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My cleaner wants to bring her baby to my house…

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That80show · 30/11/2025 21:37

Evening all,

My cleaner (she has only been once before) has a 8 month old baby and has called today to say that her child minder is no longer available to look after him so could she bring him on Friday when she cleans my house. She said that he won’t be of any bother as he will just sleep…

As a mum of a baby of a similar age I know just how demanding looking after a baby can be and highly doubt he will sleep for the 3 hours that she is at my house.
i know she has a husband but maybe he is working that day so is unable to look after their son.
On the one hand I feel bad because I know how difficult it can be to juggle motherhood and work so I was tempted to say well bring him just this once but that I won’t accept it on a regular basis.
On the other hand I can’t see her being able to focus on cleaning my house properly which I really need as I too have a young family and busy with work.

Am I being totally unreasonable in saying no I’m sorry this isn’t going to work?

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rwalker · 27/01/2026 08:38

No because it probably would be fine at the moment
but it will become the norm and it won’t be an immobile baby for long

Zoec1975 · 27/01/2026 08:18

That80show · 30/11/2025 21:37

Evening all,

My cleaner (she has only been once before) has a 8 month old baby and has called today to say that her child minder is no longer available to look after him so could she bring him on Friday when she cleans my house. She said that he won’t be of any bother as he will just sleep…

As a mum of a baby of a similar age I know just how demanding looking after a baby can be and highly doubt he will sleep for the 3 hours that she is at my house.
i know she has a husband but maybe he is working that day so is unable to look after their son.
On the one hand I feel bad because I know how difficult it can be to juggle motherhood and work so I was tempted to say well bring him just this once but that I won’t accept it on a regular basis.
On the other hand I can’t see her being able to focus on cleaning my house properly which I really need as I too have a young family and busy with work.

Am I being totally unreasonable in saying no I’m sorry this isn’t going to work?

Absolutely not,how can she predict what the baby will be,it could be crying all day long and you paying her for bits of work and she can’t do it all.she needs to find a child minder or take the day off.

Hoppinggreen · 03/12/2025 09:51

Pryceosh1987 · 03/12/2025 02:39

It sounds like your cleaner may need a nanny. I would accept her request and see how things play out. If the cleaner does well even with the child there, make it permanent, but if not then its time to deny the request.

Why?
OP wants her house cleaned and there are plenty of people who will do it without a baby in tow.

Pryceosh1987 · 03/12/2025 02:39

It sounds like your cleaner may need a nanny. I would accept her request and see how things play out. If the cleaner does well even with the child there, make it permanent, but if not then its time to deny the request.

Lavender14 · 02/12/2025 23:10

Marble10 · 30/11/2025 22:22

Is it a one off or permanent? It’s hard out there for mums, but it wouldn’t be acceptable to bring a baby into the office because no childcare.

Lots of workplaces do facilitate this depending on where you work, my office colleagues have their kids in all the time as have I and same in previous places I've worked but then its community sector. It depends obviously on the vibe and culture as well as safety.

I think it's unfair to suggest she won't be able to do the job well, if I was in her shoes I'd be paying double attention to make sure you couldn't say anything wasn't up to scratch.

outerspacepotato · 02/12/2025 22:18

That80show · 01/12/2025 15:25

Update!
I asked the cleaner again if this would be a one off or would it be a regular occurrence? She said it would be regular until she finds childcare

I would find someone else. You're paying to get a job done that you don't have time to do yourself. She's been changing the goalposts with days and now wanting to bring an 8 month old after only doing one clean and leave them in a pram for 3 hours and then she has to rush off to another job? That poor baby. She's confirmed she'll be bringing her kid and there will be no childcare except possibly you. She's unreliable and this is not an appropriate or safe situation to have a baby in. Pretty soon that baby will be wanting to cruise and then walking.

Is she working for a company or on her own? Is she insured and bonded?

Whatsthatsheila · 01/12/2025 19:23

That80show · 01/12/2025 15:25

Update!
I asked the cleaner again if this would be a one off or would it be a regular occurrence? She said it would be regular until she finds childcare

Hard pass…

new cleaner

Gymnopedie · 01/12/2025 16:21

and now wants to bring her baby with her when working until she organises childcare.

Which I suspect would be the twelfth of never.

WellOrganisedWoman · 01/12/2025 16:03

I’d be moving on. She’s done one clean, hasn’t stuck to the day agreed and now wants to bring her baby with her when working until she organises childcare.

Iocanepowder · 01/12/2025 15:33

That80show · 01/12/2025 15:25

Update!
I asked the cleaner again if this would be a one off or would it be a regular occurrence? She said it would be regular until she finds childcare

Jesus. And assume you’re not her only client on Fridays. Poor kid. A PP was right in guessing she didn’t actually have childcare at all on Fridays.

I would try and find another cleaner tbh and say you’re not comfortable with this arrangement.

VikaOlson · 01/12/2025 15:26

That80show · 01/12/2025 15:25

Update!
I asked the cleaner again if this would be a one off or would it be a regular occurrence? She said it would be regular until she finds childcare

What's her actual plan for the baby while she's working? Strapped in to a car seat for 3 hours or roaming around?

That80show · 01/12/2025 15:25

Update!
I asked the cleaner again if this would be a one off or would it be a regular occurrence? She said it would be regular until she finds childcare

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Cyclebabble · 01/12/2025 15:08

Iocanepowder · 01/12/2025 10:59

This is not op’s problem. She is paying for a service.

In most other professions, no way in hell would we be allowed to have our baby with us while we work.

What you say is true. It is not her problem. However, I know that for people on the bottom rung of society getting childcare at a rate that makes work viable can be hard. My cleaner used to bring her son with her when he had holidays. He was a charming young man and played quietly. I accept though all children are not the same.

youwillneverknow · 01/12/2025 12:11

SAHM of 3 here, with a weekly cleaner. It would be a hard no from me and cheeky for her to even ask. You cannot clean for 3 hours whilst looking after an 8 month old. The cleaning won’t be done properly or the child will potentially be unsupervised for periods of time. Neither of those situations are good. Based on your recent update, she sounds highly unreliable to be honest, and I’d say you’re better off trying to find a new cleaner.

25percentoffeverything · 01/12/2025 11:58

PInkyStarfish · 30/11/2025 22:24

No, it’s completely unprofessional. You cannot bring your baby to any job.

that's just not true. You can't make a final statement about ALL work places 🙄

It's not common to say the least, but let's not pretend it's not happening ever.

Hoppinggreen · 01/12/2025 11:45

PInkyStarfish · 30/11/2025 22:24

No, it’s completely unprofessional. You cannot bring your baby to any job.

I agree
Its ok people saying be kind and help another mum out etc and as a one off I might allow it (I have before with a cleaner who had an older child) but your cleaner is there to do a job and its not one she can do while looking after a baby - its why a lot of people with young children get a cleaner in the first place. Then there is the safety aspect of it.
Don't let anyone guilt you into this if you don't want to allow it OP

AlohaRose · 01/12/2025 11:42

So she’s been to you once before and has already changed the day that she can attend three times?! Now she wants to bring a baby with her? I’m afraid it would be a no from me, many years of experience with cleaners has taught me that if they start off badly, it only gets worse! Good cleaners are worth their weight in gold and I’ve always treated mine well but I don’t think this situation is going to improve.

Moonlightfrog · 01/12/2025 11:41

I think as a one off it is fine but let her know it’s a one off. I don’t see a huge issue as long as she gets the job done to the same standard.

Megifer · 01/12/2025 11:37

Would be a no from me. SAHM often share how they cant get anything done when looking after a baby so I cant see how she'd be able to do the job she needs to do in the hours she has.

(Not a snipe at SAHM btw, I'd have never had a solid 3 hours free to clean when my DC were that age either)

Iocanepowder · 01/12/2025 11:27

My personal experience op is also generally you risk this happening again as your cleaner comes on Fridays. That is the day some chilminders would tend to take off in comparison to other days of the week.

Whatsthatsheila · 01/12/2025 11:23

Nope. If something happens to baby whilst in your home I would be concerned that the liability would somehow lay with you.

i wouldn’t hold it against her for not being able to clean this week if she can’t get alternative childcare but she cannot bring the baby

Iocanepowder · 01/12/2025 11:19

Are you able to offer her to come on a different day? Just for this week?

VikaOlson · 01/12/2025 11:15

opencecilgee · 01/12/2025 11:13

Chemicals?

🤣

Yeah, you know those things that are in cleaning products that are bad for you when inhaled?

Feelingsunny · 01/12/2025 11:14

Does anyone think this was the plan all along? The cleaner has only been once and suddenly no childcare.
By the way - people commenting as if Op is the employer. She isn't, the cleaner is self employed and Op has no employer responsibilities.

opencecilgee · 01/12/2025 11:13

Sartre · 01/12/2025 11:10

Definitely not. She’ll be distracted and won’t do a great job, plus the chemicals are dangerous. An 8 month old is a far cry from a newborn.

Chemicals?

🤣