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Waiting to hear from interview - feeling deflated!

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galaxybeyond101 · 29/11/2025 09:59

I had a job interview on Wednesday that I felt went really well, I left feeling super positive. They had more people to interview on Thursday and I was told I would hear back by the end of the week or early next week.

I didn’t hear anything yesterday (Friday) and I feel so deflated and I have convinced myself I haven’t got the job. It was my meal ticket out of a very toxic environment and my hope is dwindling.

has anyone heard back later than they were told and still got positive news? Or am I over thinking this? I just really felt like they’d of let me know Friday if I was successful.

Feeling very down and trying not to let it ruin my weekend

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loveawineloveacrisp · 02/12/2025 10:14

galaxybeyond101 · 02/12/2025 10:05

Thanks everyone, I found out this morning I didn’t get the job. Glad I finally know.

Sorry to hear that but pick yourself up and get back out there - it wasn't meant to be.

galaxybeyond101 · 02/12/2025 10:05

Thanks everyone, I found out this morning I didn’t get the job. Glad I finally know.

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Dutchhouse14 · 01/12/2025 23:15

Good luck OP, I hope it comes through for you.
They should let you know ASAP,its not fair to keep people in limbo.
Fingers crossed for tomorrow.
I think sometimes if you come second they hold off saying anything until the first person has accepted or declined.
I have been offered a job before after first candidate didn't work out and I was number two on the list.
Anyway good luck and keep looking the right job for you will be out there even if its not this one.

DarkForces · 01/12/2025 19:45

I've spoken to the lead recruiter about the interviews we did last week. They're not even making a final decision until tomorrow so will probably be in touch with candidates on Wednesday. It's good to take time to reflect as a recruiter. It's not a definite thing until you hear either way. My latest job I was second place but the first one didn't work out. The right thing will come but it often takes time.

Lemonfrost · 01/12/2025 19:07

Hold on OP 🙂 my company takes at least 2 weeks to get back to people and it winds me up as I am sure we lose good candidates due to the time lag. Fingers crossed for you 💐

Lucyccfc68 · 01/12/2025 18:57

‘early next week’ could be anything up to Wednesday.

Don’t lose hope just yet, it really is early days.

I came away from a second interview where there was a very, very strong hint that I was going to get the role. I had to wait 10 days for a response. The hiring manager went on holiday for a week and asked the Talent Lead to make the offer, but he then ended up going off sick. I start next Monday.

Topjoe19 · 01/12/2025 18:52

Is it public or private sector?

galaxybeyond101 · 01/12/2025 18:50

That’s very true, I do feel I am being negative but they were very quick prior to this so I have spiralled a bit and just written myself off.

I do hope you are right!

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loveawineloveacrisp · 01/12/2025 18:44

'Early next week' doesn't have to mean Monday though, does it?

galaxybeyond101 · 01/12/2025 18:20

Well I still haven’t heard back so assuming I didn’t get it. Had a big cry this morning as really hating my current job, but trying to keep on keeping on

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MyAmusedPearlSquid · 29/11/2025 16:11

This happened to me recently 2 weeks ago I went to a interview it was looking very positive told me would get a call back next. Day they didn't contact me so know I've been unsuccessful unfortunately like you I needed the job badly op but sadly wasn't meant to be good luck in your future interviews

FinallyHere · 29/11/2025 16:07

Start some new applications to stop you over thinking this one. Enjoy.

Newgirls · 29/11/2025 15:28

No! Don’t email til the Friday. Be cool like you’ve got another offer already - go and do something to take your mind off

DarkForces · 29/11/2025 12:29

ToKittyornottoKitty · 29/11/2025 12:25

OP wants to contact them Monday afternoon so I was giving a more realistic time scale. I don’t think a polite follow up on the Tuesday would do any harm though.

Fair enough. I'm saying as a recruiter chasing early is a red flag for me. It's up to op if they want to take the chance though.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 29/11/2025 12:25

DarkForces · 29/11/2025 12:13

Don't contact them on Tuesday morning. They said early next week. I interviewed on Wednesday and due to sickness from the panel since we haven't met to finalise our decision. Luckily we gave ourselves a week's grace. Anyone who chases before this will be getting short shrift.

OP wants to contact them Monday afternoon so I was giving a more realistic time scale. I don’t think a polite follow up on the Tuesday would do any harm though.

DarkForces · 29/11/2025 12:13

ToKittyornottoKitty · 29/11/2025 12:04

They haven’t gotten back to you later than you have been told though, nothing is wrong here OP. Sometimes people are just busy on a Friday! Good luck for next week OP. Personally I’d wait until Tuesday morning to email

Don't contact them on Tuesday morning. They said early next week. I interviewed on Wednesday and due to sickness from the panel since we haven't met to finalise our decision. Luckily we gave ourselves a week's grace. Anyone who chases before this will be getting short shrift.

Hoodlumboodlum · 29/11/2025 12:08

Having been on the other side of the table many times, I would just forget about it for now and contact them midweek next week if you haven't heard anything back (definitely not on Monday or Tuesday).

The rest of their roles won't have stopped because they've been interviewing - the panel may not have had time to meet to deliberate yet and may have scheduled that meeting for Monday or Tuesday.

It's easy to assume they'll have told the successful candidate on Friday and will tell unsuccessful on Monday but it's usually not that simple.

However, I've been on your side of things many times too and it sucks waiting.

Wreckinball · 29/11/2025 12:08

No don’t contact them it’ll make you look pushy, there’s no positive for the future employer there with you contacting them

ToKittyornottoKitty · 29/11/2025 12:04

They haven’t gotten back to you later than you have been told though, nothing is wrong here OP. Sometimes people are just busy on a Friday! Good luck for next week OP. Personally I’d wait until Tuesday morning to email

HardworkSendHelp · 29/11/2025 12:03

galaxybeyond101 · 29/11/2025 11:26

Thanks all, some really reassuring replies on this thread. It’s just a horrible feeling being in limbo, especially when you want it so badly! I wish they wouldn’t let candidates go into the weekend not knowing, it’s all I can think about!!

My husband was on an interview panel on a Friday and they interviewed all day, at 4pm they had made their decision on who had got the job. Husband said to HR lady she could phone the candidate and tell her she got the job and she said it was late and she was going home and she would do it on Monday. My husband was annoyed at that. Hopefully you will get good news next week

DarkForces · 29/11/2025 12:02

They've given you a timescale they're still within. As a recruiter candidates who chase before the deadline I tell them put me off. It implies they'd be hard to manage as they don't listen.

loveawineloveacrisp · 29/11/2025 11:59

When I got my current job they came back to me over a week later than they said they would. I thought I hadn't got it.

galaxybeyond101 · 29/11/2025 11:57

Do you think it’s reasonable to email Monday afternoon if I haven’t heard anything?

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galaxybeyond101 · 29/11/2025 11:26

Thanks all, some really reassuring replies on this thread. It’s just a horrible feeling being in limbo, especially when you want it so badly! I wish they wouldn’t let candidates go into the weekend not knowing, it’s all I can think about!!

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EBearhug · 29/11/2025 11:23

I've never known the recruitment process be as quick as hoped, from either side of it, and I have learned never to believe it if I'm told, "we'll let you know by the end of the week." I've been interviewing candidates recently, and I say to them, "we will let you know as soon as we can, but any decisions have to go through HR and so on, so I can't tell you how quickly it will happen."

I might know someone is the strongest candidate as they leave, as we use a scorecard system and use the same questions for every candidate for a role, but all I can do is recommend to HR and more senior management that I think they're the one we should hire.

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