Man flu but I’m pregnant?

Gosh OP, I am so sorry that your DH is so awful. How is this going to play out when you have a toddler and a new born? You have to take care of yourself now, it’s vitally important to you and your baby. I would call the GP first thing Monday, if you have a fever. As for your husband, others have suggested good responses. Is he always like this, or is his attitude because he feels ill and ultra grumpy? No excuses either way, but is he usually loving and caring? Right now I literally hate him on your behalf. He is being and actual CU£T.

https://www.uhhospitals.org/health-information/health-and-wellness-library/article/adult-diseases-and-conditions-v0/the-lungs-in-pregnancy

What a dick.

Op in late pregnancy your lungs actually get squashed up. Flu is known to be particularly dangerous to pregnant women for this reason, also Covid.

If it’s on your chest I’d be inclined to seek medical advice as soon as convenient.

Is he actually stupid? If you were both as ill as each other, he'd have done his share. But pregnancy a. puts a huge strain on your body, so you feel shit anyway without even being ill, and b. Suppresses your immune system, so if you don't get chance to rest, you could end up being much more ill than him, and requiring medication that could affect the baby.

Seriously, letting your 37 week pregnant ill wife do your share of stuff as well as hers, and then shouting at her when she discusses it with you, is really fucking low and selfish and would actually make me rethink my entire relationship

OP - with the absolute best intentions here you NEED to prioritise yourself and your unborn baby.
I don’t want to tell you my horror stories of getting “just a regular cold/sickness” in pregnancy but your DH needs to fuck off with his attitude.
Being ill in pregnancy is not a joke or an “aren’t we both in the same boat” situation. If he can’t grasp that fact I’d have tell him that he’s not the person you thought he was. And/or bombard him with NHS information about it but I imagine that’d go right over his selfish head.

So he is telling you that he does think your job is to look after him and do all the work of the household when he feels unwell (and other times, who knows?). Your illness is less important than his. You are less of a person than he is.

I’m really sorry. It’s quite common among men to hold this view, unfortunately it tends not to show up until you have had at least one of their children. Happened to me too, luckily I was able to leave.

He is risking the life of your unborn child. You need to rest.

99.9% of men are more selfish than women because they can be.
They never get periods, become pregnant, breast-feed and are quite relaxed about leaving the bulk of childcare and household chores to women just like their mates do because it's the social norm and they are all net beneficiaries of it.

Men also systematically exaggerate their own symptoms while playing down women's based on my experience. My own husband is a full-blown hypochondriac, always in and out of the GP's clinic. I rarely go (5-6 years in between visits) and when I fell in the back garden, scraping the skin off the entire front of one shin, he thought it looked "a little bit sore". I drove myself to A&E where my leg was X-rayed to check it was not broken as my ankle was badly sprained and swollen like a melon.

Men are molly-coddled mainly by their mothers so the next generation needs to do less of this.

I don’t know your DH and I wasn’t in the same room as him when he said it but I know 100% that was sarcasm… surely you caught onto that?

YANBU. I had a bad cold when I was about 39 to 40 weeks pregnant with DC2. I then had a chest infection (first ever). I don't know if it was connected but DC2 was born with pneumonia and spent a week in SCBU.

Your DH is an Ahole! I’m a mum through adoption so never experienced pregnancy but even I know he’s being a total arse! Is he close to his mum? If so I’d be calling her and telling her what a spoilt brat she’s raised and see if she steps in to tell him what a total pr1ck he’s being. Even without the pregnancy in the equation why should he get to lay in and not pull his weight? Welcome to the world of parenting, it sucks because you literally can not call in sick to a toddler and he needs to man up and get on with it.

Your immune system is depressed and your lungs are being compressed due to the pressure of the baby.

You are actually at much higher risk of complications e.g. pneumonia

Happened to me when pregnant with my second, I am lucky to be alive.

Tell him to get his head out of his arse and seek medical attention if your breathing is struggling.

Of course he doesn't mean it. He's being sarcastic and a total prick. Honestly, I would be furious.

Your husband is a selfish prick

As pp. “We can feel as bad as each other. Therefore as I have supported your illness all week by doing the things that can’t just not be done, you can now take a turn supporting mine by doing those things. Our toddler has TWO parents. Thanks.”

Whether you WFH or not, you are still poorly, so should be off sick. You can take the time, when the toddler is in nursery to do some self-care, to sleep, have a warm drink, lie in the sofa etc.

Tell him you both feel exactly as bad as each other despite you also being 37 weeks pregnant and less able to take drugs for it. And so you will be having a 2.5 hour lie in tomorrow to make up for the four half hours he's had this week. What a prick

Op please look after yourself. Your immune system is depressed because you are pregnant.
Pay attention to your temperature. And get in touch with GP the second it starts to rise.

DH is going to have to step up, rest as much as you can this weekend to give your body a chance to recover.

I would just tell him, I feel ill, been up all week with toddler, 37 weeks pregnant, it’s his turn. I really hope he helps out this weekend, it shouldn’t be all on you.

Tell him you're both feeling rotten so it's his turn and as you're also pregnant he needs to pull his weight! Honestly, why are so many men so crap!!

I hate him for you

If you’re as unwell as each other, it still begs the question of why he can’t take his turn?

Wow. What an unbelievably massive arsehole. No way my DP would have done this to me when I was pregnant (or at all)

Actually you can be as poorly as each other but because you’re pregnant, the options for treatment (cold relief drugs) aren’t available for you as they are him.

how can he possibly think things are equal? And especially as you have got up every day this week and let him stay in bed.

seriously, go on strike, make him do his bit.