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Morbid question I know, but…How do the police know whose door to knock on if something happens to you?

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Hermanfromguesswho · 30/11/2025 09:10

Inspired by another thread asking what people would assume if police officers knocked on your door and the overwhelming response was to worry that something had happened to a loved one.
Anyone who works in the police…how do you know who is next of kin/emergency contact?
I, for example, am a single parent of teenagers. I live alone with them.
Their Dad lives a couple of hours away. I have parents and siblings, who I am in close contact with but they all live at least 3 hours away and although they know what I do, they don’t know the name of where I work. They know my friends names but don’t have their contact details.
My whole support system here is a couple of very close friends (one is my children’s godparent) and my ex parent in laws (who live locally)
Morbid thought but I worry if I had a serious car accident and was badly injured or killed, how would my children find out? Is there somewhere I can register my friend and in laws as my official emergency contacts as they would be best placed to be with my children, care for them and inform the children’s Dad and my work etc.
I wouldn’t want someone knocking on my Mums door 3 hours away who would be lost and not know how to deal with it all!!

OP posts:
Barnbrack · 30/11/2025 09:13

Next of kin from NHS system?

HelloCharming · 30/11/2025 09:13

I’ve wondered this. I live in quite a small community so there’s a good chance some would recognise my car or me if something happened. And they’d do a search on number plate.

PotatoFan · 30/11/2025 09:12

You could keep an in case of emergency card in your purse or in your phone set up the emergency contact info?

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