DP putting his foot in it when meeting my friends for first time

Discussing sex acts with your friends and drink driving… your bar is so low you’d have to be a limbo dancer to get under it.

You don't think driving after consuming alcohol to be an issue? Dear Lord, raise your bar from its current subterranean location - drink driving AND sleazy conversation? Signa et terminos - standards and boundaries...

He's possibly testing the waters and seeing what reaction he would get from your friend. Could be his clumsy way of trying to flirt and bring sex in the conversation.

Definite red flag.

The thing is, he barely knows you, let alone them, and yet he was willing to make this crass and woman-devaluing “joke” when he presumably would want to be making a good impression.

Imagine how coarse and oafish he would be when he really gets comfortable? And imagine how he’d talks to the “lads” about YOUR body & bodily functions?? He’d be the type, after you give birth, to describe sex as “throwing a sausage down a hallway.” Mark my words.

One has to wonder what sort of person raises a man to be this way.

Sounds like he slipped into show off with the lads mode. Ick.

Comedy socks got me 😄

I'd be having a serious rethink 10 months in.

Also your friend didn't think this was an awkward moment - story gone wrong. She told you what he said because it raised red flags for her.

Yes, we did. Exactly same responses too. Not sure if it's all just made up fantasy, or OP is still seeking advice about whether to stay with a weird partner of 10 months or not.

Drink driving and making weird, out of context sexual comments to your friend?
Good luck 🙁

This makes NO sense, she was saying how tired she is at the end of the day & he said how his ex used to allow him to do y.

Even he isn't going to think this would impress her!

@Lurker25 10 months. I have cheese older than this. Get rid now, this demonstrates a complete lack of social awareness that I could not live with. Quite apart from him meeting YOUR friends & talking about sex acts with his ex!!

Repulsive! How could he possibly think it’s ok?

what did he say, “my ex always gave me a Christmas night blow job?” or similar?

Bin this low-class oaf.

Absolutely not! Throw him back!

Embarrassing partners aren't talked about enough I feel. They fly under the radar compared to abusive types but they disrupt your life in other ways by making your friends fear visiting you.

Try telling the police it’s not an issue / he’s over the limit on a couple of pints.
So he’s a drink driving creepy sleaze - what a prince he sounds

Oh, he drink drives as well as being sexually inappropriate with your friends. Have you blocked him yet?

Didn't we have this exact same thread a few months ago ?

Either way, I agree with most other replies. this is not a man I'd want to spend anymore time with.

Nope. He shown who he is, I’d show him the door. Bin.

So she said at Christmas afternoon she was that full she didn’t want to do anything and he said at Christmas afternoon they had a specific sex act

I can see how he got the but it’s a case of read the room and know your audience

an old close friend who you have banter with on this level yes
someone you’ve never met before NO

All types of wrong - who gets nervous and introduces sex with their ex into a conversation let alone a conversation with their current partner's friends that he is meeting for the first time.
If he was nervous at an interview for a new job would he introduce that type of conversation then? no of course he wouldn't because it would be completely inappropriate just as it was with your friends.
if he was applying for a loan at the bank and was nervous whether he is going to get it or not would he introduce that topic of conversation to the bank manager male or female? no he wouldn't because it's not appropriate.
it was disrespectful to his ex, to you and your friend,

I don’t think you can infer that his ex didn’t enjoy it because they only did it on special occasions. Maybe they both liked to save it as a treat? Maybe she liked it sometimes but not regularly? Maybe she enjoyed that he found it pleasurable? We don’t know or need to know what went on with him and his ex in the bedroom which is precisely why he should’ve kept his mouth shut. It’s wholly inappropriate that he shared this but doesn’t mean it was coercive or sinister.

Why have there been so many threads lately about new partners making gross comments to the OP’s friends?

Sounds like he was trying to impress your friends too much! Maybe he was trying for a threesome.

You’ve posted this before. Why the need to keep repeating this story?

Yuck. That is sleazy behaviour.

What the fuck did he say?!