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AIBU to claim UC with a 'high' income

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Loriclimbs · 28/11/2025 19:15

I am very conflicted about lifting the two-child cap. I know many would benefit from it but it would lead us back to more abuse of the system. I, however, have three children myself. I have gratefully received UC in the past but as my income has grown I am currently no longer eligible.

With the addition of my youngest child, I will now be eligible for approximately £200 per month. I an a higher rate tax payer abd Icurrently pay over £1200 in income tax alone per month. I have to repay the majority of the child benefit I receive.

AIBU to claim what I am entitled to?

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socialdilemmawhattodo · 28/11/2025 21:53

BettysRoasties · 28/11/2025 19:40

Rent can tip you over, high childcare costs and if someone in the household
has a disability you can earn quite a bit and get uc.

But hence the gaming and insistence on disability diagnoses. Of course nobody on here would do that, but clearly many in the country do, looking at the beyond affordable social welfare costs. PS i have a child who has a disability. Child benefit was great and appreciated. That alone helped a lot. I dont pay rent, but did pay a mortgage for many years. But I worry about my older friends who rent into and beyond retirement. They will also need support - state pension + lower paid work ( so little to no private pension) will mean support from the state. I genuinely do not understand how we as a country are going to afford to do this.

Teathecolourofcreosote · 28/11/2025 21:52

Having plugged in the numbers, we'd be better off if I dropped a day at work.

We do have savings just over £16k but these would pay off the remaining mortgage which it seems is an acceptable use.

I find it mind boggling.

I'm not going to do it but it's insane. I could be mortgage free, work less and still have the same at the end of the month. The system is goosed

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 28/11/2025 21:50

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 28/11/2025 21:42

In the financial year 2023/2024 the government paid out £31.8 billion.
Don’t know what the spilt in between private rent and council rent though.
It is expected to rise to £35 billion by 2028.

The tax payers paid out….

HPFA · 28/11/2025 21:48

Empar · 28/11/2025 21:32

Anyone else wonder about all this universal credit paid to landlords through rent? It must be a HUGE amount. Lots of private equity and banks are becoming mega landlords, so we're effectively transferring huge amounts of taxpayer cash to billionaires. I'm actually more concerned about my tax going offshore to billionaires, than to disabled or hungry kids...

Imagine a world where we hadn't destroyed social housing, hadn't left the EU and had used the austerity years (where borrowing costs were virtually nil) to properly invest in public services.

We wouldn't have a perfect society but bloody hell, it would be better than what we have now.

We've had fourteen years of cutting welfare spending and public services and where has it left us? Poorer than before and, funnily enough, welfare costs are just as high!

Reform blame foreigners, Tories blame scroungers, Labour blame Tories, Greens blame billionaires, but it's really just us. We see the consequences of all these mistakes and demand they're made over and over again.

2x4greenbrick · 28/11/2025 21:47

BarkItOff · 28/11/2025 21:45

And yes I know how carers allowance works. If you earn just £1 over the cut off you lose the entire amount, making you worse off for working.

In that case, put £2 into a pension.

It may list CA and UC separately but CA is deducted £for£. CA should still be claimed though for the better NI credits.

BarkItOff · 28/11/2025 21:45

2x4greenbrick · 28/11/2025 21:39

Carer’s allowance is deducted £ for £ from UC.

It isn’t that you can’t claim carer’s allowance when working. It is that you earn over the threshold. Some receiving CA still work. So long as their earnings after certain deductions are under the threshold.

And yes I know how carers allowance works. If you earn just £1 over the cut off you lose the entire amount, making you worse off for working.

MrsChrimbo · 28/11/2025 21:43

After reading this I have reached peak-benefit and I am done with peoples noses in the trough when they should be working or living within their means or just having one or two DC like the prudent rest of us.

Of course, go ahead and claim what you are entitled to.

Since you and others are getting money for free, you can pick up the slack for donations to the food banks, toy donations and for the homeless from now.

BarkItOff · 28/11/2025 21:42

2x4greenbrick · 28/11/2025 21:39

Carer’s allowance is deducted £ for £ from UC.

It isn’t that you can’t claim carer’s allowance when working. It is that you earn over the threshold. Some receiving CA still work. So long as their earnings after certain deductions are under the threshold.

The calculator listed amounts for UC and carers allowance separately. I used the calculator linked to on the gov.uk site

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 28/11/2025 21:42

Empar · 28/11/2025 21:32

Anyone else wonder about all this universal credit paid to landlords through rent? It must be a HUGE amount. Lots of private equity and banks are becoming mega landlords, so we're effectively transferring huge amounts of taxpayer cash to billionaires. I'm actually more concerned about my tax going offshore to billionaires, than to disabled or hungry kids...

In the financial year 2023/2024 the government paid out £31.8 billion.
Don’t know what the spilt in between private rent and council rent though.
It is expected to rise to £35 billion by 2028.

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 28/11/2025 21:40

I’ve just tried doing the calculation with our income of £50k and we are entitled to nothing.

2x4greenbrick · 28/11/2025 21:39

BarkItOff · 28/11/2025 21:37

I really hope it’s not reliable because it’s plain depressing! It wasn’t just UC that meant it was higher though. There was also carers allowance, that I can’t claim now because I work.

Carer’s allowance is deducted £ for £ from UC.

It isn’t that you can’t claim carer’s allowance when working. It is that you earn over the threshold. Some receiving CA still work. So long as their earnings after certain deductions are under the threshold.

BustyLaRoux · 28/11/2025 21:38

BettysRoasties · 28/11/2025 19:30

As a reminder. As of September all children whose parents get universal credit will also get free school meals.

Isn’t that in September 2026?

BarkItOff · 28/11/2025 21:37

2x4greenbrick · 28/11/2025 21:33

I didn’t say it was the case for all, but it is for many.

As I said, something went wrong with your online calculator calculations. They aren’t always reliable. If comparing like for like circumstances, because of the work allowance and earnings taper, a claimant would not receive more UC when not working than they would in UC and earnings if they were working.

I really hope it’s not reliable because it’s plain depressing! It wasn’t just UC that meant it was higher though. There was also carers allowance, that I can’t claim now because I work.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 28/11/2025 21:36

DaffodilValley · 28/11/2025 21:04

My partner who is on state pension and nothing else, I have a mortgage (and still 10 years left to pay on it).

This is why you aren’t eligible. You need to have dependants and be renting.

BunnyLake · 28/11/2025 21:36

mamagogo1 · 28/11/2025 19:39

how is anyone on over £40k eligible? We didn’t even get child benefit let alone uc, I no suspect it’s because we actually had a mortgage not paying rent?

I find the whole system perplexing. I applied recently but qualified for zero because I have a small work pension (£300pm) and a small part time job that pays £400pm. I have an injury that makes working more hours really hard but have been declined for help there. It seems if you either don't have children or they are over 18 you get zilch. The most I could get is less than £80 pm and that is only if I give up my job. 🤷‍♀️

2x4greenbrick · 28/11/2025 21:35

BarkItOff · 28/11/2025 21:31

That’s the same for those working with disabled children though. Where are they getting this extra money from?

Their earnings. If they are not eligible for UC, their earnings will be higher than the UC they would receive if not working because of the work allowance and earnings taper. As I said, the online calculations you did were wrong.

2x4greenbrick · 28/11/2025 21:33

BarkItOff · 28/11/2025 21:30

This isn’t the case for all though.

I’ve had to call in sick to work when my child has been up all night or take unpaid carers leave. My partner works from home in a flexible job, purposely chosen to manage the needs of the children, so someone is available if my daughter can’t go into school.

It’s not easy but if there are 2 parents to share the load and the child has appropriate support in place it is possible. Of course it’s not possible for some. But should we be really be paying benefits that mean it’s better for people to be at home than earning a £34k salary because that seems insane to me. Again remember that’s on top of the DLA and PIP. I was £400 a month better off leaving work.

Of course don’t leave these families in poverty but for those that struggle to hold down jobs around their children’s needs it’s pretty galling to realise it’s all for nothing and I shouldn’t bother.

I didn’t say it was the case for all, but it is for many.

As I said, something went wrong with your online calculator calculations. They aren’t always reliable. If comparing like for like circumstances, because of the work allowance and earnings taper, a claimant would not receive more UC when not working than they would in UC and earnings if they were working.

Empar · 28/11/2025 21:32

Anyone else wonder about all this universal credit paid to landlords through rent? It must be a HUGE amount. Lots of private equity and banks are becoming mega landlords, so we're effectively transferring huge amounts of taxpayer cash to billionaires. I'm actually more concerned about my tax going offshore to billionaires, than to disabled or hungry kids...

BarkItOff · 28/11/2025 21:31

2x4greenbrick · 28/11/2025 21:23

For many, DLA/PIP alone does not cover the cost of disability related expenses. According to Scope’s latest disability price tag research, disabled households need an extra £1,095 each month on average to have the same standard of living as non-disabled households.

That’s the same for those working with disabled children though. Where are they getting this extra money from?

Raggededges · 28/11/2025 21:31

You can if you want. I wouldn't if you don't need it. DWP can be quite intrusive. You'd have to be happy to give them access to your bank accounts for example, if they request it.

BarkItOff · 28/11/2025 21:30

2x4greenbrick · 28/11/2025 20:53

What about once those children are in school?

Some parents of disabled DC sleep when their DC is in school because their DC doesn’t sleep much at night. Some disabled DC have lots of appointments &/or hospital admissions &/or meetings. Some parents need to do things they are unable to do when their disabled DC are at home such as paperwork, phone calls, laundry, etc. Some disabled DC aren’t in school/aren’t in school full-time. There are numerous other reasons why some carers cannot work even in school time.

This isn’t the case for all though.

I’ve had to call in sick to work when my child has been up all night or take unpaid carers leave. My partner works from home in a flexible job, purposely chosen to manage the needs of the children, so someone is available if my daughter can’t go into school.

It’s not easy but if there are 2 parents to share the load and the child has appropriate support in place it is possible. Of course it’s not possible for some. But should we be really be paying benefits that mean it’s better for people to be at home than earning a £34k salary because that seems insane to me. Again remember that’s on top of the DLA and PIP. I was £400 a month better off leaving work.

Of course don’t leave these families in poverty but for those that struggle to hold down jobs around their children’s needs it’s pretty galling to realise it’s all for nothing and I shouldn’t bother.

pocklechip · 28/11/2025 21:27

We are a high income household and claim DLA (which isn’t means tested) I have been told we are greedy on MN for this previously, but we are only taking what we are legally entitled to. I’m not rich enough or too proud to turn down money!

Moonlightfrog · 28/11/2025 21:26

HPFA · 28/11/2025 21:13

So for a family with a disabled child and having to rent what exactly do people here want to happen? Assume one parent has a minimum wage job and other parent can't work.

Take the child, stick them in a care home and tell both the parents to get a job? Withdraw the housing benefit and put them on the street?

This is going to be the end result of continually attacking the benefit system.

Exactly….and how much would it cost to put a child/young adult into residential care? A lot more than what it does to pay the family UC so they can care for their child/adult.

I have asked social services several times to put my dd into residential care (she is now an adult so not as a child) so I can work and not be so tired all the time. My own health has suffered due to lack of sleep and stress. Every time I have asked they have begged me to keep her here with me, have promised more support and asked what they can do for me to continue caring for her. Because the costs of her getting 24 hour care elsewhere would be extortionate.

Viviennemary · 28/11/2025 21:26

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 28/11/2025 20:56

So everyone who is encouraging the OP to claim is happy for wealthy pensioners to accept the winter fuel allowance?

Wealthy pensioners aren't getting winter fuel allowance. No payment if you earn over £35k.

2x4greenbrick · 28/11/2025 21:23

Namechange4344 · 28/11/2025 21:17

I feel exactly the same. I also have a disabled child who gets middle-rate DLA, but not entitled to UC as both DH and I work and have a mortgage.

However, if I didn't work and we rented, we'd be better off.

What I don't understand is why people on UC who get DLA then get an additional disabled child element as part of UC - the DLA is for the disability, so what's the disabled element for? My employer doesn't give me anything extra for having a disabled child!

For many, DLA/PIP alone does not cover the cost of disability related expenses. According to Scope’s latest disability price tag research, disabled households need an extra £1,095 each month on average to have the same standard of living as non-disabled households.