Boyfriend says I have fine hair … AIBU to be hurt?

“He’s just being honest” is such a load of bollocks.

To the posters saying this, I’d love to know what the motivation would be to make such a comment. Just - why?

I have always had fine hair, always been sensitive about it. Whatever volume I did have started to go in my late 30s and now I’m really sensitive about it. And I’m well aware - I don’t need someone to “factually” point it out to me, thanks.

And if the op’s hair is actually borderline fine and she hadn’t realised, why the hell would she want this pointing out to her, just so she can have something new to feel bad about?

He’s either an insensitive fool for not realising this or indeed playing mind games.

Well done OP!

Dump this idiot- you can do so much better than this wanker

Was he telling the truth if so that’s exactly what others will be thinking.

Good woman.
Get rid of the nasty fxxker.

If you want to given him a reason, tell him you are so sorry but there is zero chemistry and the sex was just too awful.

But then I'm vengeful.

This. ^ There is literally no excuse whatsover for his rude, obnoxious, negging, cruel behaviour. Even though a few posters seem to be falling over themselves to insist there should be exceptions, some men are probably just 'forthright,' and the OP (and other women) should just suck it up, and be grateful she has a man interested in her. Even a less than average, mediocre individual who isn't fit to lick her boots. 🙄

Seriously, the bar (for some women posting on here) is not only low, it's dragging on the floor!

Are you?

What insult? Not following you, but if you say so. 😀

Your instincts are screaming for a reason. It’s only been 4 months, bin him. I would bet money he is negging you.

Tell him his bald spot shows when he's walking in the wind.

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@MorrisHer Well done! You do deserve so much better - I am so glad you have realised this.

It’s so hard when you have low self esteem but dickheads like that don’t deserve your time. Off he can tootle!

I know how it feels. When I was a teenager I had a friend who kept going on about my hair, calling it non existent. She had thick wiry hair which she didn't like, but she kept saying thst 'thin' hair like mine would be even worse. I've always had fine hair, but what of it??? It means easy to wash and dries quickly, so I can wash it every day. Depends how your boyfriend means it, but let him know it's upsetting.

Good for you OP, he would very likely have got worse and worse over time as he sussed out how much nastiness you would put up with.

That feeling you had before of nearly walking out when he made the shitty comment about redheads is the type of feeling you want to really look out for if you start dating anyone else. Don’t give any shithead more than one chance to treat you badly.

You should be very proud that you noticed something wasn’t right about the way he spoke to you, and reached out for support for your gut feeling.

You are being way too sensitive!

Lighten up and stop seeing insults in everything.

YOU are the one who is incorrect.

Are you the boyfriend's brand of autistic?

I must admit I missed the "nearly bald" comment. Fair cop.

Definately more important things to be upset about than fine hair, but the comment the OPs date made is worthy of concern...life's too short to spend time with people like this OP, it sounds like he's got a nasty streak.

If a female friend had made a comment like that bookended with examples of how some other people had lovely thick hair people would call it out as bitchiness not just stating facts.

The best way to teach him that it's hurtful is for him to get a taste of his own medicine. Comparing his wedding tackle to former lovers' will definitely get the point across. Harsh but fair should you be willing to go there.
A woman's crowning glory is comparable to his trouser treasures so I wouldn't feel bad about it.

I was going to say the same thing! Stop before sex and look at his bits and say gosh your penis and balls and balls are VERY small aren’t they! Have you ever had treatment or seen a doctor about that? I always date men with a minimum of 7 inches as that’s the norm and my last boyfriend had a very wide as well as long penis that nearly went down to his knees! 😂🤣🤣

Negging. Huge red flag.

@TheTowerAtMidnight "He was just pointing out the facts. I wouldn't be remotely bothered about this."

So if you've got children, you'll be telling them it's OK to give and receive personal comments? And that they shouldn't be remotely offended if their boyfriend (or girlfriend) compares them unfavourably to an ex? Blimey.

But why does he need to point it out, as if she didn't know? He's a twat

He is negging you to try and get you under his thumb and feeling insecure. Throw this one back!

@Thepeopleversuswork "I wouldn’t see it as a negative, its just a statement of fact. Possibly tactless but I doubt it was intended to hurt."

Calling a woman "nearly bald" (especially a new girlfriend) and then physically comparing her to an ex, would be considered unpleasant by the vast majority of people. Out of interest, where do you draw the line between a "statement of fact" and making personal comments to people? Would you see no problem in unfavourably comparing a current love interest to an ex?