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Which one of these parents would you judge more

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Cantbearsedtosortthoseelvesout · 30/11/2025 21:38

Or think of as a crappier parent?

Child A-6-Always dressed immaculately in new clothes, new toys, hair beautifully done, wears make up a fair amount and mum & grandma spray perfume on her, has a mobile phone-‘Just’ with games on and adult Youtube. Child swears, calls people fat or ugly and laughs,

Or

Child B-6-Scruffy, often without shoes, clothes with paint or food down them at weekends, unbrushed hair, mainly at weekends, baths once per week

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Cantbearsedtosortthoseelvesout · 30/11/2025 21:43

Not the children, the parenting

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Cantbearsedtosortthoseelvesout · 30/11/2025 21:42

One is my child, one judges my child and I feel the same about them tbh!

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NormasArse · 30/11/2025 21:42

You haven’t described the character of the second child like you did with the first.

Does that child choose not to wear shoes? They must have some if they aren’t always without shoes.

notacooldad · 30/11/2025 21:41

If they weren't my kids or children my kids wanted to hang around with I wouldn't bother judging for various reasons

Thaimonstera · 30/11/2025 21:41

Why??

Kleeneze · 30/11/2025 21:40

Cantbearsedtosortthoseelvesout · 30/11/2025 21:38

Or think of as a crappier parent?

Child A-6-Always dressed immaculately in new clothes, new toys, hair beautifully done, wears make up a fair amount and mum & grandma spray perfume on her, has a mobile phone-‘Just’ with games on and adult Youtube. Child swears, calls people fat or ugly and laughs,

Or

Child B-6-Scruffy, often without shoes, clothes with paint or food down them at weekends, unbrushed hair, mainly at weekends, baths once per week

First parent much worse. Children are supposed to do things that gets them dirty. Children closer to nature = happier kids. Make up on kids always makes me think of that appalling dad who beat his child to death. Make up on kids is just fucked up.

RaininSummer · 30/11/2025 21:40

They both sound awful in their own way.

3luckystars · 30/11/2025 21:39

I don’t judge anyone but I have never seen a 6 year old wearing make up? Did I read that properly ?

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 30/11/2025 21:39

Do we have to judge either of them? What do they have to do with each other?