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Dh won't let me follow his strava , I think he is secretly training for a marathon,. Should I enter too?

258 replies

Sheepondrugs · 29/11/2025 17:22

My dh's school friend is running a marathon next year. I suspect dh is planning to run it with him , although he hasn't said this to me. But dh didn't accept my follow request on strava , which suggests to me that he has something to hide.

Those who look at my previous posts will see I had issues with my dh making a big charade about the Run Through website not letting him sign up when he already was registered and already secretly had a 10k booked. ( which has long been and gone) .

I was very angry about all that , but I'm using my energy to focus on my fitness and I'm gradually increasing my distance. I'm thinking of signing up to the same event, either the half or the full marathon as I want to the accomplishment of completing one myself.

The issue is dh is just going to magically expect me to be available for childcare that day , isn't he.

OP posts:
Sheepondrugs · 29/11/2025 17:33

Meredithwho · 29/11/2025 17:24

Just sign up and announce that you are doing it before he does and make childcare his problem!

That's what Ive been thinking. If he hasn't arranged childcare, he hasn't completed the task of arranging the activity. I often have plans on Sundays anyway as that's his responsibility for childcare.

OP posts:
Sheepondrugs · 29/11/2025 17:31

Lengokengo · 29/11/2025 17:25

Book a weekend at on that day. Tell him now. ‘ oh that weekend is when cousin Julie wants a spa weekend, nothing in diary so I booked it, yay!’

I'd rather run than have a spa weekend tbh

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Sheepondrugs · 29/11/2025 17:29

Cynic17 · 29/11/2025 17:25

Why can't he just do his thing (which appears to be running) without you tracking his every move, OP? We all need a hobby, and the whole point is that it's that special thing we keep to and for ourselves. Just leave him to it, and concentrate on the "special thing" that makes you happy.

Because I like running too . Running makes me happy . The event is open to the public, you sign up and pay your fee. I'm entitled to participate as much as any other entrant.

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YouDriveMeCrazyButICanDoThatMyself · 29/11/2025 17:28

I’m with @Cynic17

NeverDropYourMooncup · 29/11/2025 17:27

Assuming that he is actually running and hasn't got another sort of marathon in his sights every Sunday morning, sign up, then tell him you're doing it. He either kicks off about it or doesn't.

Cynic17 · 29/11/2025 17:25

Why can't he just do his thing (which appears to be running) without you tracking his every move, OP? We all need a hobby, and the whole point is that it's that special thing we keep to and for ourselves. Just leave him to it, and concentrate on the "special thing" that makes you happy.

Lengokengo · 29/11/2025 17:25

Book a weekend at on that day. Tell him now. ‘ oh that weekend is when cousin Julie wants a spa weekend, nothing in diary so I booked it, yay!’

Meredithwho · 29/11/2025 17:24

Just sign up and announce that you are doing it before he does and make childcare his problem!