DP putting his foot in it when meeting my friends for first time

Well at least she knows what a treat she’s got in store after her Christmas dinner…….

OP: Would you give him the benefit of the doubt if he’s otherwise been a great partner? Or do you think it’s a sign?

Everyone: Steer clear! Huge red flags! He's a sleazy pervert! No normal person would bring up the subject of rimming with a complete stranger!

OP: I couldn’t care less.

Oh no, instead she has doubled down on his amazing values and what a prince among men he is

It does sound a bit ick. Where exactly did he put his foot?

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Why would he say this?

My worry would be that he is hunting for a new g/f who shares his preferences, and so I have to add my vote to those who say "move on" - unless of course this is what you have been looking for.

Hi ,what ROFL mean ?

I so wish MN had a ROFL Emoticon

Oh no noooo now I have that disgusting image in my head.

Thank you very much (not!)

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So would most people. But not OP...

I would actually break up with someone for that.

I can’t remember exactly but it was something to do with a DH telling OP’s friends that they do that together. It went on and on for ages about their sex lives, turns out it was all fake and got deleted

I am scared to even imagine what that thread involved

@Imdunfer wouldn't be on my list of things I must try/do.

So many times when I am out and about I see beautiful young women who have obviously spent time and money on their appearence being largely ignored by the scruffy tracksuit wearing oik they are with . I know that its whats inside that counts but these girls have made such an effort and the boys they are with have not and are barely clean
Makes me sad

Not the point of the thread, but this has really given me the giggles!

"Near the bottom..."

I see what you did there, @AquaForce 👌

I had to l look it up and thanks to Ann Summers I am now fully educated on the subject, except for being as baffled as you as to why anyone would put their tongue into someone's rectum no matter how much they loved them. A million quid wouldn't do it for me!

It adds new meaning to the expression "eat shit", which is clearly how the OPs charming boyfriend views women.

Sad.

To me, that is a sign of a woman with abysmally low self-esteem.

Don't get me wrong, I can understand the appeal of bad boy / sleaze for a one night stand or a weekend. But to actually take such scum around friends and family, or to consider them worthy of an actual relationship? No. And OP's Butthole Boy doesn't even sound worth a sleazy shag. I'm sure he'd be a real prize in bed.

Unfortunately there are women who do not like what you have described, My oldest friend for example loves neck tattoos, shaved heads , facial scars, guys that look like they could start a fight with a dead animal 🫣. She hates guys with posh accents (her exact words) and guys who are too nicey nicey (again, her words).
I wish I was exaggerating, but I'm not.

Giving or receiving?

Does anyone but me remember when men aspired to be suave, gallant, worldly, sophisticated, considerate, couth, gentlemanly?

"Hi, nice to meet you, Evvie has told me so much about you. Thanks for joining us tonight! May I get you a drink?"

now it's "Oi, my ex used to suck my butthole for Christmas! Cheers!"

Who the actual FUCK is raising men to be like this, and why on earth are young women with two brain cells to rub together not only tolerating it but making excuses for it? In the not-too-distant past an oafish, unmannerly, misogynistic clod like this would have been bounced out of the room so fast his head would spin. Never to be welcomed again.

Apart from being an embarrassing, clumsy, pathetic perv, the problem here is why he thought your friend would be interested in that information.

Can you imagine what the ex-girlfriend endured, if he was stuffed with Christmas dinner, flopped on the couch and spread his legs expecting her to lick his anus? After a full day of eating and drinking? It doesn't bear thinking about! I bet he didn't even wash first!

Who on fucking earth would be lonely and desperate enough to service someone like that?

So she mentions being full and he mentions rimming?

He’s a gross pervert.