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Man flu but I’m pregnant?

34 replies

Badfish1 · 29/11/2025 08:57

DH and I both have a bad cold that we’ve caught from our toddler, of course DH is incapacitated with his. I’ve felt ill since Monday and each morning have got up early with our toddler whilst he’s stayed in bed for another half an hour. We both work full time so this has meant I’ve got DC ready for nursery etc.

The thing is I’m also 37 weeks pregnant. This morning I got up again early with toddler and then told DH I need to lay in tomorrow as I feel awful, it’s gone to my chest now and I have a fever. He says I’m being petty and argumentative and is asking why we ‘can’t just feel as bad as each other’. AIBU to think on this one occasion my needs are greater than his?

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Coconutter24 · 29/11/2025 09:11

He didn’t seem to think both of you felt as bad as each other when he was having an extra half hour all week.

UninitendedShark · 29/11/2025 09:08

He’s a prick and you should down tools completely. If it’s gone to your chest and you’ve got a fever you should go to the doctor to be checked. Hope you feel better soon.

PersephoneParlormaid · 29/11/2025 09:08

You’re seeing the real man now.

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Badfish1 · 29/11/2025 09:08

MaybeItWasMe · 29/11/2025 09:03

You both need to look after yourselves. Why are you going to work if you feel so rotten and it’s gone to your chest? It much help this weekend but I would have called in sick, taken the toddler to nursery and gone back to bed for the day to recover. People who struggle into work ill also spread it around the workforce! If you’re sick, stay at home.

I did stay at home as I wfh. I also took half a day sick earlier this week but still have to get up with the toddler to get them to nursery?

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NImumconfused · 29/11/2025 09:07

He sounds awful. If you can both "feel as bad as each other", why has he not done his share of the getting up? Oh yes, it's because he's a selfish git...

Zanatdy · 29/11/2025 09:05

My God what a selfish arse. You’re 9 months pregnant but he has to lie in bed and you get on with it? And you’re petty? Wow. What a man.

toomuchfaff · 29/11/2025 09:03

Of course YANBU

Sounds like you've procreated (again) with a guy who doesnt give a shit whether you are healthy and feeling good or not, whilst carrying his child, its still your job to do everything with the toddler...

Good luck.

MaybeItWasMe · 29/11/2025 09:03

You both need to look after yourselves. Why are you going to work if you feel so rotten and it’s gone to your chest? It much help this weekend but I would have called in sick, taken the toddler to nursery and gone back to bed for the day to recover. People who struggle into work ill also spread it around the workforce! If you’re sick, stay at home.

Pollyanna87 · 29/11/2025 09:00

Your needs are 100% greater than his. Men are such wimps.