Unhinged text from school mum, wwyd?

As a now adult with naturally blonde hair that message to me reads like a mother who has just spent HOURS combing her kids hair I unfortunately got nits a lot in school and can remember how stressed out it made both my mother and me. She is overwhelmed and has behaved appallingly and taken it out on you. Block her number, avoid her at pick up and go on with your life.

Wow thats really worrying. I would find it hard to ignore especially if you have been threatened.maybe show police. Does she drink? Maybe she was writing it after a few?
She is very misinformed though as lice like clean hair and especially long hair.( cant believe people still believe its down to dirty hair)

See how she is next time you see her. If still abusive then I would look into moving your kids. And expose the message on group WhatsApp.

Coming online is not gonna help. Its only one side of the story, we don't know what has transpired before. You already mentioned that her and her group of friends have already ostracised you. Obviously you have had ongoing issues before this and we don't know what you really did that you are not telling us. The fact that people close to you are advising you to let it go, it might be a polite way of them telling you, that you are not innocent either and you may not come out of this unscathed when everything is brought into the limelight by the police case...

Someone sent you an abusive message. They sent the message in very bad language. If you are in a minority group, it is also discrimination.

You have cause for complaint to the police. You could also ask the EASS, the Advisory Service of the ECHR for their opinion if you think it is racial abuse.

Contact the local department of health. If a child has head lice - and if one has it, it is a pretty safe bet that they all have. They need to be notified, and if this accusation is untrue, they may be able to help you deal with this thoroughly nasty person. She probably cannot resist attacking someone. Perhaps you are this month's victim?

If it is any consolation, head lice are attracted to clean heads. They feed on the blood. The nits are eggs laid on the hair strands.

There is a children's book called ''Head Lice from Outer Space'' written by a mother going through the same.

Pissed up or coked up perhaps

In the picture in the OP her reply says 'neither of my kids has nits'.

Another annoying thread with one opening post and then silence from OP.

Did you tell her your child didn't have nits?

It’s a really horrible message. But I do understand her frustration. My DDs are dual heritage with thick, curly, long Caucasian/African hair. They had nits at least four times. It’s not just the hair though. It’s pressure steaming all the pillows. Boil washing all bedding. Spraying anti nit spray on my children’s hair every morning. Sadly everybody at the school knew the family that were causing the continual infestations. It was awful for the children. One parent was threatened when they raised it with the Father. When another parent raised it with the Mother she said they’d all be ‘getting a bath’. I eventually just had enough and reported the family anonymously to social services. It simply was not fair on the children to be stigmatised the way they were. Shortly after the children had several weeks out of school and I expect some form of intervention and hopefully education was afoot.

Or report her to the police for harassment? This isn’t something you should allow to continue in front of your children!

She sounds off her rocker. I don't think the police would do anything though unless she threatened to harm you and even then they'd probably just have a word with her and ask her not to do it again.

I would be having words with her in the playground 😉

Sure you would. 🙄

Shes nuts.

The school and the other mum who 'didnt want to get involved are wimps. This is an issue for the school. Parents should not abuse other parents or encourage their children to pick on other children. She's pretty much admitting that her children have nits, which is ironic. I would be asking her to ensure that she is washing everything to reduce the risk of passing them on. I would stand firm over this. If she then threatens you further, then go to the school again and the police. As an aside though, are you sure that your children don't have knits? I was fairly certain that mine didn't when they were going around my daughter's class as i was inspecting her hair daily. However, when i used a knit comb with conditioner, i did find several, even though no signs of eggs. They tend to hide behind the ears and the nape of the neck. I would also be tempted to raise the issue that your children are being discriminated against and that having special needs does not equate to being dirty. Aleo point out that nits go for clean hair and suggest whe ties her daughters hair up.

Very classy woman… I think nits are the least of her poor kids worries!

Sorry I'm not much help because I'd have made sure she was meek and mild every time she saw me at the school gates from then on. Nobody would be speaking to me like that or talking about my kids like that. Thinking she's Billy big balls. I wouldn't stand for that personally.

Your local mum friend who isn’t getting involved…well just wow!

This is why I can't stand dog people anymore. It's all gone too far. They're insufferable bastards. I don't mean dog owners, I'm one myself. I mean Dog People™️ a very particular set of annoying arseholes that think their dogs are human children and will do anything to get attention for having them.

£50 says this isn’t a London school. What a vile parent.

Speak to the school, if you haven’t already. That language is not acceptable from another parent. If it was my school they would’ve spoken to the rude parent. Ask the school why she is blaming your daughter? I don’t think they would’ve told other parents who originally had the nits.

Please avoid that parent and her friends - they don’t sound nice.

This is perfect 😂😂😂😂

A message like that would have me taking off my earrings and putting on breathable clothes and timberland boots!! Obvs, the next day after she has sobered up, that is just nasty behaviour on her part and in my attire minus the earrings, I would be calling her out at the school gate once the children were in. Fucking keyboard warrior cunt, calling children dirty and dumb ... really?

It is a horrible message.

You should not have responded. At all. When people are abusive, don’t engage. Your message about ‘are you alone with your kids’ sounds weirdly goading. Why is that your business? Is it faux-concern?

You should not have contacted another mum. I read the message of “I’m not getting involved” as something which might reflect on you as much as the other mum.

Despite sharing an actual screenshot of the message sent, you seem not to be sharing other messages sent between you and this mum, such as the one where she hopes you fall down the stairs (the closest to an actual threat you have received).

Given that I think there is a lot not being shared here, and probably shouldn’t be, now you have shared a screenshot of the actual text here - if you are concerned there is a genuine risk to your daughter or yourself, you need to let school safeguarding and leadership know. They should take it seriously. If you are known for falling out with other mums, troublemaking or sending abusive messages yourself, they will be more inclined to see it as ‘six of one, half a dozen of the other.’ It isn’t a school’s job to manage adult women’s relationships. It is their job to safeguard and look after children.

Totally agree. Someone upthread said she’s ‘obviously’ got ‘severe’ mental health problems. Absolute rubbish! Have these people got any idea what severe mental health problems actually are? What she ‘obviously’ is is vile and abusive.

Agree! Too many people get away with this type of behaviour and need calling out on it...who cares about being the "bigger person" and rising above it!! Don't let her get away with it!