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WearyCat · 29/11/2025 20:10

I genuinely don’t know what CEOs, that type of role, people earning over 150K pa actually do. How do they spend their time?

Not whether they are worth the salary. But what do those jobs involve on a day to day basis? All I have is an idea based on films and guesswork. Is it golf? Lunches? Meetings? What sort of decisions are they making? What pressures are they facing?

I’m interested, curious, and I don’t see how I would ever find out in real life because I don’t move in circles where people have that sort of job.

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FuckRealityBringMeABook · 01/12/2025 13:13

BurnoutGP · 01/12/2025 12:50

Almost certainly yes. Just because you don't understand what they do. The pressure is huge.

You think the pressure on a social worker on £30k with a case load in the hundreds is not huge?

Snakebite61 · 01/12/2025 13:06

WearyCat · 29/11/2025 20:10

I genuinely don’t know what CEOs, that type of role, people earning over 150K pa actually do. How do they spend their time?

Not whether they are worth the salary. But what do those jobs involve on a day to day basis? All I have is an idea based on films and guesswork. Is it golf? Lunches? Meetings? What sort of decisions are they making? What pressures are they facing?

I’m interested, curious, and I don’t see how I would ever find out in real life because I don’t move in circles where people have that sort of job.

If you're the boss of a water company you spend all day screwing the environment and ripping customers off.

gwenneh · 01/12/2025 12:57

I'm a marketing director for an environmental firm. The golf and lunches disguised as networking or 'lunch and learns' are available to me, but I can't stand them so I tend to steer clear.

My day to day varies. Generally it kicks off with reviewing metrics reports -- how effective is my team's work in a daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly context? I also review the reports from other teams to identify where support is needed, directing attention to places where revenue is weaker. What that support looks like will vary by product and region; we might generate a local marketing campaign, or we might adjust the flow of targeting for a larger, national campaign. That will involve most of my team working on creative, which I then have to approve and sometimes deploy, depending on if it uses one of the channels I prefer to manage end-to-end (because sometimes it's just easier if I do it.)

Then it's working on the local and national campaigns that we run regularly. That can be either working on upcoming campaigns, swapping out creative for existing campaigns, or a mix of both. At this point my team and I have all worked together for several years so I can just say 'let's get x campaign together' and everyone will know what to do; if there's someone new, there's more hand-holding involved. A campaign will involve multiple pieces -- printed (trade magazines or direct mail), emailed, online ads, working with local and national professional associations.

The rest of the time will be spent working on other projects -- planning for events marketing and trade shows to make sure the sales reps have everything they need, writing reports, working on my budget to reconcile spending or planning for the next year, meeting with vendors (paper company, printing company, external design firm, data warehouse, very persistent media partner sales reps, etc.)

If something performs well, I tend to not hear anything. If something performs poorly, or costs too much, I'm the person who gets called to account for it and I'm the person who has to make the changes to correct it.

LBOCS2 · 01/12/2025 12:56

DH and I are in the same industry, he’s board level and I’m one step below him. At board level it is very much decision making, both in terms of firefighting and as part of the wider strategic picture.

Both of those things involve having a lot of meetings - so that he can understand the subject (often explained by a specialist who has brought it to his attention), so that he can understand the wider ramifications of the decision he makes (so, both external consultants and other areas of the business - to look at the bigger picture and resource and impact on the wider business) and to communicate to external stakeholders and staff.

It’s far less granular ‘doing’ and a lot more thinking, decision making, and communication - both down, to his employees, and up - to the VC board, or relevant regulatory bodies.

Where I sit, it’s also extremely meeting heavy but I’m still function led, so I’m still within my own specialist area rather than having whole company oversight. I don’t ‘do’ so much any more but I provide guidance, oversight and instruction using the expertise I have to the teams I manage.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 01/12/2025 12:51

Meetings. Telling other people what to do. Planning. Projecting.

BurnoutGP · 01/12/2025 12:50

firstofallimadelight · 01/12/2025 12:14

I get what you mean op. I have a rough idea of what a teacher/postman / shelf stacker/ plumber etc does but no idea what people on big bucks do because it’s not on my radar.
when I was a social worker I earned 30k and had huge responsibilities and enormous pressure. But is a person on 150k on 120k more pressure. Probably not it’s the difference between private and public sector.

Almost certainly yes. Just because you don't understand what they do. The pressure is huge.

BurnoutGP · 01/12/2025 12:48

gannett · 01/12/2025 10:16

Are there ANY megabucks-earners whose life doesn't involve endless meetings? Who get to have relatively solitary working days without all this exhausting human interaction?

I am not a people person. If talking to other humans all day every day is what it takes to earn megabucks you can keep it. But I wonder if the ceiling for solitude-loving introverts is higher than I've assumed.

Part of my portfolio working is entirely solitary and admin/computer based. Making quite complex decision. But many years of training and experience. I do love it but it can be very isolating and have now built in a few hours in our office to balance it out.

CMOTDibbler · 01/12/2025 12:37

DH is a high earning CEO. It is very much 'the buck stops here' for him and everyone wants a piece of his time. He spends a lot of time thinking about 5, 10, 15 years out and how to grow and develop the company towards those goals and what it will take. That's both in terms of product/service, but 'if we are x size then, where will we get staff from - do we need to start training people for role y now so we have great people in 3 years. Then where could we put them, should we have an office in town z where there is a pool'. Or where could finance come from. Or 'this law is coming in which is related to our work, what could we do'.
He has a lot of meetings with his senior team to see that they are on track, support them, explain the vision to them and so on. Meetings with big clients to talk them through what is being delivered, make sure they are happy. Meetings to deal with escalated complaints. Meetings with potential clients
He does take people out to lunch once or twice a week - its an easier way to get in someones packed diary, lets you have a more discreet word sometimes, and builds a relationship better. But its not long boozy lunches by any means.
He works about 100 hours a week, and doesn't ever switch off. He loves it (mostly) though.

TreeDudette · 01/12/2025 12:28

I don't quite top £150k but not far off these days. I manage the European team for my branch of a large Health consultancy company. I have a degree and a long background in drug development before ending up in this job. I have direct reports and they have direct reports so some of my week is spent in people management. We also quote on new work for clients so some of my day is spent on overseeing new work work proposals (so meetings and reading and correcting documents). My team work on billable projects so I am pulled in when something goes wrong with those (more meetings). I am responsible for the finances for my team so budgeting for next year, reviewing our revenue and profit figures and working with the project leads in my team to make changes to improve those figures.

The big thing I do that makes my role different from one more junior is to decide things worth lots of money. Do we give this client a discount and if so how much is a decision I make and then have to justify to finance and my boss. I also get yelled at a lot; client pissed off - roll out TreeDudette and she can take the flack.

For a day in the life of I started at about 8am reading my emails this morning, I had some urgent calls that I arrived over the weekend that I had to attend to make some decisions on proposals and finance. I approved some hiring for my team (I needed another call to be sure I knew what I was approving). I have written some end of year feedback for half a dozen people in our online system. I've replied to a client who has a complaint (after another call with my team to get the background) and have set up someone to work on fixing what the client complianed about. I've just eaten lunch and my afternoon is filled with calls around potential new projects. I may finish at 5 but if there is an urgent US call I may still be online at 7. I do the same again tomorrow but I have a client call at 8am tomorrow to pitch a new service line (Oh I better finish the slides for that too!)

It's pretty full on, never the same 2 days on the run, always urgent, always about money and I love it! No golf and no extra marrital affairs for me!

ItsAWonderfulLifeforMe · 01/12/2025 12:22

GoodNightss · 01/12/2025 11:37

How do you feel about the budget?

Thankful that our council tax isn’t going to double (band G). A bit concerned that salary sacrifice will disappear in 2029. We currently salary sacrifice a high percentage into his pension to future proof ourselves (previously had low pots) and to cover enough for me too, plus avoiding 60% tax trap 100-125k. As a single salary high earning family we pay a fortune in tax and removing salary sacrifice would really impact us

firstofallimadelight · 01/12/2025 12:14

I get what you mean op. I have a rough idea of what a teacher/postman / shelf stacker/ plumber etc does but no idea what people on big bucks do because it’s not on my radar.
when I was a social worker I earned 30k and had huge responsibilities and enormous pressure. But is a person on 150k on 120k more pressure. Probably not it’s the difference between private and public sector.

BluntAzureDreamer · 01/12/2025 12:12

Crushed23 · 01/12/2025 11:11

Agree with most of these points, but one thing that’s missing is how much one THINKS about work in these roles. I’m mid-senior in a high paying profession and I routinely think about work when I’m not working, I worry about things, I often dream about work. It’s all-consuming in a way that many clock-in-clock-out jobs are not.

Agree. My husband regularly comments that he's grateful he can leave his work at work. I dream about mine, and not in a good way.
I would add to the previous comments, that being in a senior role also involves a huge amount of mediation. Between colleagues, staff, peers, more senior colleagues, clients, customers and any combinations of the above. I am absolutely wrung out by the end of my day as I frequently feel like a sounding board for people above, below and to the side. I have to keep my division running smoothly and this means absorbing an awful lot of crap so it doesn't impact others.
I also have to make a lot of strategic decisions, the impact of which can be huge. What I would say is, with highly paid jobs, it's not always about the activity, it's about the outputs. This usually does mean a lot of activity but not always

randomchap · 01/12/2025 12:04

Whinge on here about how much tax they pay

nightmarepickle2025 · 01/12/2025 12:02

Dick around on Mumsnet, mostly

PermanentTemporary · 01/12/2025 11:46

Oh absolutely it’s rare in the creative professions, and most writers would make more money scrubbing floors. But it’s not unheard of. Chihuly and Kiefer and some others are multi multi millionaires. Tbh I don’t think they all do hate the public side of it - that’s one of the things that makes them unusual, that they can do and even enjoy both, and some are natural collaborators I think, eg Damon Albarn who gathers co-artists wherever he goes and is another multimillionaire. In general, you have to be exceptional to be at that level of income.

gannett · 01/12/2025 11:43

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 01/12/2025 11:05

I have lots of days with no meetings and a very healthy life-work balance. I am in the public sector, but not in the UK. I have huge flexibility to pick and choose my own projects and timetable.

Edit: I have a (low-paid) husband who pulls his own weight but works odd hours so I do a lot of the household stuff by default. Between us we do all school runs, pickups and events.

Edited

So not just no meetings but not much in the way of face-to-face work? This sounds like the dream; do you have a niche technical skill, or are you able to take big decisions without having to sell them to other people? I'm intrigued as to which field you're in.

I should note that work-life balance isn't what I'm asking about. I don't think it's an issue that it tilts towards work for high earners. I'm specifically asking about the nature of that work involving intense daily interaction with other people.

gannett · 01/12/2025 11:38

PermanentTemporary · 01/12/2025 10:57

@gannett I think there are but probably quite niche skills. There are some creative professionals who make a lot of money with a lot of solitary time, but even then I think the most successful tend to be good at the public side as well - thinking of artists like Anselm Kiefer or Dale Chiluly who operate with huge studios of assistants, or very successful writers who these days spend a lot of time on self promotion, or composers like Max Richter who have to be able to work with fellow musicians. I wonder if in some collaborative partnerships there is one who does the extroverted stuff and one who doesn’t? Gilbert and George both seem to be introverts though.

Yeah, I did think of artists/musicians/writers whose day-to-day life is solitary. They all loathe the promo side of things but those are occasional intense bursts rather than their defining daily activities. But obviously achieving the level of fame of those you mentioned is vanishingly rare, and actual megabucks rarer still (I think a lot of people would be surprised to learn what even very famous writers, artists etc actually earn).

GoodNightss · 01/12/2025 11:37

ItsAWonderfulLifeforMe · 01/12/2025 09:45

I posted previously about how lucky I am to have a high earning partner (approx 150k max) that doesn’t work crazy hours or weekends. I’ve been thinking about this, it came across as a bit smug and I would to clarify.

What I didn’t say is that I am a SAHM that takes on pretty much every single mental load task / finance stuff / admin/ child associated task / housework task to enable him to work intensively during his hours. He sometimes has time to go to the gym in the day. Just the last week I’ve done loads for the Xmas fair, bought the Xmas presents, sorted play outfits, done all housework, checked up on granny, looked at holiday etc etc the list goes on. Including obvs washing his pants and cooking his meals (mostly although terrible cook)

So for all those power house women on this thread that have the high earning roles and have to do all of the above (highly unlikely that they have a man helping them to pick up all this) or waking up a 4am worrying about Xmas presents or have to sort Rainbows uniform, or worrying if they’ve sorted mufti day I think you are incredible!!! (And I wish things were more equal for you if it’s not currently)

How do you feel about the budget?

whattheysay · 01/12/2025 11:15

My dh earns this, he travels a lot and the rest of the time he works from home. When he’s at home he can be quite flexible in how he works. I can’t say I see him sitting at his desk for 12 hours per day as we do sit and have coffee and chat everyday but he has a lot of meetings and sends emails and talks to people on the phone and obviously does some work as he’s very sought after in his field and has a lot of responsibility. He does trouble shooting amongst other things and the buck does stop with him. If he gets it wrong he’s in big shit he can end up in court

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 01/12/2025 11:12

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 01/12/2025 11:05

I have lots of days with no meetings and a very healthy life-work balance. I am in the public sector, but not in the UK. I have huge flexibility to pick and choose my own projects and timetable.

Edit: I have a (low-paid) husband who pulls his own weight but works odd hours so I do a lot of the household stuff by default. Between us we do all school runs, pickups and events.

Edited

Quoting myself to add I had a meeting this morning but now have nothing in my diary until Thursday morning. I will head home after lunch and WFH focusing on a couple of writing projects for the next couple of days. No-one will ask where I am or what I am doing. Bliss.

Crushed23 · 01/12/2025 11:11

financialcareerstuff · 01/12/2025 09:38

Agree you tend to always be on call…..this is for a few reasons.

  1. the higher you get in management, the more likely your role is knowledge or decision-making based - enabling you to do it from anywhere, and contribute relatively quickly (eg by weighing in on one section of a meeting then dialling off)
  2. you tend to have some kind of ownership stake. That can be literally that you are a shareholder, or your performance bonus rests on your results, or you are directly responsible for clients and/or winning business- which means you work on the client clock.
  3. your work is international- meaning different timezones
  4. There is only one of you. Shift work, by definition is when you have multiple people trained to do the same task. Once you re a CHRO or CEO or the top barrister in your team in a certain area of expertise, you can’t clock off and know someone else is doing your job.

there are rare exceptions to these patterns, like an airline pilot, whose job is so high stakes and high skilled that they are well paid, but still ‘clock on and clock off’ shift style. It is impossible for them to do their job virtually (for now), and there are strict regulations about their rest and time off.

But the large number of high paid jobs fit with the above principles.

However, the aspect of this that is rarely mentioned is the flexibility that comes with this. Even though you are expected to be available always, you are not held to account for your hour to hour presence in the same way. People come in late, schedule meetings around personal commitments (which are often not declared), work from home because they are feeling under the weather or want to pop out to the doctor or a school event for their kid etc….. They have specific pressure points - such as a key presentation, when they really have to be there. But most other things are established by negotiation. The better respected you are and the more unique your skills, the more people will schedule around you.

Most people at that level also have a complex network of responsibilities that cut across departments or multiple clients/companies. This means there is lack of transparency. If you say ‘I can’t do Thursday morning- how about Friday’ nobody knows whether you are having a picnic with your partner, with a different client, or flying to Brussels on Thursday morning…. They just tend to accept it. All this lack of clarity is even greater since the explosion of virtual working.

This is a huge bonus and privilege of this kind of managerial work that is often unacknowledged. It can be a simple benefit that allows you to schedule and balance your life effectively while being committed and effective in your job. It can also be a mechanism for obfuscation- making poor performance and coasting harder to quickly detect. In top management, this would be flagged through results quite quickly. For middle management in big corporations, it’s a lot less clear and there are a good number of people who have worked out how to play the system- do enough to scrape through, turn up to the countless meetings and sound active, while not actually contributing a great deal. Their productivity is pretty poor, compared to people in shift work on far less salary, doing way more valuable things, in far more gruelling circumstances.

I think quite a few on this thread have overemphasized the ‘crucial hard work’ angle of working at this level, probably triggered by the initial post about golf. It is true a lot of hard and high impact work is done, but that’s true at every pay level.

Agree with most of these points, but one thing that’s missing is how much one THINKS about work in these roles. I’m mid-senior in a high paying profession and I routinely think about work when I’m not working, I worry about things, I often dream about work. It’s all-consuming in a way that many clock-in-clock-out jobs are not.

HootyMcBoobys · 01/12/2025 11:07

KM123456 · 01/12/2025 05:18

In addition to all the answers here, the higher up you go the less your time is your own: you are expected to be available 24/7. I have seen senior managers take work phone calls while on vacation out of the country. That adds to the stress.

This.
Husband a high earner. Much more than figure quoted in post.
Takes his mobile phone everywhere, and I do mean everywhere. Is a prisoner to his work, even on holiday. Phonecalls every day at home even when he is "finished", and because the main office is based in America, online team meetings and phonecalls in the wee hours of the morning very very often with no regard to the time difference, after having worked from 8am until 8pm at night and then on the laptop until approx 1 am every morning in addition. Straight back to work after 10 hour flights across the world etc, goes from the airport to the office.
I threatened to throw his phone in the pool on holiday. He was taking calls in the airport on the way THERE. It's very frustrating but it's the price we pay for his salary. It really angers me when some people say that high earners don't deserve their salary, he sweats blood for his, and the sacrifice is enormous. The buck stops with him if anything goes wrong at his site ( and it IS life or death literally in some cases).
Can't wait until he can retire.

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 01/12/2025 11:05

gannett · 01/12/2025 10:16

Are there ANY megabucks-earners whose life doesn't involve endless meetings? Who get to have relatively solitary working days without all this exhausting human interaction?

I am not a people person. If talking to other humans all day every day is what it takes to earn megabucks you can keep it. But I wonder if the ceiling for solitude-loving introverts is higher than I've assumed.

I have lots of days with no meetings and a very healthy life-work balance. I am in the public sector, but not in the UK. I have huge flexibility to pick and choose my own projects and timetable.

Edit: I have a (low-paid) husband who pulls his own weight but works odd hours so I do a lot of the household stuff by default. Between us we do all school runs, pickups and events.

PermanentTemporary · 01/12/2025 10:57

@gannett I think there are but probably quite niche skills. There are some creative professionals who make a lot of money with a lot of solitary time, but even then I think the most successful tend to be good at the public side as well - thinking of artists like Anselm Kiefer or Dale Chiluly who operate with huge studios of assistants, or very successful writers who these days spend a lot of time on self promotion, or composers like Max Richter who have to be able to work with fellow musicians. I wonder if in some collaborative partnerships there is one who does the extroverted stuff and one who doesn’t? Gilbert and George both seem to be introverts though.

gannett · 01/12/2025 10:16

Are there ANY megabucks-earners whose life doesn't involve endless meetings? Who get to have relatively solitary working days without all this exhausting human interaction?

I am not a people person. If talking to other humans all day every day is what it takes to earn megabucks you can keep it. But I wonder if the ceiling for solitude-loving introverts is higher than I've assumed.