Unhinged text from school mum, wwyd?

Agree, shes sounds Chavtastic and like she's targeted you, possibly bc of the Park stuff and now your her in her sights ...it really feels like she's channeling her anger into this on a different level. And looking for a scapegoat/ victim.
It's the ' your dirty/ a bad mum ' and ' I've told my kids not to sit with yours'

Also how the other mum said ' she's not getting invovled' surely that's code for ' I've heard her go off about you enough all ready and I'm siding with her '
This is a personal attack and what you should be concerned about. There's a level of stoking something up that shouldn't be ignored, incase now she's found a target and she's looking for a fight/clash/intimidation exchange.

I would either send her a neutrally toned, but firmly worded response with some illusion to a vauge authority being involved if she was to carry on.

' hi Sandra, the nit outbreaks can be pretty gruesome but mine are checked regularly so that hasn't been a issue for us so far, as they are nit free.
Have to say that wall of text was alot,
In an already stressful time, so have had a word to with the school welfare team ( insert some relivant safe guarding scheme)
About escalating this should it carry on.
My kids are well looked after, I know this time of year is extra stressful, but I'm not open receiving abuse like this under any circumstance, especially as we haven't had nits in our house this term I don't appreciate this being unfairly aimed at me or my children'

And or consider moving

you need to go no contact as she's likely a sociopath. I'd raise it as a safeguarding issue though, her poor children

Report that to the police and consider the future of your child in that school if they think that is normal from a parent that from someone mentally unstable . The minimum the school should be doing is offering protection to your children

I’m sorry this has happened to you. I wonder what the world is coming to. This week I had a young Mum scream abuse at me at the dog park because my dog crowded her dog trying to get in the gate (something I didn’t see). First thing I was aware of was her screaming from the other side of the enclosure, she had a young child with her 4 or 5 yo, screaming foul language, she walked off screaming then came back 10 mins later and started screaming again, this time worse. She called me a fat bitch and told me to get off my fat arse and go back to my own country (I am from the UK but now live overseas). It was a horrible experience and left me shocked so I know how this has probably affected you. I tell this story as I think somehow it may help to know that you’re not alone, this seems to be becoming the norm now. It’s a sad fact. I hope you have support and I hope you’re doing ok now. x

I recall that if a child was found with nits, the specific childs parents were told discreetly and then a generally advisory went out about nits without naming names.

That being the case, I would respond to the message explaining that you have never seen nits on your kids despite checking regularly but would expect that at some point it would happen as its just part of life and they are most common in young children due to frequent head-to-head contact.

Explain that you have not been advised by the school your child had nits so you don't know where this has come from unless she was just sending a round robin.

Stay factual and don't drop to her level.

I think her group of friends needs to see this text! She is completely nuts and horribly aggressive.

Personally I would tell her to fuck off and block her number. Some things just need a clear and direct message.

Block her, she's unhinged.

She comes across as volatile and angry, not mentally unwell or psychotic in the slightest. I’d not be happy she has your contact details so I’d simply block her and breathe a sigh of relief she will no longer to able to message you. It’s not a nice message to receive but no authority has any role to play here at all. Feigning concern to other people about the woman’s mental health hasn’t done you any favours- the other mum was correct to tell you she wouldn’t be getting involved.

I’d absolutely report that to the cafcass team and the police
be open and honest about it.

My word she's definitely unhinged and has no self control! Unfortunately there are parents like this who cause so many problems for everyone else. There's no way you can reason with this type of non founded disillusioned aggression other than make others aware and avoid, as you're doing. She will find her next drama very soon. Xxx

1. Your kid doesn't have nits
2. She's unhinged but that's her problem not yours

Just block her and forget about it. You can't reason with people like this.

Really ????
You think that’s good advice !!!
Why would OP draw her on her .
She’s clearly aggressive, Avoid & ignore at all times .

Would love to see the context because theres obviously other text messages between you two before she goes off on one...

Are you really bothered by this message 😃 That's nowhere near 'psychotic breakdown ' Haha!

1. She’s deeply unpleasant.
2. Block her
3. The school will have completed a safeguarding document over this so it is logged.
4. Reply. Cease and desist/ Do not contact me again. Screen shot her message and yours.
5. You can register this with the police. They won’t do anything but it’s a record.

Class whatsapp - Name no names. "Hi All. Just to say I've had a text this week from one of this group, using some very unpleasant language, accusing me of not being a fit parent, and also accusing my child of giving someone else's child head lice. Just for the avoidance of doubt, my child has not actually ever had head lice, although as I understand it there have been a few cases in the class, and it's a pretty normal occurrence in a primary school. I have logged this text with the appropriate people, just in case of an escalation of this behaviour, but asked them to take no further action at this time, as I am sure it was just someone having a bad day, and that there will be no repeats."

OP says her solicitor has advised against this.

She’s mentally unwell, however her mental state is not your problem. Write official email to the school, report to police and let her know. She will look for another victim soon

Bits and nuts 🤣

Changing your phone number is a massive ballache. Why would it force you to ignore? Cliche?

I'd have just sent her a thumbs up emoji to tip her right over the edge. 👍

Clearly its abuse and harrassment but what could you do about it? Police may or may not be interested or do anything. If they did it could stir up more trouble. That leaves a civil case for harrassment but if it has only happened once then its not a pattern. You dont want to cross paths with the court case as it could have implications. Keep it seperate and keep the school mum issues out of it.

You could reply and try and de-escallate and make nice with her - be the responsible calm one. This is the best option. You need all your energy and focus for the court proceedings

I agree the school should know. It's all very well to say the school can't control the behaviour of crazy parents, but they need to be aware in case it spills out into school, with kids picking on each other.

I wouldn't engage directly with this woman, just block her.

This! 👆🏻

I’m sorry you received that. It’s a horrible thing to read but honestly, she is having a massive meltdown and it’s not about you and completely about her. It’s a shame the school sounds like they’re being really unsupportive. I wonder if she was using substances at the time because that’s not the action of a sound / sober mind.