DS is 14. He’s largely well behaved but like most teenagers does the odd stupid thing.
i got a call from school today to say he’d been bullying another pupil.
I asked what had happened and he had apparently thrown a cake at a boy and thrown an orange at him the previous day and was being put in isolation for the rest of today and all of Monday. Fair enough. Throwing food at another pupil is totally unacceptable and there should be consequences.
However I asked if they had spoken to DS and if he had said why he had done this. The teacher said yes and he had said the boy had called him a cunt. She then said she told DS it wasn’t her job to believe or disbelieve him but she had had the pleasure of teaching this boy and he was a model student so she didn’t believe DS. So DS had done this for no reason
i said I didn’t believe that DS had done this for no reason and that he had told me last week about this boy calling him a cunt. I also said that DS isn’t perfect but he is honest. However he was not good at putting across his side of things and when confronted tended to shut down and just say yes and I struggled to get him to report things as he was worried he wouldn’t be believed. Which she had now just cemented.
DD came home and told me that he explained this boy had been calling him greasy, fat, a fat cunt and so on for about a week and also getting his friends to squirt water at them. He told the teacher this and she said about not believing him due to this other child being a model pupil. She then went through DSs behaviour record noting two previous incidents (pushing a friend over when playing too roughly and an incident where another boy beat DS up but he also got sanctioned as he fought back though came off a lot worse and it was acknowledged by the school he didn’t start it). The school says they start each day at zero with behaviour. Clearly not.
she then told DS she though the reason he had thrown food at this boy was that he was smaller than him and an easy target. DS is six foot tall. They are all smaller than him.
I wonder if she would comment on his motivations being due to any other physical characteristics such as him being fat? I think it’s inappropriate.
obviously I am cross at DS for throwing the food and agre he needs to be punished. However o am angry that HE has been bullied by the other child which has been totally dismissed based on the teachers opinion of the other boy, that he was not believed and that she commented on his physical appearance as a motivator.
AIBU to contact the school and raise this or am o being “that” mum?