Boyfriend says I have fine hair … AIBU to be hurt?

Eh!? I am not offended 🤣 I was merely putting forward an alternative idea.

I agree. If you are going to be rude to people you want to date then expect them to dump you. Yes, you have the right to say what you want but equally, people also have the right to bin you off for being an insensitive jerk.

Noone has got time for this kind of insulting nonsense when you first start dating someone. If you are literally insulting people then thats on you and you should expect to reap the consequences which will be Saturday night in alone with only your hand for company. 🤷‍♀️

Fuck that, he’s a bad egg OP

with regards to your hair, if you want to there’s loads you can do. scalp massage, minoxidil, clip in fringes and hair toppers, hrt if you’re allowed/want to, lazer hair band... I’m saying this as somebody who has suffered with hair loss for various reasons and recently had chemo. If you feel self conscious it might be worth playing around with this stuff and you might start spotting that other people are actually wearing various forms of extensions and so on.

🤣 could be that too. I didn’t go straight to that, because on reading the OP it struck me that it is the sort of observation that an autistic person could make - but yes, he could simply be, as you said, ‘a tit’.

Also adding "my ex's was so thick"

No, it's not people's job to manage your rudeness and hurtfulness for you. You're offended by this suggestion but you think prople shouldn't be offended when you insult them?

Off you fuck 👋

Followed by "I had an ex who had a really big one".

This is so naive.

Those things he said are literally textbook negging tactics that men are advised to say to women for this purpose.

I propose OP gives him some unpleasant "facts" about himself and sees what his reaction is. Comment on his tiny penis and lets see if he feels its just a straightforward statement said without rude intention.

My guess is he wont like it one bit.

It’s not the comment about fine hair that would annoy me, it’s the comment about how lovely his previous girlfriend’s hair.

💯

Los people saying ‘it’s factual sure he didn’t intend to hurt’ are forgetting what he followed up with 🙄.
Also, there’s many factual things about people but adults should have a filter and not point them out. It being ‘factual’ is neither here nor there lol. That’s why responsible parents try to reign in children’s responses to teach social etiquette like not staring, pointing - or loudly declaring ‘gosh mommy, that lady looks bald!’. Now that’s excusable and no malice would have been meant but what reason does an adult have to point out things he clearly deems a flaw?!

@MorrisHer Agree with those saying to throw this one back. I couldn’t be dealing with such a person and that doesn’t even include the later comments you said he made!

Maybe. Or alternatively, people could learn to be less sensitive to simple straightforward statements of fact said without any intention of being rude?

Absolutely.

He'd be in the bin.

Exactly. Me neither.

I wouldn’t want to be mates with a man like this let alone be intimate with him

OK he's being outrageously rude comparing you to women he finds more attractive. Just end it.

Why say it, then? OP, get rid.

What a twat. Let him fuck off with Rapunzel if he wants to.

I agree, but he should probably have just shut up and said nothing.

If you apply the THINK acronym, he fails on Inspiring, Necessary and Kind.

No, he is a manipulative cunt.

Very obvious it's negging.

I have a friend who has fine hair and it’s thinning with the menopause. She’s very sensitive about it and would be extremely upset if someone commented on it.

He is either clueless or was being nasty.

I think this would have been different if you had mentioned it and he gently agreed. If you know your hair hair is fine at the moment there is no point in disagreeing. I say this as someone who's hair can get really fine now. For me the big red flag is that he felt the need to randomly mention it for no reason to then make an unfavourable comparison.

Ditch the loser pronto you're worth more 💐.

I’m also menopausal and having a tough time physically and emotionally and my hair is even thinner than usual as a result

Are you on hrt, @MorrisHer ? Your BF is a bit of an arse.

Doesn’t mean people have to put up with it. It is entirely possible for neurodivergent people to learn how to engage a filter

No he's a tit.