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I feel terrible, taken out of school for Lapland UK

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MummaHud · 02/12/2025 07:15

I’ve taken my daughter out of school today she’s 5 for Lapland UK. We don’t have a lot of money and her brother was born extremely premature last year and she missed out on a lot of things because of it.

she’s the kindest soul, she’s really clever and she’s just amazing.

im not justifying anything as id never take my child out of school, but we won VIP at Lapland UK.

an experience I’d never ever consider looking at usually and its not an experience I can turn down.

my daughter has 100% attendance, I’m worried what the school will do? I’ve been honest and she will be back tomorrow.

am I a bad mum? 😭

OP posts:
Mummyof2andthatsenough · 03/12/2025 18:49

Based on this situation I'd go as far as to say you're actually a fantastic mum! Experiences are just as important as education and its important to find the right balance!

ADRV · 03/12/2025 18:44

You’re an amazing mum. Never doubt yourself x

Mcoco · 03/12/2025 18:42

I work in a school and loads of kids with SEN needs are getting tickets and missing school. You are a fantastic mum and she deserves to go. Worry when she is in secondary school getting ready for gcses but not at five!

Judecb · 03/12/2025 18:41

No, you are a wonderful, caring mum! She deserves it. I'm so tired of the suggestion that very young children and their parents should be penalised for missing a few days of school. At this age it really doesn't matter. I hope you had a wonderful time!!

Videooooo · 03/12/2025 18:39

Oh my god so dramatic! She’s FIVE! It’s no big deal. Have fun.

Carpedimum · 03/12/2025 18:37

Not at all; hope you all have a lovely time!

hcee19 · 03/12/2025 18:36

You are a great mum, just wanting to do the best for your little girl. Stop worrying, all will be ok

Jack80 · 03/12/2025 18:35

They will understand

DuchessofSuffolk · 03/12/2025 18:32

Go on the once in a lifetime trip. They’re only little once. Sometimes memories are more important than an 100% attendance record

Wynter25 · 03/12/2025 18:32

Youre a brilliant mam. They wont do anything x

IhateBegonias · 03/12/2025 18:30

No! Of course not. I hope you enjoyed yourself.

Doubledenim305 · 03/12/2025 18:30

Bet her primary teacher would have done the same🤣 and headteacher 🤣
Would be absolute madness not to go.
Enjoy 🎉🎉🎉

Dawnb19 · 03/12/2025 18:28

Enjoy your trip. Family time is just as important as school. Especially as you've been through a lot.

GlobalTravellerbutespeciallyBognor · 03/12/2025 18:25

If asked, maybe it would be good to be able to let the school know that you have shown your D on an atlas where you live and where you are going, in order to turn it into an ‘educational geographical experience’. Have a wonderful time OP.

Blablibladirladada · 03/12/2025 18:21

Gosh what a horrible system to make parents feel bad because they offer this kind of things to their child(ren).

I assume you don’t win Lapland every term? If not, you are good to go and please enjoy! One day off of course mean she didn’t get the info but I am sure it also happens when she dreams away as it happened to us all so…no guilt here. Build your memories!

Sassylovesbooks · 03/12/2025 18:18

No. Don't beat yourself up over it. Your daughter is 5, she isn't going to fall behind because of one day off school. If you were taking her out for a 3 week holiday, then that might be a bit different, but you aren't. Enjoy your day!!

Pineapplecolada1 · 03/12/2025 18:11

I’m a headteacher and I’d say go!!!! It’s very unlikely you’ll be fined for an absence less than 3 days

HalfasleepChrisintheMorning · 03/12/2025 18:10

No, and no idea why you feel bad.
I took my son out for a week to go to Disney in year 5.
His education hasn’t been affected!

GabGab123 · 03/12/2025 18:09

Have the best day!!!! You sound like an amazing mum. Making memories which will last a lifetime!

CopeNorth · 03/12/2025 18:06

Enjoy!

Cinderred · 03/12/2025 18:04

MummaHud · 02/12/2025 07:15

I’ve taken my daughter out of school today she’s 5 for Lapland UK. We don’t have a lot of money and her brother was born extremely premature last year and she missed out on a lot of things because of it.

she’s the kindest soul, she’s really clever and she’s just amazing.

im not justifying anything as id never take my child out of school, but we won VIP at Lapland UK.

an experience I’d never ever consider looking at usually and its not an experience I can turn down.

my daughter has 100% attendance, I’m worried what the school will do? I’ve been honest and she will be back tomorrow.

am I a bad mum? 😭

No you are not , you are a good Mum. You have given your daughter a wonderful experience that will stay with her. When she thinks back on Christmas she will remember the magic of that. It will barely affect her attendance . You did the right thing. I would have done the same as a mother and I’m also a teacher.

i wouldn’t have even told the school I was going either

Onthepage · 03/12/2025 18:03

No it’s a great opportunity and something you will all enjoy. Just don’t make a habit of it as it sends out the wrong message to the child ie school
isn’t important. A good education is invaluable and one of the most important gifts you can give your child for the future

Fredthefrog · 03/12/2025 18:02

The school probably won't care. Hope you all had fun

Mabiscuit · 03/12/2025 18:02

When my DS has the dentist, we'll get lunch and then play laser tag afterward. His attendance is almost 100%. I'd definitely take him out for a day out like that, they're rare days they'll remember.

SusiQ18472638 · 03/12/2025 18:02

I would judge you more for making her go to school instead of the VIP Lapland uk experience to be honest! 😂

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