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WearyCat · 29/11/2025 20:10

I genuinely don’t know what CEOs, that type of role, people earning over 150K pa actually do. How do they spend their time?

Not whether they are worth the salary. But what do those jobs involve on a day to day basis? All I have is an idea based on films and guesswork. Is it golf? Lunches? Meetings? What sort of decisions are they making? What pressures are they facing?

I’m interested, curious, and I don’t see how I would ever find out in real life because I don’t move in circles where people have that sort of job.

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ItsAWonderfulLifeforMe · 01/12/2025 10:04

(And obviously having all school runs sorted and childcare for every school holiday hugely reduces any stress on him vs others trying to juggle childcare)

ItsAWonderfulLifeforMe · 01/12/2025 09:45

I posted previously about how lucky I am to have a high earning partner (approx 150k max) that doesn’t work crazy hours or weekends. I’ve been thinking about this, it came across as a bit smug and I would to clarify.

What I didn’t say is that I am a SAHM that takes on pretty much every single mental load task / finance stuff / admin/ child associated task / housework task to enable him to work intensively during his hours. He sometimes has time to go to the gym in the day. Just the last week I’ve done loads for the Xmas fair, bought the Xmas presents, sorted play outfits, done all housework, checked up on granny, looked at holiday etc etc the list goes on. Including obvs washing his pants and cooking his meals (mostly although terrible cook)

So for all those power house women on this thread that have the high earning roles and have to do all of the above (highly unlikely that they have a man helping them to pick up all this) or waking up a 4am worrying about Xmas presents or have to sort Rainbows uniform, or worrying if they’ve sorted mufti day I think you are incredible!!! (And I wish things were more equal for you if it’s not currently)

financialcareerstuff · 01/12/2025 09:38

KM123456 · 01/12/2025 05:18

In addition to all the answers here, the higher up you go the less your time is your own: you are expected to be available 24/7. I have seen senior managers take work phone calls while on vacation out of the country. That adds to the stress.

Agree you tend to always be on call…..this is for a few reasons.

  1. the higher you get in management, the more likely your role is knowledge or decision-making based - enabling you to do it from anywhere, and contribute relatively quickly (eg by weighing in on one section of a meeting then dialling off)
  2. you tend to have some kind of ownership stake. That can be literally that you are a shareholder, or your performance bonus rests on your results, or you are directly responsible for clients and/or winning business- which means you work on the client clock.
  3. your work is international- meaning different timezones
  4. There is only one of you. Shift work, by definition is when you have multiple people trained to do the same task. Once you re a CHRO or CEO or the top barrister in your team in a certain area of expertise, you can’t clock off and know someone else is doing your job.

there are rare exceptions to these patterns, like an airline pilot, whose job is so high stakes and high skilled that they are well paid, but still ‘clock on and clock off’ shift style. It is impossible for them to do their job virtually (for now), and there are strict regulations about their rest and time off.

But the large number of high paid jobs fit with the above principles.

However, the aspect of this that is rarely mentioned is the flexibility that comes with this. Even though you are expected to be available always, you are not held to account for your hour to hour presence in the same way. People come in late, schedule meetings around personal commitments (which are often not declared), work from home because they are feeling under the weather or want to pop out to the doctor or a school event for their kid etc….. They have specific pressure points - such as a key presentation, when they really have to be there. But most other things are established by negotiation. The better respected you are and the more unique your skills, the more people will schedule around you.

Most people at that level also have a complex network of responsibilities that cut across departments or multiple clients/companies. This means there is lack of transparency. If you say ‘I can’t do Thursday morning- how about Friday’ nobody knows whether you are having a picnic with your partner, with a different client, or flying to Brussels on Thursday morning…. They just tend to accept it. All this lack of clarity is even greater since the explosion of virtual working.

This is a huge bonus and privilege of this kind of managerial work that is often unacknowledged. It can be a simple benefit that allows you to schedule and balance your life effectively while being committed and effective in your job. It can also be a mechanism for obfuscation- making poor performance and coasting harder to quickly detect. In top management, this would be flagged through results quite quickly. For middle management in big corporations, it’s a lot less clear and there are a good number of people who have worked out how to play the system- do enough to scrape through, turn up to the countless meetings and sound active, while not actually contributing a great deal. Their productivity is pretty poor, compared to people in shift work on far less salary, doing way more valuable things, in far more gruelling circumstances.

I think quite a few on this thread have overemphasized the ‘crucial hard work’ angle of working at this level, probably triggered by the initial post about golf. It is true a lot of hard and high impact work is done, but that’s true at every pay level.

KM123456 · 01/12/2025 05:18

In addition to all the answers here, the higher up you go the less your time is your own: you are expected to be available 24/7. I have seen senior managers take work phone calls while on vacation out of the country. That adds to the stress.

Crushed23 · 01/12/2025 01:30

Christmasagainohno · 29/11/2025 20:13

The higher up you go, the more you have to deal with difficult people. That's pretty stressful.

Meetings, more meetings, planning, budgets, making decisions, interacting with people throughout the organisation, directing. Travelling.

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This.

It’s mainly dealing with diabolical people.

mrlistersgelfbride · 01/12/2025 00:34

My partner earns over 100k (in IT) , not quite what you asked but we are in the NW where that is considered a high earner.

He worked abroad a lot in his late 20s, did a lot of exams and is self taught.

However now he sits watching films and gaming with his laptop on most days , at home, answering queries when needed and has a few meetings each week.
Occasionally (a few times a year now) he will have to get up in the night to sort something out. But it’s a charmed existence (looks like it to me anyway) and he’s lucky.

Endorewitch · 30/11/2025 23:54

WearyCat · 29/11/2025 20:17

Yes but what does the work involve? I’m a teacher. I know what my work involves and I’ve done other jobs like cleaning, admin, bar work, i can see other jobs so I have an idea of what their day looks like. I’ve never been I close proximity to someone earning that sort of money. Even head teachers, I don’t know what they do all day long. I’m not saying high earners are not busy, nor that they’re not worth their salary. But what exactly are they doing?

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It is a pointless question. All CEO,s have different jobs dependencies which area of business they work in. They plan strategy. They make decisions on projects. They network. They supervise They do the things which make a business successful. Playing golf is for the weekend. They have the huge responsibility of ensuring the busines is successful. A very strange question indeed. They wil have different skills and responsibilities sending if they are retail,technical construction ,advertising AI etc

AgnesMcDoo · 30/11/2025 23:25

Lots of meetings, public speaking, media interviews, conferences, networking and lots and lots of pressure. Decisions, travel, stress. I rarely eat lunch and I’ve only ever played crazy golf with my kids.

Franpie · 30/11/2025 23:25

Meetings, meetings and more fucking meetings!

Every year I do a cull and try to clear my diary of pointless weekly meetings that I really do not need to be in but they soon build back up again.

SumUp · 30/11/2025 23:23

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 30/11/2025 22:17

A lot of what is written in these posts sounds like hell to me. The art of management used to be knowing how to delegate. Dies this mot apply any more?

Maybe AI will take some of the stress out of your jobs.

Yes the detail is delegated, but as CEO, you need to have the overview and extract the information you need to make the best decisions. The hours are usually long and the pressure relentless.

Reebokker · 30/11/2025 23:20

I don’t think you need to be a CEO to earn over 150k. Also it’s not uncommon for CEOs to be on many millions.
It is surprising that some people don’t realise how much money some people earn

AGirlCalledJohnny · 30/11/2025 23:12

Marry well

Tangfastic71 · 30/11/2025 23:11

StressieBessy · 30/11/2025 00:14

I’m a lawyer and earn around £400k.

The big picture is that I am required to advise clients on highly complex matters at lightning speed, in the knowledge that it will cost them millions (sometimes tens or hundreds or millions) if I or my team are wrong. The advice and solutions we put in place require huge amounts of technical knowledge, detailed research, analysis of large volumes of data, extremely high quality drafting and near perfect error control. Clients can often treat us like shit because they think that is only fair given our hourly rate.

I start my day answering emails at 6.30am and that runs through until I sleep. I work most weekends. New things come in all the time and the learning curve is very steep.

I have multiple calls and meetings per day and am called into urgent unscheduled meetings at the drop of the hat - eg can you join a board meeting in 1 hour on a matter you haven’t dealt with before to advise the client on a decision which is business critical.

I manage a team of 30 who interrupt me through the day and require my sign off for their decisions and advice (also on complex issues). The buck stops with me. I deal with the team’s unreasonable and unhappy clients when issues are escalated to me. I have other additional management and risk-related roles within the firm on top.

I am required to market the firm and bring in millions of pounds worth of business. I am constantly in (subtle) sales mode. Most encounters with professionals or work contacts are tainted by the thought about whether I can persuade this person to give me work.

I have never played golf. I often miss lunch and other meals. Client lunches are tricky affairs: lengthy sales pitches which eat into the time I have available to do the actual work. I’d rather have an al desko.

There is no off switch. The money comes with a huge amount of responsibility and stress.

Wanna swap?

Whilst I’m in a different field…this post most directly speaks to the kind of multi-tasking, constant pressure and day to day responsibility that I deal with. I have a bigger team but client risk is probably less pressured. The money compensates for the work but I’m not sure anyone can understand what it feels like to wake up at 6 to problems you need to solve quickly and go to bed having spent all day in 16 teams meetings whilst also fielding calls, emails, teams messages, deadlines for research, WhatsApp messages for urgent issues, a speaking engagement, travel time when trying to sort issues etc etc etc. it’s exhausting, can be occasionally exhilarating but is mostly just stress.

PinkPepperPolka · 30/11/2025 22:59

I’m not a CEO. I’m expected to turn up on a new project (usually one that has gone wrong), familiarise myself with the technology, and identify the problem areas. Then fix them, deliver the project, and try and keep everyone happy. There are a lot of meetings, audits, analysis, argument, and stress. Ultimately I sign on the dotted line to say something is good enough. It does get reviewed by others, but these things could kill lots of people if we are wrong.
Mainly what I’m paid for is the years of education, experience and training that sit behind the work.
I’ve never played golf.

ItsAWonderfulLifeforMe · 30/11/2025 22:32

I’ve read a lot of these posts with interest (I posted in the early pages about my partner earning approx 150k) and I’ve started to realise it’s a miracle he doesn’t have to work weekends, past 5.30/ 6 every night, or holidays (excluding checking the odd email but usually he doesn’t and doesn’t even have them on his phone/ take work laptop with him). He works very hard, and it’s intense sometimes for the hours he works but wfh full time, no overseas travel, London trip once in a blue moon. The toll it takes on his personal life is no-where near as intense as some other posters and I’m so grateful for that

GoodNightss · 30/11/2025 22:18

Not complain that people earning even more than them should be taxed or are earning "obscene amounts".

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 30/11/2025 22:17

A lot of what is written in these posts sounds like hell to me. The art of management used to be knowing how to delegate. Dies this mot apply any more?

Maybe AI will take some of the stress out of your jobs.

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 30/11/2025 22:05

FreeButtonBee · 29/11/2025 20:16

City lawyer. In house. Not a law firm partner so not earning mega bucks. But enough to be in the ‘you must be rich’ category

my job is like going into work every day and not knowing if you’ll be expected to do a load of boring admin, deal with multiple personnel issues or be expected to basically do the equivalent of multiple exams in one day with zero notice, some of which involve explaining said legal points orally, again in zero notice. Currently dealing with an audit from one of the biggest financial regulators in the world. If I fuck up it could cost us €5bn (yes you read that right) a year in costs. That is a lot of pressure. There is some socialisation of that decision making process. But not as much as you might expect.

5bn. I don't believe it. Is this some kind of massive global racket cum scanm?

No wonder you are worrief

iliketobereasonable · 30/11/2025 22:02

I earn more than that and honestly no day or week is the same. One week I may have to go to the other side of the world and pull 14h work days in travel, meetings and wining and dining. Other days I am at home, have no meetings, and have a nap after lunch and play candy crush a bit too much. What I bring to my company is experience, expertise in a particular area and being on call when I am needed.

Goinglive · 30/11/2025 21:41

Sit round and count my money

SimplyBudgie · 30/11/2025 20:53

Meltdown247 · 30/11/2025 18:17

CEO. Get to my desk at 5:30am tend to finish at 8pm most nights. You don’t really ever stop or have down time. Mostly strategy meetings or budget and finance with department heads or shareholders. Sometimes HR escalations. I have a lot of contract and legal negotiations atm but that isn’t typical. Barely leave my office, let alone have time to play golf. The pay reflects the pressure from all sides and expectations from shareholders. It’s relentless. I enjoy the variety but the high level of stress is not for everyone and there are many days I wish I did something that allowed me to be more present for my family. It’s not really glamorous and by the time I paid tax it does not feel worth the sacrifices. There are no private jets, fancy dinners or even nice holidays. I have not had a work free holiday in 20 years. I don’t know any high earners in the UK who are living the dream you see on films.

To be frank, that sounds like a bloody awful way to spend your life. What a waste.

Why? What's the point in that high level salary if you don't actually get any time to enjoy it?

Thankyourose · 30/11/2025 20:43

Lots of ‘strategy’ and being the public face of the company. Not anything that warrants $8m in salary & shares & bonuses.
CEO got $2m extra last year for hitting cost savings targets making company look more profitable. We made 100s and 100s redundant.
Oh and cancelled pay rises. So now the rest of us are working for less ( cost of living) but doing more because we have less team members.
but at least the 70 year old white guy at the helm is hitting his KPIs and getting that performance related pay.

Brainstorm23 · 30/11/2025 20:37

I sometimes idly check the calendars of the higher ups in my company (FTSE 250 listed). Their days seem to mainly consist of catchup with each other and strategy sessions.

The previous CEO got booted out on his ear when the profitability of the company took a downturn and his predecessor who everyone loved made an unexpected return from his retirement (which we always suspected was enforced by his successor who was the world's dullest man).

They said they'd have an event to celebrate his achievements "in due course". Needless to say we're still waiting. I don't think he cries himself to sleep as he was on £500k a year and probably got a massive severance payment.

Thankyourose · 30/11/2025 20:36

WearyCat · 29/11/2025 20:17

Yes but what does the work involve? I’m a teacher. I know what my work involves and I’ve done other jobs like cleaning, admin, bar work, i can see other jobs so I have an idea of what their day looks like. I’ve never been I close proximity to someone earning that sort of money. Even head teachers, I don’t know what they do all day long. I’m not saying high earners are not busy, nor that they’re not worth their salary. But what exactly are they doing?

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Our CEO earns around $8 million.
Seems to spend a lot of time meeting with investors.

outdooryone · 30/11/2025 20:23

I don't earn any way near that being a charity, but I am the boss. Typical week will see multiple meetings with senior team and some of the staff, meetings with stakeholders and funders. I assist with a couple of fundraising applications a month, finance checks/oversight, and future planning. A few minor HR issues a month. Renewing policies. Lots and lots of decisions, some of which are clearly huge for people such as who to employ and sadly at times who to make redundant - and I do all the latter in person. I also snatch a few hours to dream some dreams or speak to our board about future ideas and direction. Plus travelling to see my team and protects from Northern Scotland to Devon, Cardiff to Norwich, plus London, Edinburgh, Cardiff and Belfast for a few government meetings / national advisory groups through the year.
And I drink coffee. Lots of coffee.