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Which one of these parents would you judge more

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Cantbearsedtosortthoseelvesout · 30/11/2025 21:38

Or think of as a crappier parent?

Child A-6-Always dressed immaculately in new clothes, new toys, hair beautifully done, wears make up a fair amount and mum & grandma spray perfume on her, has a mobile phone-‘Just’ with games on and adult Youtube. Child swears, calls people fat or ugly and laughs,

Or

Child B-6-Scruffy, often without shoes, clothes with paint or food down them at weekends, unbrushed hair, mainly at weekends, baths once per week

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NaranjaDreams · 30/11/2025 21:52

It’s too obvious that child B is yours.

but to be honest, I’d judge neither naturally, and if pushed, I’d judge both. I let my kid get dirty because he loves it and it’s good for him; but he knows he has to get clean afterwards. He showers and brushes his teeth and ahei every day.

popcornandpotatoes · 30/11/2025 21:52

I judge both. Child A more probably

Matronic6 · 30/11/2025 21:51

Parent of Child A. Absolutely no need to give a 6 yr old a device.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 30/11/2025 21:51

Cantbearsedtosortthoseelvesout · 30/11/2025 21:47

Feet can’t be damaged having no shoes on in the house and garden

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Bathing once a week and wearing scruffy clothes is setting her up with bad habits for life.

DarkForces · 30/11/2025 21:51

A 6 year old dressed up like a beauty pageant contestant or an urchin from Oliver? It would make a great storyline for a musical. Both kids need a good wipe and child b needs shoes.

Arghhhhggggggggggg · 30/11/2025 21:51

Cantbearsedtosortthoseelvesout · 30/11/2025 21:38

Or think of as a crappier parent?

Child A-6-Always dressed immaculately in new clothes, new toys, hair beautifully done, wears make up a fair amount and mum & grandma spray perfume on her, has a mobile phone-‘Just’ with games on and adult Youtube. Child swears, calls people fat or ugly and laughs,

Or

Child B-6-Scruffy, often without shoes, clothes with paint or food down them at weekends, unbrushed hair, mainly at weekends, baths once per week

I dunno, is child B neglected or are they neurodivergent?

Barrenfieldoffucks · 30/11/2025 21:50

Both sound pretty crap in different ways.

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Cantbearsedtosortthoseelvesout · 30/11/2025 21:49

Itsmyshadow · 30/11/2025 21:47

So child B is yours. Why aren’t you making them wear shoes or brushing their hair. If they get so mucky why are they only bathed once per week?

Hate’s having her hair brushed, at weekends at home, I let it go a little, obviously done for school and a real battle. Hates having a bath too, isn’t dirty obviously on body

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CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 30/11/2025 21:48

Both children sound poorly parented, in different ways. I wouldn't want my kids to be friends with either child, quite honestly.

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Cantbearsedtosortthoseelvesout · 30/11/2025 21:48

Rosamutabilis · 30/11/2025 21:46

They are all crappy parents in different ways, based on the limited info you've given.

No shoes( all the time or just indoors, obviously makes a difference?)and bathed once a week child seems like their basic needs are not being met but what is their day to day life like, do they have enriching activities or stuck on a screen?

Child A is being given inappropriate activities for their age and is already exhibiting the results of lax no boundaries parenting.

No screens, only tv sometimes

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Cantbearsedtosortthoseelvesout · 30/11/2025 21:47

EmeraldShamrock000 · 30/11/2025 21:46

So she is allowed go around scruffy, possibly damage her feet permanently, because she is strong willed? How will she survive in life.

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Feet can’t be damaged having no shoes on in the house and garden

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Itsmyshadow · 30/11/2025 21:47

So child B is yours. Why aren’t you making them wear shoes or brushing their hair. If they get so mucky why are they only bathed once per week?

Holliegee · 30/11/2025 21:47

I wouldn’t really judge either parent but if I were friends with child As Mum I think she perhaps a very organised person who is very appearance driven and would probably meet her for coffee in a posh coffee shop.

if I were friends with child Bs mum, I imagine she’d be very down to earth, and allowed her children to have fun she perhaps isn’t so much into appearances and what other people think and I suspect I’d be sat in her kitchen drinking coffee and laughing

tinytemper66 · 30/11/2025 21:46

I would hope I wouldn’t judge either of them. No one is perfect. What about you?

ItsDarkNow · 30/11/2025 21:46

Presumably you are the parent of child B.

TheThingsYouDoForLurve · 30/11/2025 21:46

Both.

Parents of kid B needs to get them in the bath a bit more regularly.

Parents of kid A need to let their kid be a kid.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 30/11/2025 21:46

Cantbearsedtosortthoseelvesout · 30/11/2025 21:44

They choose not to and get annoyed over it
This character is strong willed, doesn’t like listening to parent

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So she is allowed go around scruffy, possibly damage her feet permanently, because she is strong willed? How will she survive in life.

Rosamutabilis · 30/11/2025 21:46

They are all crappy parents in different ways, based on the limited info you've given.

No shoes( all the time or just indoors, obviously makes a difference?)and bathed once a week child seems like their basic needs are not being met but what is their day to day life like, do they have enriching activities or stuck on a screen?

Child A is being given inappropriate activities for their age and is already exhibiting the results of lax no boundaries parenting.

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Cantbearsedtosortthoseelvesout · 30/11/2025 21:44

Eyesopenwideawake · 30/11/2025 21:43

Don't make people judge between children who have no agency over their lives.

What is the point of this thread?

Apologies, I meant the parenting style

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Cantbearsedtosortthoseelvesout · 30/11/2025 21:44

NormasArse · 30/11/2025 21:42

You haven’t described the character of the second child like you did with the first.

Does that child choose not to wear shoes? They must have some if they aren’t always without shoes.

They choose not to and get annoyed over it
This character is strong willed, doesn’t like listening to parent

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TheaBrandt1 · 30/11/2025 21:43

Surely there is a middle ground?!

Eyesopenwideawake · 30/11/2025 21:43

Don't make people judge between children who have no agency over their lives.

What is the point of this thread?

EmeraldShamrock000 · 30/11/2025 21:43

Both extremes, there is a healthy middle ground.
Neither is good parenting.

PenelopeSkye · 30/11/2025 21:43

Neither sound great. I’d need more info though- especially on Child B- this could be a happy carefree child who climbs trees and gets muddy and chooses to go barefoot. Or a neglected child who genuinely doesn’t have shoes, and clothes are dirty/hair untidy because no-one is bothered to look after their basic needs.

CoffeeLipstickKeys · 30/11/2025 21:43

Neither, your post make no sense you’re probably going to do a drip feed about child A and B. Is B your child? What’s the backstory