Boyfriend says I have fine hair … AIBU to be hurt?

🤣🤣🤣 You have no power to offend. 🍿

Mate, this is why you never announce that it'll be your final response. Either reply or don't reply, but never announce that you're leaving, because then you look a right Carry On when you declare it to be beneath you but have to keep coming back, even just to post a dazzling riposte like this.

Menopause does make your hair thinner but no one needs it pointing out. Ditto wrinkles and flab. I assume he is like George Clooney? Def dump him.

It's your choice to be offended by an alternative idea.

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Innit frustrating when folk put words in your mouth and create a whole scenario of things that were never said. 🍿

Having an awareness of disability in all its various forms, what jumped out to me from the OP is the potential, just a suggestion, maybe another way of seeing the perceived rudeness could be that the bf exhibits autistic traits. It was never a statement, but merely, as folk do on a message board, just a suggestion to throw into the mix for thought. Nothing more, nothing less. The reaction from some to such a genuine suggestion has been illuminating.

Some of them are women who have been socialised to #bekind, and some have got reasons for wanting women to take shittiness from men without arguing. We can only guess as to why...

Goodness, hasn't the tone changed from contrived laughter and walls of emojis and invoking the spirit of Barbara Windsor. Yes, we can all see how unruffled and entertained you are. Such a lighthearted, carefree response from someone with nothing to prove and Higher Concerns!

And yet, for all the talking, still no explanation for why you think women should take it and even blame themselves if men are shitty to them (I think we can all guess the answer by now). And still, now that you're the one who's offended, it's not merely alternative thinking, it's...whatever this wall of crap is.

The funniest thing of all is that I didn't even insult you. I simply disagreed and told you that it's not on other people to take responsibility and management for it when you insult them. You are an alternative, I am <<see incoherent rant above>>.

But that's to be expected. People who demand that everyone else just accept their rudeness like this can never take it when something offends them. You are no exception.

Give yourself an early Christmas present and dump him. You are worth more than this thoughtless cretin.

Invest in some super strength B vitamins (check out Lindemans super complex vitamin B complex on Ebay or Amazon) and a rosemary shampoo. L'Occitane do some lovely ones. A cheaper alternative is the Olail range available at Home Bargains. Give it 2 months and you will see a difference.

How irritating. Do you want to go out with someone irritating? There's plenty of men out there who know that the correct thing to say to a woman is you look great.

He wants you to feel as if you're not good enough for him, OP. I'd throw this one back.

Only on threads where autism has nothing to so with the subject in hand. Like I said.

Unless you're also claiming that a bloke insulting his girlfriend's hairline is likely to be autistic.

Oh, just bin him OP.
If you don't you'll be putting up with this sort of shit all the time.

He should know that you don't make comments like that so he's doing it deliberately to be hurtful.

It may seem funny, but that's the sort of thing you have to resort to when dealing with an opponent, someone's who's not on your side, not your partner.

I'm more concerned about the comparison comments he's making to other women's hair rather than comments on yours alone.

@leftsock It clearly is to you

Really? I fail to see how you have formed the opinion it is a dirty word to me. But if that is what you want to think … it is not, btw. You are incorrect.

My sis is autistic Okay. Thank you for telling us. Presumably then, you have some understanding that it is a ‘spectrum’ of diverse presentations.

its very offensive to label every unkind behaviour as being due to autism. I totally agree. Every unkind behaviour is unnecessary and potentially cruel. However, it is not incorrect to say that one trait of some neurodiverse people can be to speak without a filter, but intending no malice.

Very stigmatising and nasty. I agree that it is not pleasant to stigmatise people.

Don't be daft. How else could he have meant it?

Oh God yes! And tell him how much more fulfilling it is for a woman to have a man who really fills her up and what a comedown it is to have to make do with a puny dick. Then, in a kind and pitying tone, you could add, "Still, I know it's not your fault that you aren't very well endowed and so I'm trying to make the best of it! And then bin him!

What are you doing @MorrisHer ?

Are you just going to hang around, batting away unease until he ruins your esteem?

It's 4 months... honestly I'd just dump him

I am beginning to think that autism is a dirty word to some? 🤷‍♀️

It clearly is to you. My sis is autistic and its very offensive to label every unkind behaviour as being due to autism.

Very stigmatising and nasty.

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Sorry didn't mean to quote you.

My Dad, who is definitely 'on the spectrum' (according to everyone who knows him and himself) and can be unbelievably tactless at times (with zero malice) would definitely know not to make this comment about OP's appearance. He's always been like this and doesn't have dementia.

IME men are pretty sensitive about hair loss - theirs or others.

I hope not, think of the folk that will be forced to mourn you every Christmas. 🤶 Poor @KaleidoscopeSmile , it is those autistic folk who are to blame for her drinking herself to death, you know. Mind you, she did love a shot, so she died happy.

I am beginning to think that autism is a dirty word to some? 🤷‍♀️

Two suggestions
Plantur shampoo, brilliant on my menopausal thinning hair.
LTB

Yeah, there is always an excuse isnt there? If its a man under 50 being a git its always autism and if he's over 50 its "he might have dementia".

It's never, ever his fault. Funny how this same courtesy doesnt extend to women though. OP is merely "over sensitive"- a personality flaw, no diagnoses to justify her hurt feelings