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My neighbour is a convicted paedophile

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Obviouslyneedtonamechange · 02/12/2025 11:56

I've just found out from another neighbour that the man two doors down, who we chat to regularly and are friendly with, has been convicted of horrific child pornography charges. Like, the worst. It's really thrown me, I have a two year old and a four year old and I want them to be able to play in their garden without worrying about him watching or worse.
We live on a really small street which the name of was reported in the local paper so I am also a bit worried about potential vigilante type actions. I am obviously hoping he moves away (his marriage has collapsed so I'm hoping he financially has to) but no sign of that yet. Incredibly he got a suspended sentence, what a joke. Am I unreasonable to feel like I want to move?! What do I do?

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Lemonfrost · 02/12/2025 12:07

And one other thing - people need to stop saying "child pornography", as it implies legitimacy. It's child abuse images.

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Lemonfrost · 02/12/2025 12:05

You are being unreasonable. If you were to move, how would you guarantee that your new neighbours didn't have similar convictions? The best thing to do is carry on with your life and keep vigilant over your own children as I am sure you would do anyway.

LeftieRightsHoarder · 02/12/2025 12:03

You are right to be concerned. People convicted on child pornography charges have basically been paying someone else to commit child abuse. That's as bad as doing it himself. Suspended sentences are an insult to the victims. As long as you are certain that it's him, I'd avoid all contact.

greenflo · 02/12/2025 12:03

Does he have children? If so I wouldn’t let your child go to play round there.

BadgernTheGarden · 02/12/2025 12:01

Obviouslyneedtonamechange · 02/12/2025 11:59

Oh it's definitely true. I've found the news article.

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I would still check with the police there have been some horrendous mistaken identities around paedophiles.

Duckyfondant · 02/12/2025 12:01

There are a lot about and many aren't known. That's why it's important to act as of there are wrong'uns everywhere when your children are concerned. Teach them to be polite but wary with everyone they don't know well. If the neighbour seems overly friendly, warn him off when the kids aren't about.

user2848502016 · 02/12/2025 12:01

That’s horrible and I would feel the same as you, sadly though paedophiles are everywhere and at least you know who this one is I suppose.
I’d stop being friendly with him though

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Obviouslyneedtonamechange · 02/12/2025 12:00

Mosaic123 · 02/12/2025 11:58

That's awful.

Obviously stop being friendly with him.

Oh we won't be chatting any more, no worries about that. But the sight of him makes me want to be sick.

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Obviouslyneedtonamechange · 02/12/2025 11:59

BadgernTheGarden · 02/12/2025 11:58

Do you believe the person that told you and how do they know? I think you can find out for certain ask your local police station how to check.

Oh it's definitely true. I've found the news article.

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BadgernTheGarden · 02/12/2025 11:58

Do you believe the person that told you and how do they know? I think you can find out for certain ask your local police station how to check.

Mosaic123 · 02/12/2025 11:58

That's awful.

Obviously stop being friendly with him.