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FFSgetagripoldlady · 02/12/2025 01:09

Posting here for traffic. My insomnia is back. I'm wide awake, stressed to hell, have an early start tomorrow and three full on weeks before the end of term.
I can't take any more time off.
Hints? Tips?

OP posts:
Bookloveruk · 02/12/2025 02:33

I put a mindfulness app on or a mindfulness one on YouTube. That helps me a lot.

Shimmyshimmycocobop · 02/12/2025 02:20

I'm having a bad bout of insomnia having just moved into a new house on Friday which is full of issues and my mind will not stop!
Alarm is going off at 6 😖 all the usual remedies not working, just had a small bowl of cereal which has worked in the past.
I use promethazine to help me stay asleep but by the time I remembered it tonight it was too late and didn't want to feel too groggy. Hope everyone manages some sleep.

blenny23 · 02/12/2025 02:09

AutumnLeavesFallingFast · 02/12/2025 01:15

Me. I think we need to ask thise who are asleep! 🤣

fucking annoying isn't it!!

I had a few months of my 'restless legs' shit buggering off but it has started up again this past week, so that's helping loads 🙄🙄🙄😩🙇🏻‍♀️

I can highly recommend magnesium glycinate for restless leg syndrome!

Justyouwaitandseeagain · 02/12/2025 02:03

I'm here too! Mind racing about work, kids, Christmas. Feel a weird mix of over-stimulated yet isolated as I work from home, DH doesn't want to talk and kids constantly need stuff. I find being up in the middle is the only time I get peace and quiet and can do bits for myself without others joining in / wanting the same / interrupting or needing something.

DysmalRadius · 02/12/2025 02:03

I listen to podcasts - Boring Books for Bedtime is really soporific. My son also learned from a friend that if you need something for your eyes, to try and blink 250 times in a rhythmic manner (he does it along with the ticking on his clock). He has never made it past 50 apparently (disclaimer - I'm up as revenge procrastination because I've got more jobs than time, not because I can't sleep, if that counts for anything! 😁)

FFSgetagripoldlady · 02/12/2025 02:00

I've got a meeting with my manager and HR in the afternoon. I've made an appointment for counselling via employee assistance programme - no idea what that will look like.
I'm on mirtrqzapine, which had cured the insomnia. Been on that for nearly 3 years. Medicated for depression for 11 years. I think I'm starting to have anxiety as well, that's why I'm not sleeping again. I feel worried and that's new. Probably peri as well.

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Autumnpumpkin5 · 02/12/2025 01:55

I keep waking up too in the middle of the night but every alternate day. I’m now actually out of bed, brushed my teeth and had tea with two buttery toasts. I will watch TV for two hours and then will go back to bed and few hours sleep. But will sleep like a baby tomorrow. This sleep pattern is so weird. If I just lay in bed and my mind wouldn’t stop thinking at all. I’m planning to do some exercise a day and this is practically missing from my day to day life.

RocketNan · 02/12/2025 01:53

I think GPs can prescribe some sort of antihistamine that makes your drowsy @FFSgetagripoldlady Does your school have any support packages like online GP appointments? Ours does, through VivUp.

Flatandhappy · 02/12/2025 01:51

No wonder you can’t sleep with the HR thing on your mind, that sounds stressful.

It is lunchtime here in Sydney so I am supposed to be awake. I never sleep more than a few hours at a time though since cancer so I sympathise. Panadol osteo works for my restless legs.

Silverblue1985 · 02/12/2025 01:51

Me! DH snoring away downstairs and the cat soundly asleep next to me, but neither want to share their secret!
Struggling with reflux (sore throat) since I’ve stupidly had tomato sauce for the first time this year on Saturday and Omeprazole hasn’t kicked in yet / it needs time for the throat to get sorted again. Also my brain being in overdrive.
Think I’ll go back to my book in a moment.
At least I don’t need to get up early as WFH, but office later this week where I need to leave at 6.15am and won’t be back until gone 8pm.
Hope you all get some sleep eventually!

KookyPinkHare · 02/12/2025 01:50

Hot water bottle?
Try and remember all the things you worried about in the past that never came to pass?
Things generally work out.

FFSgetagripoldlady · 02/12/2025 01:48

For those saying about being active. I have let this slip. I know I've gained a bit of weight as well. Not eating properly, blah. I look about 300 years old as well.
I was wondering if the GP would do sleeping pills to carry me through. I usually listen to an audio book but it's not cutting it just now.
Solidarity with you all!

OP posts:
BethBynnag86 · 02/12/2025 01:48

RocketNan · 02/12/2025 01:40

@FFSgetagripoldlady I am wide awake. I’m getting on average 2 hours sleep a night. I look wretched. Just ordered some magnesium and I’m going to try taking that to see if it helps. Nothing else seems to.
People who work in schools are amazing and never get enough thanks for their hard work.

I've been taking Magnesium for about 3 weeks now.I was going to ask if anyone on here found that they were helping,but realised that those people would be asleep😂

GaIadriel · 02/12/2025 01:43

Lifting weights is pretty much the only thing that consistently knocks me out. I've had a week off as work's been really busy and been doing a fair few 13 hr days, and I've actually been sleeping worse despite getting in earlier.

BethBynnag86 · 02/12/2025 01:42

Littlejellyuk · 02/12/2025 01:30

I'm normally asleep but can't settle, as I need a wee, then after I've been, I'm cold again and take ages to warm back up 😔

Yep,and that's another problem I forgot to mention!

RocketNan · 02/12/2025 01:40

@FFSgetagripoldlady I am wide awake. I’m getting on average 2 hours sleep a night. I look wretched. Just ordered some magnesium and I’m going to try taking that to see if it helps. Nothing else seems to.
People who work in schools are amazing and never get enough thanks for their hard work.

BethBynnag86 · 02/12/2025 01:39

I'm here.
I remember those nights OP and I truly sympathise with you.I don't know what the answer is.

For me, it got worse the nearer I got to retirement ; on average I was completely awake all night for an average of 3 or so nights a fortnight; the rest of the time I wouldn't drop off until about 2-3 am. The mornings in teaching primary were a hell of a lot longer and more paced than the afternoons and l kept going on adrenaline until lunchtime when the lack of sleep from the previous night kicked in.Tired,restless legs never helped and I just spent the nights lying in bed stewing over things,probably because I hadn't had much chance to have a decent think about anything during the course of the day.

Now it's like this nearly every night.I was just discussing this again with DH before coming to bed.I try to get as much fresh air as possible, try reading and have had limited success with audio books and soothing music.At least now I can catch up on my sleep later in the day,but that in itself creates a vicious circle. Before I came back on here and saw this thread,I had the light off but was lying there thinking about the Christmas grocery order!Wish I could learn to switch off !

Ohpleeeease · 02/12/2025 01:39

FFSgetagripoldlady · 02/12/2025 01:35

Worried about kids, money, health, family. The usual shit. Have an HR meeting tomorrow, which is going to be difficult. Embarrassing as a client has complained about me.
Might have to get up. House is cold.

Is your bed warm OP? I can’t sleep unless I’m toasty.

Bayroot1 · 02/12/2025 01:37

@FFSgetagripoldlady Do you have a warm dressing gown?

FFSgetagripoldlady · 02/12/2025 01:35

Worried about kids, money, health, family. The usual shit. Have an HR meeting tomorrow, which is going to be difficult. Embarrassing as a client has complained about me.
Might have to get up. House is cold.

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Ohpleeeease · 02/12/2025 01:35

FFSgetagripoldlady · 02/12/2025 01:27

Thanks for the suggestions! The box breathing usually works but it's not tonight. I'm so worried about tomorrow afternoon at work, so that's not helping.
Podcasts - shall look. I am finding that I need to keep my eyes occupied otherwise I spiral.
Happy to talk to folk!

In that case how about a tablet game like solitaire, FreeCell or that Bejewelled one? I often tap away on one of those whilst listening to something else, it unscrambles my very scrambled head.

Bayroot1 · 02/12/2025 01:35

I am but only because I laid in this morning as I've been poorly (bug)
To get to sleep I play a game in my head. I find a topic...say foodstuff....and think of as many beginning with A until I run out. Then B and so on. Anything can be a topic. Places,actors, bands etc. Monotonous and works. Also listening to rainsounds. It's all about distraction.

Floatlikeafeather2 · 02/12/2025 01:32

KookyPinkHare · 02/12/2025 01:24

Try square breathing: breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, out for 4 seconds, hold empty for 4 seconds. It's really effective if you give it long enough.

I've done that lots of times and then suddenly discovered my mind has gone off on a wild gallop down some new avenue, all on its own. Perhaps I've got another, secret, brain I don't know about.

Littlejellyuk · 02/12/2025 01:30

I'm normally asleep but can't settle, as I need a wee, then after I've been, I'm cold again and take ages to warm back up 😔

annonymousse · 02/12/2025 01:30

I'm awake. I've injured my knee and can't get comfortable. No more pain killers due for ages either. If it wasn't so awkward and painful I would go downstairs and get a cup of tea.

I've been told if you can't sleep you should get out of bed for a while and go to a different room. Stop trying to force sleep. When you go back to bed it's a fresh start. That's maybe not practical though when you have work in the morning. 🤔