DP putting his foot in it when meeting my friends for first time

So he’s a sleazy drink driver?
You must be desperate…..

No, he is NOT a good man. I don't even think he's a man. He's a loutish lad with poor taste, poor manners, no respect for women and zero social graces.

Family values? Have him trot that factoid out in front of your mum, perhaps? Or his mum? Or your father or brother? See how "good" they think he is.

Raise your standards urgently.

Ooh…a sleazy drunk driver 🤷‍♀️ what’s not to like?

I mean, a mature and decent man would be able to respond in a variety of ways:

"yes, I have fond memories of those post-lunch naps"
"we like to ride around and look at all the lights"
"Christmas celebrations can be exhausting; need to rest up for New Year's Eve"
"In my family those who don't cook clean up, so I'm usually stacking dishes in the dishwasher as I'm a dreadful cook, LOL"
"We take the dogs for a good long walk"
"My grandma wouldn't let us nap, so we'd be sure to fall asleep quickly later that night."

I mean, the possibilities for a polite, neutral and adult response are ENDLESS. And yet this clod rushes right in with "Oh really? MY ex used to let me have a rim job on Christmas."
Who the actual fuck has a thought process such as that? A loser, that is who.

Even without the rim job, who the actual fuck talks about their previous (or current) sex life with a stranger at a social event?

Either he's 14 or he's past all hope, frankly.

What’s a ‘respectful job’? And do his ‘family values’ include telling one of his girlfriend’s friends, the first time he meets her, how his ex used to rim him as an after-dinner Christmas treat? Is this something he would discuss with his family?

Shoe-horning chat of a rim job into a conversation with an unsuspecting woman (and also a friend of his girlfriend) is such a shining example of good values, OP. I can see why you think he's such a catch...

Very well said @B1anche

It is sad that you still think there is much to think about @Lurker25. How low is your opinion of yourself that you think this bloke might be good enough for you ?

So your poor friend said she always falls asleep early on Christmas Day and he said he's used to getting rimmed then because that's when his ex would 'allow it'? That's really not an innocent foot-in-mouth mistake that someone blurts out when they're nervous.

Honestly this bloke just sounds more scummy with each update.

Yea, dunno about anyone else, but i always talk about getting rimmed when im nervous 🤣🤣🤣🤣

So imagine you meet one of his male friends for the first time and in a totally unconnected conversation you tell him that your ex liked a bit of muff diving after Christmas dinner. How would your bf feel about that?

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10 months? Hes not a partner hes a boyfriend, Ive had blackheads longer than this. Get him gone, hes so weird.

You can just say @Lurker25.

It seems telling that you're reluctant to name a sexual act on an anonymous forum that he's raising with friends of yours on first meeting.

A hand job?

And this is him in the honeymoon period.

Do you really want a boyfriend you can't take anywhere because he's sexually inappropriate when meeting people?

Ick.

Raise your standards, drastically. What would anyone see in an immature person like him, who can't even make decent adult conversation with new acquaintances? What if he did that in front of your family or your co-workers? Bet your dad would be impressed.

And again, this is early stages when presumably he's trying to impress you. Imagine what he'll be like when he starts taking you for granted.

So he got anal twice a yr? And told your friend that? Classy.

Your bar is low

The fact that you think people are being extreme is very telling. Stick with him if that's you want but remember this...each time you accept this kind of behaviour, you are telling him that it is ok. It will not get better over time. If you don't mind being humiliated by someone who supposedly loves you, then crack on.