DH kicking off as I want to uninvite DMIL/DSIL from Christmas Day

It's a bit annoying but you can't seriously be considering going no contact with them for farting too much?

Of course farting is natural, so is defecation & urination.

In a civilised society, all 3 should only take place in a toilet

Really grim - like sharing your home with a pair of medieval peasants. Nobody wants to smell the contents of someone else's bowel in an enclosed space.

Absolutely disgusting for two grown women to sit breaking wind in someone else’s home like two; two drunken dockers; quite how your husband finds it acceptable is beyond comprehension; I’m totally with you about Christmas just the thought of having them there would make me feel sick; do you have other family visiting ? Your family maybe if so I’d forewarn them & ask them to voice their disgust as early in the day as possible in tge hope they pack up & go home through sheer embarrassment as for your husband would he be happy for you to start breaking wind whilst he’s sat watching tv with you & for the children to be rolling around laughing at it… it would ware thin very quickly it’s not an attractive trait so why us it acceptable for his mother & sister to do it in your home… it isn’t it’s gross & so very wrong

Just giggle with the children. Your children will completely understand when and where it is inappropriate to fart.

It's fucking grim behaviour, and just so disrespectful.

For goodness sake, passing wind is perfectly normal - on average it’s 15 times a day, but the range is 5-40. If you have dietary intolerances or swallow air when you eat it or have other GI issues, it can happen without any warning.
Just grow up, laugh and open a window or blame it on the dog.

Could you text and say something you know that Sunday’s roast upset their stomachs- what would be better for them at Christmas?

You can still prepare what you want for the rest of your family, but if certain foods/seasonings set them off, they can tell you and you can make sure that certain dishes don’t include them.

What utterly disgusting and disrespectful people. Yes, it might be hilarious 'once' but continually? Come on. Kids do stuff like that, not grown adults. Maybe ask for a list of their “intolerances” going forwards. Christmas Day however, I’d be lacing all their food with laxatives if it was me…at least all “farts” will be in the bathroom!

Op has said they behave when at a restaurant so clearly they have an element of control, unless we are led to believe they only ate non fart causing foods

You are being somewhat unreasonable, although that most definitely doesn't excuse tgeir stupid rude behaviour.

As adults they should be aware that whether they have "control" of their "gastric actions" irrespective or not, they should still at least try to behave in a polite and civilised manner and excuse themselves when it happens and not simply ignore it as if it's their god given right to do so.

Have you not encountered this problem before now when they visited you in your flat?

Would they fart at the pub too?

It's only farting! I wish that was the only issue with my in-laws!

Yuck that is gross and really bad manners. However I think uninviting them is quite extreme. Could you say to your DH that you find it gross and you genuinely find it upsetting. I think it's fair enough. It's not like they're committing a crime but it's just a different set of behavioural standards/manners. Like you, I would be grossed out if house guests did that. Fine in their own home but it's your home as well as their son's. I think it would be fair enough for your DH to ask them if they'd mind going easy on the farts or popping out of the room to let rip.

I’m sure your shit does stink but tell him the difference is you don’t inflict the stench of the contents of your bowels in polite (or in their case, any) company!

So let’s say there’s a host and they make mac n cheese for the main course, with a side salad, knowing that their guest can’t eat cheese. When the guest arrives the host just says “yeh well that’s your responsibility, youll just have to have the salad wont you. Not my fault you’re lactose intolerant!”

Do you genuinely think that isn’t really insensitive, exclusionary and dismissive behaviour?

Not really, when you’re a guest in someone’s home, albeit family, you have to take responsibility for your diet and the consequences if you don’t.
OP, do they let rip if they’re having a pub lunch or in a restaurant or cafe?
DH might think it’s okay but you don’t, and what example is that to your kids, how would you feel if the kids behaved like in public?

Agree @ThatBlackCat but then look at all the Aunt Margaret’s on here scolding op for not doing what husband and his family want and all the names she’s been called! bloody batshit!

Yep, you horror @Christmasdayissue forcing these fragrant delicate beings to your home, insisting they stay! Making them eat your food! Oh the humanity!!

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So what if they are self diagnosed? That doesn’t mean they aren’t real. You clearly have no regard for their digestive issues. I wonder if they were fed up of you including food that they’re intolerant to when you cook so have done it deliberately to get back at you.

It is totally disgusting, I agree with you on that. And you deserve better from your DH. But if you add wheat flour to gravy when they don’t tolerate gluten, or add butter to the vegetables when theyre lactose intolerant (just examples), then this is also not ok. I do kinda think they may have been Revenge Farting.

I have to keep reminding myself that this is 2025. The amount of weak women that cave so easy to their financially abusive and otherwise abusive husbands leaves me astounded. My husband would be sleeping in the fucking gutter right now if he even dared say 'I pay more in the mortgage so that enables me to get my way'. Wtf is wrong with women and wives, and where did feminism go? The urge to bitchslap the shit out of any man who would dare say such a thing would be so strong. I wouldn't stand for that shit. Not even women of the '80s or '90s would. Women have regressed so far, they really have. It's like they have no dignity or self respect. Any man who made that mortgage comment to me? Would be sleeping in the gutter forthwith and would have a letter from my solicitor filing for divorce the following Monday. And I am not kidding!

Oh for goodness sake, I'm sorry, but you're being a fool. You need to stand your ground. This is what really pisses me off, wives who give up so easy 'for a quiet life'. The price is just too great. Get some self respect, get hold of your ovaries (female equivalent of balls) and make a stand. Your husband basically said he pays more for the mortgage so as a male he has more rights. Did that not get your back up and make you want to spit fire? Do you honestly believe that you can go NC with them after Christmas? Are you really being serious with yourself? Your husband is a vile financially abusive pig. And you really need to nip this in the bud @Christmasdayissue . Right now. I think you're delusional if you think you 'do this Christmas then go NC'. No. It's not going to be that easy. Lance the boil - right now. I knew you'd give in, because 95% of women on this site do give in to their husband's threats and manipulations. But this is really sad. It does not have to be this way. They do not have to be at your house on Christmas day. And I bet you'll cook Christmas dinner, right? I'm cringing for you, I'd say fine, they can come but I NOT cooking dinner, you 'dear' husband will cook dinner and don't think I will give in because your parents will not be eating if you don't cook. Please, ffs, pick up your ovaries and your big girl pants. This is 2025 not the 1940s. Think of what example you are showing to your children.