the changing rooms for example when young people were changing even though the club has strict rules against it.
It wasn't a huge surprise to see his photo shining out of the local newspaper when he was convicted of child porn offences. We shared it everywhere. Even the club shared it online. It's news and perfectly acceptable to do.

Obviouslyneedtonamechange · 02/12/2025 13:43

Notmymarmosets · 02/12/2025 13:42

Wtf. What the hell is wrong with you?
You want this poor woman who is worried for her children's safety to commit a crime that carries a possible life sentence?

Also as I said in my original post, I'm already worried about people doing this sort of thing and getting the wrong house because the street name is in the news article 😭

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thestudio · 02/12/2025 13:42

Anyone who doubts that suspended sentences are given for searching for cat A images (penetration) should google Erxc Joyce, the partner of columnist India Knxght. She stood by him.

x-es because she has a google search on her name and is very well connected in North London circles.

Gibstub · 02/12/2025 13:42

Can you ask the police to check., If true, this is just awful. Makes me feel sick.

ThisNeatRedMember · 02/12/2025 13:42

Offit · 02/12/2025 13:31

I'm not a criminal lawyer, but I can see absolutely no basis on which the police can tell you not to tell people you know your neighbour has been convicted of anything, tbh. Absent some kind of special anonymity being granted to him by the court, and I'm not aware of that being a thing for adults unless in extraordinarily special circumstances, the "risk" of vigilantism is a consequence of horrible offending against children. I would not take vigilante action and I wouldn't encourage it, but telling your neighbours about it is safeguarding, not vigilantism.

People have been murdered just for local rumours of them being paedophiles when they were not.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-25139185.amp

There are people out there and very likely on this thread who think it's justified to murder a paedophile as the offenders did in this case even though they were incorrect.

And this case where a disturbed girls false allegations of CSA led to near-riots in the local community and innocent people targeted

https://www.bbc.com/mediacentre/proginfo/2024/03/liar-the-fake-grooming-scandal

That's why the Police don't want people going around informing their neighbours.

They will already know about the neighbour, he'll likely be assessed as low risk of contact offending and will be being monitored.

The Police will be doing their job and don't want or need local communities being whipped up into possible violence.

Edit as I'd posted the same link twice

Disabled Bijan Ebrahimi died after being set on fire in Brislington in July

Bijan Ebrahimi murder: Lee James jailed for life

A man is jailed for life after admitting he murdered and set on fire a neighbour who had been wrongly labelled a paedophile.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-25139185.amp

Mapletree1985 · 02/12/2025 13:42

Obviouslyneedtonamechange · 02/12/2025 11:56

I've just found out from another neighbour that the man two doors down, who we chat to regularly and are friendly with, has been convicted of horrific child pornography charges. Like, the worst. It's really thrown me, I have a two year old and a four year old and I want them to be able to play in their garden without worrying about him watching or worse.
We live on a really small street which the name of was reported in the local paper so I am also a bit worried about potential vigilante type actions. I am obviously hoping he moves away (his marriage has collapsed so I'm hoping he financially has to) but no sign of that yet. Incredibly he got a suspended sentence, what a joke. Am I unreasonable to feel like I want to move?! What do I do?

At least you know who he is. What about all the pedophiles you pass every day without knowing? I think it's better to have the enemy in plain sight.

Notmymarmosets · 02/12/2025 13:42

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Wtf. What the hell is wrong with you?
You want this poor woman who is worried for her children's safety to commit a crime that carries a possible life sentence?

SnipThoseApronStrings · 02/12/2025 13:41

I’d tell him you can’t have anything to do with him and that he knows why.

Your children are not an age where they should be outside unsupervised anyway so I’d just live normally.

He has to live somewhere. I don’t really subscribe to “he won’t offend again, as he has so much to lose”, as it didn’t stop him before. However maybe being somewhere stable, where everyone knows his history may be the safest place for children.

IMO as a parent you have to behave like any man you meet potentially could be a paedophile. I have thought through and minimised opportunities where my children could be abused. This helps me not be anxious about this and not pass my fears to my children.

Velveletteslonleylonelygirlami · 02/12/2025 13:41

I would tell him I know who you are and what you are also don't talk to me again
His card firmly marked.
End of.

Boudy · 02/12/2025 13:41

Hi op we have 2 known ones where I live. I agree with other posters at least we know who they are etc. Like you said earlier you can say ' I don't want to talk to you and you know why'

MintDog · 02/12/2025 13:40

Two doors down? How can he even see into your garden?

Just ignore, move on, don't talk to him. Tell your kids to avoid him as they grow up. At least you know about this one. Plenty more out there you won't have a clue about - likely another one in your street just hasn't been found out yet. It's rife. Old man 4 doors up from us was arrested - nicest man you could ever have spoken to. Shocking You just have no clue what people are getting up to behind closed doors. You're in shock but there's realistically nothing you can do.

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