Neighbours have decided that myself and NDN park some of our cars in another street to make it fairer for everyone. AIBU to ignore the request?

Yeah, 7 cars between two households is ridiculous. And must be incredibly annoying to the family with one car who can't park on their road due to all those additional vehicles. I completely get their point.
HOWEVER, it's the nature of buying a house without an assigned space or a private driveway.
You are perfectly within your rights to do nothing. But a bit of neighbourly consideration, and perhaps taking it in turns within your own family to park elsewhere, would be appreciated I'm sure!

I do think @Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingServicemakes a good point, with younger people needing to live in their parents home longer to save towards getting their own property, you are going to have more and more properties with 4 or more adults in them, nor just the “standard” of 2 adults. Housing stock built on the expectation of 1 or 2 cars per house (or none for older properties) will have to adapt.

If our DC hadn’t all gone to uni and either took their cars or gave them up we’d have had several more than our drive fits, so I do sympathise. Our neighbours also have older /young adult kids now so our cul de sac is very busy.
You are paying as much road tax per vehicle as everyone else so have the right to park on the street. It certainly isn’t unreasonable for all the drivers to have a car each.
As long as you aren’t putting cones out and are working on ‘first come first served’ then it is fair enough.

Agreed, I apologise :)

Ah my bad, i thought it was you telling posters what they could or couldn't comment on, resorting to insults is not great

I never said anything about it being fundamentally wrong, maybe another pp?

Absolutely they could - none of us on this thread can know.

But it seemed kind of odd to be assuming that they would be dangerous drivers, purely based on their age and/or whom they live with.

Yes, there will be exceptions, but I think it's a good general rule that if you have more cars than you can park outside your own property, then you will be causing an inconvenience to someone else.

I lived in an end-terrace which had been converted into two flats. There were actually SIX parking spaces outside the house and garden, of which my upstairs neighbour used one and I only needed one space sometimes for visitors and deliveries. I didn't object to other people using up four of the spaces. But I don't think it was arrogant of me to not to want to take three or four days off work just to have a sofa delivered, because for the first few attempts the delivery drivers couldn't park anywhere near the building.

In a previous post, I also mentioned how crossing the roads was unsafe, especially for schoolchildren, due to the cars parked on both sides and on junctions, and that on one occasion, a fire engine hadn't been able to get through. I was relieved when a residents' parking scheme was introduced, despite angry opposition from some of the multi-car households.

Spot on.

Neighbour near me has 5 cars. 2 parents, 3x 20-something children of theirs.

They all work - in different places so car sharing isnt an option. Nor is public transport owing to location of workplace/s.

So them using the street is not an issue because if they werent using the spaces, other people would be. Whether the OP has 1 car or 1000, it is not for the other neighbour to dictate where the OP should / not park.

That neighbour is being a precious cunt. End of story.

OP - I feel sorry for the level of targetting you have needlessly suffered.

A neighbour on the street knocked on my and NDN

The reason they included all the cars is pretty obvious really. Sometimes I read MN threads and wonder how some people manage to function in the world.

TBH in the OP's position I may have looked more sympathetically on the request if they'd stuck to point 1 and 3. Visitors' parking is a separate issue, how many visitors for example, and it's really not their place to tell the OP who in the household 'needs' a car.

On a separate but related note. We have a free car park near us which some people used to avoid parking on the street. The landowners have decided they don't like that and have put in a time limit and ANPR cameras, and have started sending out fines.

It’s entirely up to you. They can’t insist. But in their position I would have asked and be very strongly disinclined to be a good neighbour in the future if you rejected my request. Living near other people does require some give and take and if you aren’t going to give, don’t be surprised when people don’t want to accommodate you when you need to take.

Well clearly if there are 7 cars, and the op owns 3 there are 4 remaining.

I dont say me and my ndn have 8 cats, I say I have 3 and she has 5. We are not dependent on each other.

The whole street could be dangerous drivers.

Op and NDN and their families could also be dangerous drivers.

I think my suggestion would apply to all of them. To all of us in fact.

Dh and I have shared a car since we first moved in together. Admittedly a major factor is that he wfh and the children either walk or get a bus to school. But it’s amazing how a family can manage perfectly well with one car with a bit of thought and planning. There has been the (very) occasional taxi ordered and we once had to rent a car for a month when he had a string of face to face meetings but the amount of money we have saved in 16 years is huge!

Where does OP say NDN lives alone?

But maybe the neighbours who also have 2 cars could share cars. Nobody has demonstrated that they are more virtuous in general or that they use their cars 'more worthily' - many of them will just happen to have fewer adults living in their homes.

Incidentally, there's also a housing crisis - so if OP's household own 'more than their fair share' of vehicles, why aren't the neighbours who only have one or two occupants in a house taking up 'more than their fair share' of housing?

I have a car. I also walk and run and cycle and swim. I cannot replace my car usage with walking - grocery shopping, caring for elderly relative, going into the city, socialising.

In a world where we are asked to buy less cars is it not conceivable that you could share the cars? You say you don't go out much in the evening. And walking is so good for you. You'll be less sumo Farah if you walked more.

How do we know that the neighbours on the street who are complaining aren't dangerous drivers?

Maybe if OP's and NDN's households make parking less convenient for them, they'll get rid of their cars and stop being lazy/use public transport instead - then that could equally mean more dangerous drivers off the road!!

Dangerous drivers can be young, old or middle-aged - it isn't their actual age (or housing situation) that automatically makes them bad drivers.

We live in a world whereby -

(1) In many locations life is very hard without one car per adult / driver. In addition some people love cars and might wish to have a second "fun car" for weeknds. This is allowed!
(2) A three child household, with all of them in late teens early 20s and 5 cars in total is not at all extreme in such a location. Arguably 6 cars is normal too - Dad has a Mazda MX5 for Sunday morning drives in the summer ion addition to the SUV he commutes in.
(3) I am not saying it is right, but we live in a world where government has decided that if there are no restrictions and the car is taxed and insured you can park it up and leave it, potentially, for years outside someone else's house.
(4) I would not be parking further away when there is absolutely no guarantee that someone else won't park where I would have and other people still need to park further away and walk in the dark.
(5) If you buy a house and need a car then the cold hard reality is that you need to accept that you need to find the money to buy a house with enough driveway space for all of your parking needs, or you might find yourself having to park some distance away.
(6) Trying to be a bit considerate makes sense, but please don't be a mug - you have as much right to legally park as anyone else, and the number of cars in the household makes no difference. What are these neighbours doing to go out of their way to help you out despite no legal or moral obligation?

Fair enough, then - it's obviously not up to me how you bring up your kids.

Where did the 7th car disappear too?

IMO (and late to the party) If the cars are used everyday then it should be first come first served.
If a car is not being used then it should go somewhere else

I am also wondering how many of the "2 spaces per household" only have 1 car, so it will be left empty unless they have visitors, which is being a CF.