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Expected to look after puppy after surgery

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notmygovernment · 30/11/2025 11:09

My son bought a puppy a couple of months ago, he’s a lovely dog but needs a lot of attention as pups do. I’m at home all day as I’m recovering from surgery and I’m expected to look after the pup while he’s at work. And it’s a lot more exhausting for me than he thinks.

He bought the pup home 3 days after my surgery, I was due home the next day but had complications (I nearly died) and didn’t leave hospital until 3 weeks later. I’m exhausted, I’m on pain relief which itself is making me tired and adding puppy sitting to my life is just unbearable.

Thanks for reading my moan! I sound incredibly selfish but I’ve had enough.

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Wishimaywishimight · 30/11/2025 11:19

Who was meant tobe looking after the pup if ypu weren't at home?

TalulahJP · 30/11/2025 11:15

Does he live with you? Does he work every day? If so why did he buy a puppy he won’t see very much? Whats his plans for after your recovery? Does he know how much dog walkers cost?

A pup will be easy to rehome.

Purplecatshopaholic · 30/11/2025 11:12

Ooft, that’s a no from me. And I love and have dogs - but you don’t get a puppy and then expect your mum to do all the hard work! I assume you knew he was getting the dog, agreed in principle, but have been taken by surprise by the amount of work you are expected to do? Whether you agreed in principle or not, it’s too much work for you, and btw it’s not your job to do! Puppies are hard work. You need to start saying no.

PatThePenguin · 30/11/2025 11:11

I sound incredibly selfish but I’ve had enough.

This is rubbish and you know it is, so why would you type it?

You need to tell him you can't do it and he'll have to make other arrangements.

Justlostmybagel · 30/11/2025 11:10

Tell him he needs to make other arrangements for the puppy. He's being very unfair to you.

rubyslippers · 30/11/2025 11:10

Your son is deeply and horribly selfish

Applesinapie · 30/11/2025 11:10

Say no

snoopythebeagle · 30/11/2025 11:09

Your son is being horrendously selfish and you need to say no.

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