Neighbours have decided that myself and NDN park some of our cars in another street to make it fairer for everyone. AIBU to ignore the request?

I did assume given the space issues we were talking somewhere central yes.

"So would living in a tiny bedsit in a crime-ridden area"

Still measurably good for people to do so, I'd stick my children in those situations given the chance. But thats just me...

I think if you do this and your NDN doesn't then you'll soon get pissed off with it.

Basically you're going to be leaving one car somewhere else all the time and shuffling round, just so your NDN with 4 cars can use that space instead.

I do think 3 and 4 cars per household all parking on the street is excessive though and if there is an alternative you should use it, so well done for coming up with a solution.

These posters never tell us anything about money….maybe yet another thing that never happened!

So would living in a tiny bedsit in a crime-ridden area, but that doesn't mean that most people yearn for resilient independence of that kind.

It also rather depends on what public transport provision is like in your area; a lot of city-dwellers often assume that everywhere has as functional PT as they do.

Is complaining neighbour proposing measuring out the two spaces that they want to allocate, or is it based purely on number of vehicles?

Considering that young drivers tend to only be able to afford small cars, whilst many older drivers have larger vehicles, for all we know, one household could have a massive camper van and a LWB works van as 'their' 2 vehicles, whilst they are screaming "Selfish!" at the house next door with their 3 Aygos!

Considering that the complaining neighbour who deliberately lumped two households together for drama purposes was saying that everybody should be allowed two spaces, it coukd only ever have been one house with 3 cars and the other with 4.

If it had been 5 and 2, or 6 and 1, the neighbour's complaint would presumably have borne more weight to ignore the household with only 1 or 2 and focus on the single house with 5 or 6.

Public transport will make you a much more resilient independent adult than expensively insured cars….

in my opinion. And one I can back up.

They have one car per adult. Do you really assume that every adult who has their own car never walks anywhere?

This is literally a public forum for discussing things. Anything anyone says, is open for fair comment. Otherwise don’t type it.

Whilst you have every right to park where you like, your neighbours are pleading with you to be considerate to others. I think I would at least try.

Parking is a huge issue half my town is made up of Victorian mill workers terraces and I know there are absolute parking wars like this all the time down those roads.

Really it’s a public highway and the op can park like this though it’s annoying. Many people have misread her op. My friend lives on a road where they never park any of their 3 cars or workplace van on their 2 car drive, no access issue. Now that’s infuriating. It’s a big house with 4 adults in, no idea what their thinking is but that is a valid complaint.

It would cause mayhem but imagine if you could buy the space on the road outside your house annually. Not just a permit the actual space.

3 cars is a lot but less crazy than the 5 or 6 I initially thought it could have been. Your proposed solution for your DC to alternate parking in the car park is a good one. You sound like a thoughtful neighbour.

This is a fantastic solution and you are a great neighbour.

Could you come round and have a word with the person from the bottom end of the estate with the straight-through exhaust who roars up and down the road past my windows for me 🤣 ?

Presumably you pay the same amount of council tax as everyone else, you aren't entitled to a disproportionate share of the use of public land. In a better world the council would sort this out with a proper residents' parking system (capped to two permits per household, or at least if you want more than that you need to pay for it), but this seems like a reasonable thing for the neighbours to ask for informally otherwise.

Personally I don't see why drivers should get free use of public land to store their property for 16 hours+ a day full stop though.

In an ordinary residential area (particularly one where people can afford to buy cars for schoolchildren!) a 17-year-old should be able to walk five minutes in the dark perfectly safely. It's unusual for a kid to drive to school and most have to walk more than half an hour, be it directly from school or from the railway station or the bus stop.

With that amount of cars they likely don't walk anywhere

Where did OP say that this was the scenario for them, though?

It could just as easily be either her petite teenage DD not having to walk there/back in the dark each day in winter or a neighbour's 30yo rugby-playing massive mate who very occasionally visits them not having to walk in the dark now and again.

Elderly retired people tend to have much more time and freedom in the daytime, so usually much easier for them to do their errands whilst younger people are out at work and then grab a parking space for the night before the others get home.

YABU - unless you all have blue badges.

This is all part of being a good neighbour - yeah you don't like walking but I assume neither do they. Honestly, getting on with your neighbours is worth so much, ours have been amazing during an unexpected crisis and I love them so much.

Maybe read the OP properly

Speaking as someone who is in this situation, there is nothing worse than getting home late from work, tired, lugging all sorts of bags, exercise books to mark etc all, to find the nearest parking is a 5 mins walk away, especially as most of the residents are WFH. I think you and your ndn are selfish. You do not and should not, out of respect and good neighbourly manners, take up 7(?!) parking spaces.

So you don't want your kids walking in the dark but are ok with neighbours walking in the dark because, you know, you have 7 cars.Fair enough /s

I don’t think 7 cars between two houses is excessive. We have 4 cars for 4 adults here, and both of our neighbours have 3 cars that are used daily.

Two households with 7 cars between them takes up more than a fair share of resources, in this case parking space. The neighbourly thing to do would be for some of your and NDN’s cars to park further away so that everyone has space nearby to unload shopping etc. Personally being neighbourly rather than selfish is a really important value to me but each to their own I guess.

I actually don’t think you should have gone along with it. It’s a ridiculous request.

We are a one (tiny) car household for context.

I doubt the neighbours will want to give them a lift home