DP putting his foot in it when meeting my friends for first time

So, unprompted he is talking to the female girlfriend of his new partner about having sex with an ex?

Either he’s hitting on her or he’s got no radar whatsoever on appropriate behaviour and doesn’t understand social norms.

Either way, this isn’t going to go anywhere. Throw him back.

I’d be really disappointed as the relationship would be done for me

The man is revolting. What kind of disgusting specimen thinks it's appropriate to talk to new people like that or in fact ever say anything like that to his girlfriend's friends?

How could you ever relax in company with him?

I'd have got rid the second I was told what he'd said.

The first time he meets your friends and his go to conversation topic is sex with his ex.

I mean, as moves go, it’s an original one. And also really really bizarre.

Yes, I’m not sure I’d see the point of a man whose idea of conversation with the friends of someone he presumably loves is ‘Hello, let me reminisce about my ex who used to let me do anal at Christmas and birthdays’, just so they can all imagine him grunting away in his comedy socks.

It sounds like this was something she didn't enjoy, but he was willing to do it with someone conceding for a special occasion rather than enthusiastically participating? Red flag.

This. It’s really grim actually.

It sounds like this was something she didn't enjoy, but he was willing to do it with someone conceding for a special occasion rather than enthusiastically participating? Red flag.

Drinking and driving - it should be over immediately, no one should get behind the wheel after two pints.

He brags about sex acts to people he's just met and should be trying to make a good impression on. He sounds gross and pathetic in every possible way.

Oh great. A pervy drink driver. What a catch.

Wowser. Creepy. Run.

That's not him putting his foot in it. He's told a woman he doesn't know - a woman who's your friend - about his ex-girlfriend's sexual practices. That's demeaning to every woman involved.

If you stay with him you know what you can expect in the future - absolutely no boundaries, sleazy talk, making your friends uncomfortable and sorry for you, and getting angry with you when you object. You'd have to be crazy or desperate to stay with him.

This. Plus being a sleazy pig. I mean… do you really need to ask?

This, too!

Putting your foot in it equates to getting someone’s name wrong or laughing at an inappropriate moment. This is a foot with a billowing red flag atop it.

Have a read on the women’s aid domestic abuse and how to spot the red flags for it - things like this are major red flags

Bin.

Plus he shouldn't be having 'a couple of pints' if he's driving. No, chuck this one back, he's a dickhead.

Men always say it was nerves when they’ve been caught acting creepy.

I think he fancied your friend and was trying to impress her and was hoping she’d join in talking about her own shenanigans. He’s weird and creepy.

I'm sure you will have a nice christmas as a singleton op. Your christmases future won't be great if you stay with him

If the sex act was with you and conversation was going that way after a few drinks, maybe it’s forgivable.

But to talk about what him and his ex used to do together in a conversation where he is actively trying to be on his best behaviour and impress your friends is such a massive red flag as to what he’s like with his own friends or when not on best behaviour…..

Fuck me, he is bringing up sex acts with his ex in conversation when meeting your friends for the first time?

What is wrong with him? there are thousands, nay, millions of topics to talk about with people you've only just met and none of them involve talking about sex acts with your ex.

Whats he going to talk about when he meets your parents for the first time eh?- is he going to tell them what you like to do in bed?

Good grief, this is a huge red flag. Something very wrong here.

There’s not a single reason for him to have made that comment. He’s a creep.

A bloke or a woman for that matter, talking about sex acts the first time.meeting someone is always going to be hard work. You'll be in edge in mixed company before long.

So totally unprompted. If this is the kind of thing he's saying to your friends as soon as you're not listening god only knows what he's saying to other people when you're not around at all

And in your place? I'd be completely weirded out. So many men apparently think it's OK to talk to their partner's friends about sex. It's really not. It's ick-inducing.