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to be fed up of hearing 'I've worked hard for my money'

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newbluesofa · 28/11/2025 15:41

Lots of chat on MN recently about taxes on high earners. So heard lots of 'we have this money because we work bloody hard for it' and honestly I'm sick of it and think the people who say it are selfish.

Nurses work incredibly hard, long shifts, difficult job. Carers provide absolutely essential service, again shift work, difficult hours, difficult job. Teachers provide essential work, I know multiple teachers and they all devote evenings, weekends, school holidays to the detriment of their own families. All of these jobs also have huge emotional tolls. So 'I've worked hard for my money' means nothing to me, because a lot of people work a lot harder for a lot less.

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dreamiesformolly · 30/11/2025 18:44

Papyrophile · 30/11/2025 17:45

You see I think this accusation that anyone is privileged who is not disabled is a red herring. Most people are not disabled, and personally, I am happy to provide financial support via my tax bill to those who are physically or intellectually incapable of doing a job. My sympathy dries up completely when a person wants UC on specious grounds, like being ADHD. To the young woman sitting in the charity shop doorway begging, yesterday, I say you have two arms and two legs. You don't need to pass an exam, you only need to turn up, be willing to do whatever task is set you, and come back again tomorrow for your next shift. You are now welcome back to the world of us who work.

That would be all very well and good if there were actually enough jobs to go round, so that poor young woman could actually stand a chance of getting one. 🙄 Seriously, give your head a wobble. Where are a) your common sense, and b) your heart?

Papyrophile · 30/11/2025 18:43

I probably will continue to bang on that only people who are ready to work will do well. The rest of them, good luck chums. Not on my tax receipts if I have any say in the outcome.

@UserFront242 it's an NVQ in Commercial Crop Propagation. Comes with certification in operating most agricultural machinery, and will probably move into an Agronomy degree.

PrawnsForDinner · 30/11/2025 18:40

pocklechip · 30/11/2025 18:35

What is your definition of privilege exactly if you feel grateful but don’t recognise it as a privilege?

An advantage you get that most of the population don't have. Like going to an Eton level school.

PrawnsForDinner · 30/11/2025 18:39

newbluesofa · 30/11/2025 18:22

I'm calling it, I think the thread is officially dead when there are just a few people left debating with people who think being able-bodied is not a privilege and that homeless people just need to turn up to work

By that extent am I privileged to not be blind? I am fortunate and grateful to have been born in good health. Those with disabilities need help.

By that extent are we all privileged to be living in the United Kingdom versus lets say Nigeria or Sudan? I wasn't even born here and I moved. Things are better in the UK than in most of the developed world.

UserFront242 · 30/11/2025 18:36

Papyrophile · 30/11/2025 18:31

Where I live there are crops unpicked that could be in your supermarket for sale if people picked them for sale. Most such jobs will have dormitory accommodation too. Uncomfortable? Yes, very uncomfortable. And cold wet inhospitable conditions. But my DS is doing this work as an apprentice, as a preparation for better paid work once qualified. Digging ditches last week!

This has to be satire.
You don't need an apprenticeship to pick veg, just like all the other bullshit apprenticeships I have seen such as barista work, bar work, and making tea. One year of full time work on well less than NMW, a nonsense "qualifications", and no job at the end of it. Rinse and Repeat. It is just an excuse for employers to pay next to nothing and get cheap labour. Those jobs should be paying proper wage with proper conditions. Those are the sorts of jobs that take a few weeks of shadowing and training to do.

pocklechip · 30/11/2025 18:35

PrawnsForDinner · 30/11/2025 17:56

Thank you so much. I can never blame a disabled person for being disabled. But I don't feel "privileged" for the mere fact my body works. I am grateful.

What is your definition of privilege exactly if you feel grateful but don’t recognise it as a privilege?

EligibleTern · 30/11/2025 18:32

Is this thread going to end any time soon? Enough of the Dickensian stuff.

Papyrophile · 30/11/2025 18:31

Where I live there are crops unpicked that could be in your supermarket for sale if people picked them for sale. Most such jobs will have dormitory accommodation too. Uncomfortable? Yes, very uncomfortable. And cold wet inhospitable conditions. But my DS is doing this work as an apprentice, as a preparation for better paid work once qualified. Digging ditches last week!

SleeplessInWherever · 30/11/2025 18:26

@PrawnsForDinner & @Papyrophile

You really are both a special breed.

The reason you have what you have is because you’re privileged. You may have overcome something to achieve that, but you’re again, privileged, to have been able to.

Having two arms and legs doesn’t make a worker. You cannot walk into employment off the streets and reliably make that work. That’s not “work ready” means.

I don’t quite understand why someone would go on holiday to Leeds. Particularly someone allegedly wealthy. But taking a laptop with you is representative of a poor work life balance. Enjoy that burn out when it arrives. Maybe encourage your son to get some rest.

newbluesofa · 30/11/2025 18:22

I'm calling it, I think the thread is officially dead when there are just a few people left debating with people who think being able-bodied is not a privilege and that homeless people just need to turn up to work

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UserFront242 · 30/11/2025 17:57

Papyrophile · 30/11/2025 17:45

You see I think this accusation that anyone is privileged who is not disabled is a red herring. Most people are not disabled, and personally, I am happy to provide financial support via my tax bill to those who are physically or intellectually incapable of doing a job. My sympathy dries up completely when a person wants UC on specious grounds, like being ADHD. To the young woman sitting in the charity shop doorway begging, yesterday, I say you have two arms and two legs. You don't need to pass an exam, you only need to turn up, be willing to do whatever task is set you, and come back again tomorrow for your next shift. You are now welcome back to the world of us who work.

Turn up to what? A job? How do you get a job if you are homeless? Also all the issues that often accompany it like substance abuse.
Someone begging needs a lot more intervention and support before they can think about work.

PrawnsForDinner · 30/11/2025 17:56

Papyrophile · 30/11/2025 17:45

You see I think this accusation that anyone is privileged who is not disabled is a red herring. Most people are not disabled, and personally, I am happy to provide financial support via my tax bill to those who are physically or intellectually incapable of doing a job. My sympathy dries up completely when a person wants UC on specious grounds, like being ADHD. To the young woman sitting in the charity shop doorway begging, yesterday, I say you have two arms and two legs. You don't need to pass an exam, you only need to turn up, be willing to do whatever task is set you, and come back again tomorrow for your next shift. You are now welcome back to the world of us who work.

Thank you so much. I can never blame a disabled person for being disabled. But I don't feel "privileged" for the mere fact my body works. I am grateful.

newbluesofa · 30/11/2025 17:56

ForHazelTiger · 30/11/2025 17:53

Bloody hell 😐

I don't really want to engage with this as I think they must be trolling. No one can genuinely think that a homeless person just needs to get a job. What address would they put on the contract? Not to mention the amount of people on here who post about how difficult their darling teens are finding it to get a first job because of the market at the moment - how much harder would it be for a homeless person! They can't be serious

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ForHazelTiger · 30/11/2025 17:53

Papyrophile · 30/11/2025 17:45

You see I think this accusation that anyone is privileged who is not disabled is a red herring. Most people are not disabled, and personally, I am happy to provide financial support via my tax bill to those who are physically or intellectually incapable of doing a job. My sympathy dries up completely when a person wants UC on specious grounds, like being ADHD. To the young woman sitting in the charity shop doorway begging, yesterday, I say you have two arms and two legs. You don't need to pass an exam, you only need to turn up, be willing to do whatever task is set you, and come back again tomorrow for your next shift. You are now welcome back to the world of us who work.

Bloody hell 😐

pocklechip · 30/11/2025 17:48

PrawnsForDinner · 30/11/2025 17:36

My son lost sleep last year over a project he was the lead analyst on. Was so worried about messing stuff up and getting told off.Thankfully that project went well and the client loved the output.

This year he's had to work till 1am a few times because work was getting a lot. Stuff needed to be done and not delivering was not an option. Even took his laptop with him on holiday to Leeds because some projects would have slipped with him being on AL.

Oh for heaven’s sake how daft are you. Yes of course not having a disability is a privilege. There are lots of ways you can be privileged; for me it’s things like having parents that loved and supported me, the fact I escaped childhood without trauma, the fact I have a baseline of intelligence and was able to utilise my education. That’s just the beginning, none of those things are a dead cert. The fact is we do not start life as equals, so much of our life is determined by things that are set before we even take our first breath.

Papyrophile · 30/11/2025 17:45

newbluesofa · 30/11/2025 16:13

...did you just ask if it's a privilege to not be disabled?

I was wasting my time this whole thread talking to you, yikes

You see I think this accusation that anyone is privileged who is not disabled is a red herring. Most people are not disabled, and personally, I am happy to provide financial support via my tax bill to those who are physically or intellectually incapable of doing a job. My sympathy dries up completely when a person wants UC on specious grounds, like being ADHD. To the young woman sitting in the charity shop doorway begging, yesterday, I say you have two arms and two legs. You don't need to pass an exam, you only need to turn up, be willing to do whatever task is set you, and come back again tomorrow for your next shift. You are now welcome back to the world of us who work.

pocklechip · 30/11/2025 17:44

PrawnsForDinner · 30/11/2025 17:22

Exactly. With the disabled thing, 25% of the population is disabled. I have sympathy for them and they should receive help, especially those too disabled to work.

But since being not disabled is in the majority already is that really a privilege? I'd understand being born into a millionaire family as privilege as that is an advantage the minority don't have.

So even if you come from a low income background, work hard and become successful you're still privileged because you're not disabled?

51% of the population is female, do you reject the idea of male privilege in the work place?

VividLemonLeader · 30/11/2025 17:37

There are arguments for both sides.
If you are not prepared to invest (hard work, international moves, unpleasant work environment, work that isn’t fun), don’t complain. My work pays very well, but it is - work. It is not a calling, it isn’t fun. It’s ok though, not terrible.
Some jobs aren’t well paid. I avoided them, although some i would love to do (academia). I chose not to, for economic reasons.
The challenge is that some jobs should be paid much better than they are (nurses, carers), and need to be done.
However, this doesn’t change the fact that high earning careers are usually earned. When i look at potential interns, its usually very obvious who will have a career, and who won’t. Preparation, drive, experience outside school/university, initiative are all free - and make a ton of difference.

PrawnsForDinner · 30/11/2025 17:36

Papyrophile · 30/11/2025 17:18

On the contrary, while I acknowledge that you work hard physically and that it is strenuous, when you have finished you take nothing home. Most "intellectual" jobs don't involve lifting anything heavier than a pen, but you take all the thought burden home and mull on it overnight and hope you go back to work with a better answer. I spent this morning clearing leaves, probably close to half a ton in weight, and cleaning out drains. At my house rather than paid labouring. But I can still think even though my body is tired so here I am replying to you.

My son lost sleep last year over a project he was the lead analyst on. Was so worried about messing stuff up and getting told off.Thankfully that project went well and the client loved the output.

This year he's had to work till 1am a few times because work was getting a lot. Stuff needed to be done and not delivering was not an option. Even took his laptop with him on holiday to Leeds because some projects would have slipped with him being on AL.

SleeplessInWherever · 30/11/2025 17:29

PrawnsForDinner · 30/11/2025 17:22

Exactly. With the disabled thing, 25% of the population is disabled. I have sympathy for them and they should receive help, especially those too disabled to work.

But since being not disabled is in the majority already is that really a privilege? I'd understand being born into a millionaire family as privilege as that is an advantage the minority don't have.

So even if you come from a low income background, work hard and become successful you're still privileged because you're not disabled?

Depends on the level of disability.

I would argue that anyone who can verbalise their thoughts and feelings is advantaged. I’m sure a quadriplegic would argue that I’m advantaged for having arms and legs.

You can outrun a disadvantaged background, with the right determination and crucially, the actual ability to do so, you can’t outrun a disability.

ForHazelTiger · 30/11/2025 17:25

CheeseIsMyIdol · 30/11/2025 17:13

So basically you discount and dismiss any effort or achievement by people who weren’t raised in disadvantaged circumstances ?

🙄

I 'worked hard', got some of the top exam results in the country, went to a prestigious university. Believe me - it's a pretty smooth process for most people in those systems. Working hard is easy and satisfying if you are doing something you are suited to. I don't credit myself for working hard because I was in my element - it really wasn't difficult.

PrawnsForDinner · 30/11/2025 17:22

CheeseIsMyIdol · 30/11/2025 17:13

So basically you discount and dismiss any effort or achievement by people who weren’t raised in disadvantaged circumstances ?

Exactly. With the disabled thing, 25% of the population is disabled. I have sympathy for them and they should receive help, especially those too disabled to work.

But since being not disabled is in the majority already is that really a privilege? I'd understand being born into a millionaire family as privilege as that is an advantage the minority don't have.

So even if you come from a low income background, work hard and become successful you're still privileged because you're not disabled?

newbluesofa · 30/11/2025 17:22

I really wish I could leave this thread as it's exhausting 😅 But keep feeling as if there's more to say. Some people have pointed out that it was a very divisive OP which I admit, it came from a place on anger and deep frustration so i should've approached it better. However, I feel like the thing I'm addressing is the divisiveness.

As many people have pointed out here in better ways than I did, the problem with 'well I worked hard for my money' is that often it implies 'as opposed to poorer people who didn't work as hard' and/or 'and wealth is directly proportional to hard work'. Many people have posted here saying exactly those things.

THAT is divisive. The thing is even if you earn a really decent wage, you're still below the 1%, the real elite class of people who come from generational wealth, whose families have known each other and for generations. Yes some billionaires are self-made. But there is am entire upper class of people whose lives are so different to everyone else's, including you with your 100k salary. Those are the people we should be looking to. Those are the people whose wealth has grown exponentially over the last 20 years while the cost of living crisis has developed.

Anyone know that poem First They Came? If we don't look out for each other now, if you don't look out for the lower and middle earners now, they'll come for you next. Don't look down when assigning blame, look up. I bet those people who do choose to just live off benefits (I'm not naive, yes SOME people do do this) are costing far less money than the wealthy are dodging. Or taking from taxpayer money. Remember all that great PPE taxpayers paid private businesses for...

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Papyrophile · 30/11/2025 17:18

RescueMeFromThisSilliness · 30/11/2025 12:07

Pople who sit behind a desk do not know the meaning of hard work.

Try mucking out a long row of stables, hacking at a coal face, digging trenches & mending roads, refuse-collecting, tree surgery, cleaning dozens of hotel bedrooms, lugging cardboard boxes round a warehouse for 10 hours, looking after umpteen shrieking toddlers in a day nursery or holding the hand of a terminally ill person as they die. That's what hard work is.

On the contrary, while I acknowledge that you work hard physically and that it is strenuous, when you have finished you take nothing home. Most "intellectual" jobs don't involve lifting anything heavier than a pen, but you take all the thought burden home and mull on it overnight and hope you go back to work with a better answer. I spent this morning clearing leaves, probably close to half a ton in weight, and cleaning out drains. At my house rather than paid labouring. But I can still think even though my body is tired so here I am replying to you.

CheeseIsMyIdol · 30/11/2025 17:13

ForHazelTiger · 30/11/2025 16:37

It's easy to work hard in those circumstances

So basically you discount and dismiss any effort or achievement by people who weren’t raised in disadvantaged circumstances ?

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