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DD and Friend hurt me yet I’m in the wrong?

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FoxPj · 29/11/2025 13:15

DD had a friend over for a sleepover last night, they are 12. During the course of the night one or both of them wrote a “horror” message on the bathroom mirror which was a shock when I went in and saw it. I went in to speak to them both and DD screamed that I was embarrassing for crying. The friend looked shocked like she’d never seen an adult show emotion before and said they had done it to her mum too who had found it funny. She did apologise but added “it’s only lipstick, it wipes off easy”. DD then stormed out and told DH that I was embarrassing her and DH has taken their side saying it was a harmless prank and I need to lighten up.
Feeling so upset today. I thought DH would at least back me up.

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iSage · 29/11/2025 13:18

Whatever was the message, that it made you cry? Your reaction sounds extreme.

themerchentofvenus · 29/11/2025 13:18

FoxPj · 29/11/2025 13:17

Just to add DD and DH are now saying she’ll get laughed at at school because of MY behaviour

Yup. She will. Why on earth would a horror message on a mirror be anything but a funny prank!

EweCee · 29/11/2025 13:17

What did they write?

phantomofthepopera · 29/11/2025 13:17

You cried in front of your DDs friend because they’d played a prank on you? Oh dear.

FoxPj · 29/11/2025 13:17

Just to add DD and DH are now saying she’ll get laughed at at school because of MY behaviour

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Imanautumn · 29/11/2025 13:17

What did it say?