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to be fed up of hearing 'I've worked hard for my money'

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newbluesofa · 28/11/2025 15:41

Lots of chat on MN recently about taxes on high earners. So heard lots of 'we have this money because we work bloody hard for it' and honestly I'm sick of it and think the people who say it are selfish.

Nurses work incredibly hard, long shifts, difficult job. Carers provide absolutely essential service, again shift work, difficult hours, difficult job. Teachers provide essential work, I know multiple teachers and they all devote evenings, weekends, school holidays to the detriment of their own families. All of these jobs also have huge emotional tolls. So 'I've worked hard for my money' means nothing to me, because a lot of people work a lot harder for a lot less.

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PrawnsForDinner · 29/11/2025 12:28

SleeplessInWherever · 29/11/2025 12:09

It’s not about admonishing people for having anything, it’s about smug superiority.

There’s a reason some people don’t like “the rich,” and it’s because they’re arseholes shout it.

Nothing about superiority (though our incomes are numerically). It's about the tax we pay and the fact that we want to be able to keep more of what we earn. We already pay the most, and now the government want even more.

dreamiesformolly · 29/11/2025 12:20

PrawnsForDinner · 29/11/2025 12:04

They get a starting salary of around £31k. That's perfectly fine as an entry pay. It's an honourable job I admit that. But doctors start on £38k and have a higher trajectory. That's for a reason

Yeah, I wasn't really talking about their salaries, I was commenting on the wording of your post, which (to me anyway) felt like you were saying nursing was an unskilled job.

thedramaQueen · 29/11/2025 12:15

newbluesofa · 29/11/2025 09:58

I 'gasp' the complexity just fine thank you. I felt my post was quite clear that I was fed up of the ATTITUDE, but I'm surprised how many people have managed to miss that and think I'm saying that people shouldn't be allowed to earn a high wage. It's also been eye opening and saddening to see the number of people who genuinely think that it's as simple as 'the way to get lots of money is just to work hard'

Agree.

Many are missing the point, that people who have the higher paying jobs, often (not always) have had more opportunities, such as private schooling. It's not that people don't want those jobs, it's more that they have not had the opportunities required to get those jobs.

SleeplessInWherever · 29/11/2025 12:09

Christmascarrotjumper · 29/11/2025 12:06

I think that's hypocrisy to be honest. We can't fawn over contributions of one sort, but admonish the mention of another.
The OP is all about how important nurses etc are and how hard they work, and they are and they do. But we need financial contributions as well.

It’s not about admonishing people for having anything, it’s about smug superiority.

There’s a reason some people don’t like “the rich,” and it’s because they’re arseholes shout it.

Christmascarrotjumper · 29/11/2025 12:06

SleeplessInWherever · 29/11/2025 11:02

I personally have no issue with anyone saying they work hard, regardless of their level or salary. People of all economic levels work hard.

My issue is when they use it as some sort of leverage, like they deserve a round of applause for doing a job they chose to do. Yes you’ve made sacrifices, you chose to.

Worse, when they are of the opinion that people should bow down to their superior tax input and show them endless gratitude.

“We keep this country running, people should be grateful for our mere existence.”

This isn’t Oliver Twist, stop treating people like peasants.

I think that's hypocrisy to be honest. We can't fawn over contributions of one sort, but admonish the mention of another.
The OP is all about how important nurses etc are and how hard they work, and they are and they do. But we need financial contributions as well.

PrawnsForDinner · 29/11/2025 12:04

dreamiesformolly · 29/11/2025 12:01

Do you know what nursing training actually entails these days? They're not wiping arses all day, those days have gone.

They get a starting salary of around £31k. That's perfectly fine as an entry pay. It's an honourable job I admit that. But doctors start on £38k and have a higher trajectory. That's for a reason

dreamiesformolly · 29/11/2025 12:01

PrawnsForDinner · 29/11/2025 11:29

Hard work and SKILL

Lower paid jobs are usually less skilled and that's why. There's a reason the doctor pay trajectory vastly surpasses the nurses.

Do you know what nursing training actually entails these days? They're not wiping arses all day, those days have gone.

C152 · 29/11/2025 11:46

Like some others, I don't have an issue with people saying, 'I worked hard for my money' and it doesn't necessarily imply that others didn't or that anyone in the equation is worth less than the other. I think what people generally mean when they use, 'I worked hard for my money', to say they're pissed off at paying higher taxes is that they're pissed off that they can't see/feel the value in the taxes they've already paid and therefore resent paying even more and getting the same or, more likely, less.

PrawnsForDinner · 29/11/2025 11:29

newbluesofa · 29/11/2025 10:48

I never said people who earn a lot of money don't work hard, some people are so wilfully ignorant 🙄

The point is that when wealthy people say they're wealthy because they worked hard it both devalues the work of people on lower wages and ignores any privilege they had. Yes people will come along and say 'I started with nothing and pulled myself up from my bootstraps' but the majority of wealthy people come from a place of privilege and it's disingenuous to act as if they got there through hard work alone.

Hard work and SKILL

Lower paid jobs are usually less skilled and that's why. There's a reason the doctor pay trajectory vastly surpasses the nurses.

whateverintheworld · 29/11/2025 11:18

newbluesofa · 29/11/2025 10:48

I never said people who earn a lot of money don't work hard, some people are so wilfully ignorant 🙄

The point is that when wealthy people say they're wealthy because they worked hard it both devalues the work of people on lower wages and ignores any privilege they had. Yes people will come along and say 'I started with nothing and pulled myself up from my bootstraps' but the majority of wealthy people come from a place of privilege and it's disingenuous to act as if they got there through hard work alone.

You say people who earn a lot less work a lot harder in your original post. I disagree with that. I think I work as hard as a nurse and I give the same amount back to society - a nurse saves lives directly my taxes save lives indirectly.

NoKidsSendDogs · 29/11/2025 11:11

Bellsbeachwaves · 29/11/2025 06:56

Leeches? I think you have a dark view of the world and the people in it.

I've heard talk of an exit tax...

There are vulnerable people who genuinely need help and yes, leeches. The ones who do nothing, have child and after child and just take.

Our assets have been moved, they can attempt an exit tax all they want, they aren't getting shit from us.

SleeplessInWherever · 29/11/2025 11:02

I personally have no issue with anyone saying they work hard, regardless of their level or salary. People of all economic levels work hard.

My issue is when they use it as some sort of leverage, like they deserve a round of applause for doing a job they chose to do. Yes you’ve made sacrifices, you chose to.

Worse, when they are of the opinion that people should bow down to their superior tax input and show them endless gratitude.

“We keep this country running, people should be grateful for our mere existence.”

This isn’t Oliver Twist, stop treating people like peasants.

newbluesofa · 29/11/2025 10:48

whateverintheworld · 29/11/2025 09:52

The OP any many others on this thread are saying they don’t agree with it and are annoyed by it…

I never said people who earn a lot of money don't work hard, some people are so wilfully ignorant 🙄

The point is that when wealthy people say they're wealthy because they worked hard it both devalues the work of people on lower wages and ignores any privilege they had. Yes people will come along and say 'I started with nothing and pulled myself up from my bootstraps' but the majority of wealthy people come from a place of privilege and it's disingenuous to act as if they got there through hard work alone.

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Marshmallow4545 · 29/11/2025 10:24

SleeplessInWherever · 29/11/2025 08:53

Yes. As in not be totally self sufficient.

Which is apparently the issue?

No, but nobody is completely self sufficient from birth. The point is that you are taking steps towards being as self sufficient as possible. Some very important jobs or roles will never pay enough for someone to be totally self sufficient but lots of roles do, especially if you work your way up. The reality is though that some people would rather have an easier life, enjoy a better work:life balance and be around for their kids more. Fine, but then don't ask those that don't have these advantages and trade it for more pay to then subsidise you.

MurdoMunro · 29/11/2025 10:14

Hahahaha ‘consultants’. Brilliant.

BunnyLake · 29/11/2025 10:11

Dagda · 29/11/2025 10:03

I agree. It’s a bizarre attitude. We also will always need people to collect the bins, work in retail, clean the streets. All of these people deserve to be able to pay for a decent standard of living. It’s the gap in earnings that is the problem, of course some jobs will always pay more than other jobs but if wealth was redistributed more equally, it would be better for all of society.

A lot of it is down to how replaceable you are. Easily replaced lower earnings, harder to replace because of your skills, knowledge, experience - higher earnings. You could be working as a consultant from your sofa in between watching Real Housewives and charging a lot purely for your brain.

ForHazelTiger · 29/11/2025 10:08

Dagda · 29/11/2025 10:03

I agree. It’s a bizarre attitude. We also will always need people to collect the bins, work in retail, clean the streets. All of these people deserve to be able to pay for a decent standard of living. It’s the gap in earnings that is the problem, of course some jobs will always pay more than other jobs but if wealth was redistributed more equally, it would be better for all of society.

Yes - in such a complex and unjust world it is meaningless to value people on how 'hard' they work. It's far too simplistic.

Dagda · 29/11/2025 10:03

newbluesofa · 29/11/2025 09:58

I 'gasp' the complexity just fine thank you. I felt my post was quite clear that I was fed up of the ATTITUDE, but I'm surprised how many people have managed to miss that and think I'm saying that people shouldn't be allowed to earn a high wage. It's also been eye opening and saddening to see the number of people who genuinely think that it's as simple as 'the way to get lots of money is just to work hard'

I agree. It’s a bizarre attitude. We also will always need people to collect the bins, work in retail, clean the streets. All of these people deserve to be able to pay for a decent standard of living. It’s the gap in earnings that is the problem, of course some jobs will always pay more than other jobs but if wealth was redistributed more equally, it would be better for all of society.

BunnyLake · 29/11/2025 10:03

whateverintheworld · 29/11/2025 09:52

The OP any many others on this thread are saying they don’t agree with it and are annoyed by it…

I wondered who you were taking issue with when they told you that you don’t work hard.

newbluesofa · 29/11/2025 09:58

Medexpert · 29/11/2025 01:19

Your post made me feel better - it's always good to know there are people who see these things are complex
Except OP doesn't seem to gasp the actual complexity of the issue. Saying you're fed up of those who say they deserve their income because they work out is failing to understand the concept of why most better paid jobs do pay more in the first place and why ultimately, oy few are capable and willing to do these jobs.

I 'gasp' the complexity just fine thank you. I felt my post was quite clear that I was fed up of the ATTITUDE, but I'm surprised how many people have managed to miss that and think I'm saying that people shouldn't be allowed to earn a high wage. It's also been eye opening and saddening to see the number of people who genuinely think that it's as simple as 'the way to get lots of money is just to work hard'

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Dagda · 29/11/2025 09:58

rwalker · 29/11/2025 09:35

But wouldn’t it be counterproductive
a lot of billionaires run businesses that employ people and support and contribute to the economy
if they weren’t allow to keep or earn that much why would you bother
so then the treasury would lose income and we’d lose jobs

Apparently Even if most billionaires lost 99% of their wealth, they’d still be billionaires so obviously still better off than most.

Do you genuinely think that the monopoly of Amazon for example is a good thing because it creates loads of menial minimum wage jobs? Having all the wealth being concentrated at the top isn’t good for any of the rest of us.

whateverintheworld · 29/11/2025 09:53

ForHazelTiger · 29/11/2025 09:39

You have chosen to do that though. I mean honestly, who cares if you or others on this thread work hard? I work hard but I consider myself lucky to be able to do that. I'd feel such an idiot going around saying 'I work hard'. Who cares? I'm not saving lives, unlike a nurse or even a carer.

Our taxes are saving lives.

whateverintheworld · 29/11/2025 09:52

BunnyLake · 29/11/2025 09:47

Is it your family or friends telling you they don’t think you work hard?

The OP any many others on this thread are saying they don’t agree with it and are annoyed by it…

BunnyLake · 29/11/2025 09:47

whateverintheworld · 29/11/2025 06:47

I have no issue with paying my taxes. But I do take issues with people denying that I work hard for my money. My husband and I are in law - my husband works 80hrs+ a week as a partner and I work 60-80 a week in house. All day every day we either parent or work. No downtime. We do our very best to be fully present parents so our child never feels let down - we’ll be there for the carol service and the nativity etc. but that means we come home do bedtime and then work until we drop. Our work product is scrutinised and if we give wrong advice (even if it’s in the 18th hour working that day) we will probably be sued or under regulatory scrutiny. That is a huge amount of pressure. The rates of burnout and addiction in our industry are high. I know not every high earning job is the same, I have some friends in IT earning similarly who can do they job with their eyes closed and work about 4 hrs a day but let’s not pretend that’s everyone. For most people (not all) they are working c40hrs a week. The mental toll of working double that for 15-20 yrs and living on 4-5hrs sleep is huge. C40% of my time I’m working for the taxpayer. As I said I don’t resent that, I support the state, but I do disagree with anyone who won’t accept I’m working hard. I’ve worked other jobs eg retail as a student and when I clocked off I was off - now I’m never off.

Is it your family or friends telling you they don’t think you work hard?

Christmascarrotjumper · 29/11/2025 09:46

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And you can't have retail workers, food service workers and bar staff if people don't have the disposable income to shop and go out. Squeeze too hard, productivity drops and there's not enough money left to pay nurses or Costa Coffee staff.
Striking the right balance is important and ignoring high earners isn't going to help.

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