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To ring a bell or not?

32 replies

AyrshireTryer · 29/11/2025 09:33

Yesterday is school Christmas fayre. I'm on the raffle
When it is drawn some of the winner have gone home, but we have their phone numbers. Ring the three people who had won and gone home, tell them they have won and arrange to go round on my way home to give them their prize. State time (ish) my name etc.

Obviously it is dark and the first two houses have no external light, no big, but not sure of footing as not been to their homes before. At the third house a light comes on as I walk up the drive - lovely.

I knock the door - chap if in Scotland and woman come to the door.
" Tryer from Smith Street School I've brought your raffle prize. Thanks so much for having a light so I can see the way to your door."
She says. "We also have a bell, use it."
Not in a jokey way in a real talk to me like a child way.
I just gave her the prize and walked away.

AIBU to think what a cow.

OP posts:
Chemenger · 29/11/2025 09:45

It really bugs me when people don’t use our doorbell. The layout of the house means that there is no chance we will hear a knock at the front door but the bell rings in the kitchen so we always hear it. Now we have a Ring doorbell that chimes even if it isn’t pushed so we can answer. I wouldn’t be rude to someone who didn’t ring the bell though.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 29/11/2025 09:45

Rude of her to say that. It does seem that people don't ring very often though. We have a bell but not a door knocker and most people just rap the door with their knuckles

Palourdes · 29/11/2025 09:43

‘And I hope the rest of your day is as pleasant as you are!’

Sahara123 · 29/11/2025 09:43

People often miss our bell push, it’s one of those old fashioned looking ones . I just say thank you very much to the delivery person , no need for rudeness!

SausageRoll2020 · 29/11/2025 09:41

She sounds rude but why didn't you ring the bell? It's a very odd choice to knock when there is a doorbell.

Talltreesbythelake · 29/11/2025 09:38

What a rude woman. I wonder if she is cringing now, or if that is how she always speaks to those she considers "staff"?

Ithinkofawittyusernamethenforgetit · 29/11/2025 09:36

“And a merry Christmas to you too” 😂 would’ve been my reply (well, would’ve been too flummoxed to think of it at the time).
Agree - a cow.