DP putting his foot in it when meeting my friends for first time

oh no, no, no, no. Not even remotely acceptable or excusable behaviour. Your friends must be wondering how to tell you your SP is an absolute creep.

I would really need to know context as on its own it sounds weird and creepy.

Discussing anal with strangers is weird, but discussing rimming is just vile, who does that?!

However this does sound like the deleted thread a while ago about a rusty trumpet…

It may have been mentioned already but aside from the very valid comments made above, this isn’t really “putting his foot in it”.

Putting his foot in it would be telling someone he didn’t like a cake and then finding out that person baked it.

This is just him being him.

That’s also driving over the limit! Nope.

100% back in the late 80’s when I started working in The City, inappropriate sexist ‘jokes’ and behaviour was the norm. We tolerated it because to speak up almost certainly meant losing our jobs. Most of us always hated it and shuddered at the vulgarity on display.

Thank god times have changed and women can and do challenge misogyny and sleazy men. And also thankfully these men are fewer in their numbers.

I'm getting visions of those milky way star chocs.
Aye because talking about rimming comes up all the time when meeting others for the first time.
Creep!

Oh Lord! Bring back the laughing emoji - if ever a comment deserves it, it is this! Hilarious...

Agreed.
I think this is why MN is such a weird space these days and class is a persistent topic in society.
He's the dregs. Women that tolerate such men have low desperate non standards, and they can't really be surprised when it doesn't end well with such oiks.

Of all the times to be in close proximity to someone's arsehole, shortly after eating Brussel sprouts would be near the bottom of my Best Time for Rimming scale.

I interpret that as "he has money and is considered a catch, so I will put up with just about anything on the off chance of riding the gravy train."

If you think it's "uptight" to refrain from talking about sexually licking an anus to brand-new acquaintances; specifically how one's ex used to lick one's own anus as a Christmas treat, I'd hate to know what you DO think is pleasant social conversation.

Proudly upright, here. I subscribe to the saying "Sex is like money. People who really have it don't need to talk about it."

The minimising happened sooner than expected.

A couple of pints and driving? That is not ok.

Talking to a woman you barely know about rimming is your idea of jovial?

I am in my sixties. This has never been an appropriate thing to do. It’s not some “new feminist woke culture” idealism. This man is GRIM.

HofuckingHo.

It may have been done and resented quietly back when sexist misogyny ruled, but it's wildly inappropriate to talk about rim jobs to women you are meeting for the first time unless you're a fucking pervy creep.

Now we recognize men who do those things for exactly what they are, nasty creeps.

A jovial chat about rimming? In response to a woman you just met talking about being tired? What kind of nerves make someone bring up rimming with their girlfriend's friends? It's totally weird and really not something anyone says out of nerves!

My God people are so uptight these days ! The joke about getting a blowjob on Christmas and Birthdays is as old as the hills .. I’m 65 fgs and would just of laughed it off. He was probably nervous around new people and trying to be jovial !

Och be quiet

Erm…

I am bemused. Seriously…honestly if he couldn’t recover from this with my friends…that would just kinda be the end…

and my thoughts…I don’t know. I just don’t think I have ever heard a discussion about what kinda of sex someone had with an ex from someone I met for the first time. It isn’t just an impression…he was deliberately sharing info no one asked or would have guessed to make him look good I guess? And that is why I would just not…even if my friends found it funny…

but then. How old are you guys? 20ish are just wild sometimes. Doesn’t scream keeper anyway.

It might be nothing, but it is worrying- decent men just don't overshare like this, especially about their ex.

Tell you what, when you meet his mates, announce randomly that your ex boyfriend used to have such a massive cock you sometimes thought you’d need an episiotomy to get it all in. Oops, foot in mouth.

See how your respectful family values boyfriend reacts to that. Should tell you everything you need to know.

Deluded
good men don't talk about rimming with a woman they just met during a conversation about Christmas Day
Still, crack on and we will no doubt see you a few years in when you wake up to reality - and it won't be pretty

Yes, you’re right, grammatically, but the context of this suggests otherwise.

If a person 'allows' something, surely it's an act being performed on them.