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Is this a police job? Threatened by Vinted seller

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Reasonswhy · 28/11/2025 14:36

I know I’m not, but posting for traffic as no idea what to do.
Item for Christmas arrived today and was clearly fake so applied for a refund via Vinted. I’ve had a series of threatening messages from the seller saying he needs the money, and he has my address so will come and find me. He included a photo of himself holding an air rifle. I’m not easily spooked but feel really scared now as he does have my address and seems very angry. I’ve filed a “help” through Vinted but they may not even read it for 48 hours. Do I call 111? On my own with 2 kids so feel really on edge.

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bluepumpkin · 30/11/2025 09:11

Gosh how frightening. I agree with other posters that he’s highly unlikely to be prepared to carry out these threats, he’s just hoping to scare you into submission. Don’t respond but stick to the police recommendations.

EddyF · 30/11/2025 09:11

Look at this tool using Black people, LOL. The obsession is real.

I would report but 100 per cent would not be worried.

Mcoco · 30/11/2025 09:09

ParkLife2 · 30/11/2025 08:01

How can a Vinted seller be abroad? I thought everything on UK Vinted was UK sellers and UK buyers? And if some sellers or buyers are abroad, how do you know? How did everyone know in this case?

I think they have recently opened it up to the United States too. I believe you can now sell items to the States.

NotAMillionMiles · 30/11/2025 09:03

Endorewitch · 30/11/2025 00:52

Call 999 now. He has threatened you. He knows where you live. You have his contact details. He may be just trying to scare you but he is acting with malicious intent.
Ease let us know what the police say and good luck.

OP has updated many times, sharing the actions she has taken since she started the thread.

Did you not read back?

Smittenkitchen · 30/11/2025 08:24

So sorry that has happened to you, OP. It must be so scary. Just wanted to mention that you were saying that he seemed "So so angry" but I would say he is probably not angry, he's just trying to scare you so he's using that highly aggressive tone. He wants you to believe that he's a rage-filled crazed individual capable of doing you harm so that you will just accept the item. That's the scam. He is very unlikely to be willing to do any of the things he's threatening. There's a huge difference between violent crime and fraud and what he's engaged in is scamming people, he wouldn't want to get involved in anything as messy as directly attacking people. But of course there's part of you which wonders if he could possibly mean it which is why it's hard to ignore. I would hide your Vinted account for now so you don't receive any more threats. This person is just the lowest of the low and I'm really sorry you've ended up crossing paths with him, you sound like a really kind person. Hope you get a decent response from the police.

Fluffytoebeanz · 30/11/2025 08:08

There is a certain type of person that does this. It might not be a real gun but it's still intimidating and scary. We have had similar in a different situation (threatening our daughter and family in a grooming situation). The police were involved and the person was known to them for other crimes.

But just an aside, said daughter has the same tracksuit bought from Vinted. As much as I don't like fakes, she is happy with it and wears it a lot. The problem with sites like vinted is they are encouraging people to purchase fakes as they are cheap and so if it's cheap and new it's almost certain to be fake and those who sell fakes have links to wider criminality.

It's a trade that has been ongoing for a long time.

ParkLife2 · 30/11/2025 08:01

How can a Vinted seller be abroad? I thought everything on UK Vinted was UK sellers and UK buyers? And if some sellers or buyers are abroad, how do you know? How did everyone know in this case?

BeardofHagrid · 30/11/2025 07:51

I hope you’re okay this morning, OP ❤️

Itsaknockout235 · 30/11/2025 07:44

Aconcernedmum43 · 29/11/2025 22:15

@Reasonswhy Firstly, I am really sorry you are experiencing this. It sounds terrifying.

Not sure if anyone has done this already but i put the picture of the gun into google reverse image search and a story from 2023 came up from a news page in France where they reported a vinted buyer experiencing the same issue as you are where they were sent the same image and threatening messages over an item that wasn't genuine.

https://www.oisehebdo.fr/2023/06/11/chantilly-commande-vinted-cauchemar/

Edited

This is uncanny!

Iris2024 · 30/11/2025 05:09

Sending you hugs OP ❤️

Please update us if the police actually do come and see you or if he messages again. I hope you have got some sleep tonight lovely 😩❤️

Jillybloop393 · 30/11/2025 04:35

I haven't read every post, but oh my gosh - this is absolutely shocking. To read that it's common on Vinted is worrying, too. Disgusting that the police haven't acted, and thrown the cowardly, nasty little sh*t in the cells.
Hope you're okay x

LemaxObsessive · 30/11/2025 03:41

PBJsandwich123 · 30/11/2025 01:00

999 will direct your call to the relevant team. There are a lot of stolen good sold on vinted - I think they will look into vinted related crimes more and more. You could even go to the press with this I reckon, but that might not be so safe.

Please RTFT!!!

LemaxObsessive · 30/11/2025 03:40

TerrysNeapolitan · 28/11/2025 19:09

THIS ABOVE - also ex Police please report OP

The police did bugger all!

nomas · 30/11/2025 02:28

Reasonswhy · 29/11/2025 19:41

I’m now really scared as he’s gone to the trouble of setting up a whole new account and tracing my kids jacket listing and now it starts all over again. Feels less like an angry teenager in a strop in his room now 😢

I would be ending all listings.

I would also want to delete my Vinted account, but I suppose it’s evidence. You can always set up another one later once this resolved.

Notevry1ishonest · 30/11/2025 02:14

Reasonswhy · 29/11/2025 21:57

Thank you all so much, can’t tell you how much I appreciate your reassurance. Special thanks to the amazing ex -police who have made me feel a lot better. Just had a call back from my local station, they apologised and said they are very busy and don’t feel I’m at immediate threat as they are confident the image contains a toy gun and they will have an officer out today or tomorrow. I just pointlessly wish they could do something more in the meantime like pass it to cyber team (or whatever it’s called in real life!) given they have the screen shots and someone in the right team could presumably talk to a real person in Vinted 🤷‍♀️

That's awful. This should be a priority.

Just tell them you misgendered someone... they'll be there like a shot, most likely with armed police.

Sad, but true.

PBJsandwich123 · 30/11/2025 01:00

Reasonswhy · 28/11/2025 14:41

I don’t know who to call, it doesn’t feel 999 worthy but I’m scared

999 will direct your call to the relevant team. There are a lot of stolen good sold on vinted - I think they will look into vinted related crimes more and more. You could even go to the press with this I reckon, but that might not be so safe.

Endorewitch · 30/11/2025 00:52

Call 999 now. He has threatened you. He knows where you live. You have his contact details. He may be just trying to scare you but he is acting with malicious intent.
Ease let us know what the police say and good luck.

CoffeeLipstickKeys · 29/11/2025 23:49

PaisleyGilmourStreet · 29/11/2025 22:29

This is horrific.
Ring your local police again and tell them you are contacting the press if they don't send officers round within the hour.
I'd also be tempted to message this reprobate and tell him the police and the press are currently tracing him.

NO. Shockingly poor advice
Your notion of giving the police an ultimatum is, umm interesting,.daft as fuck

Tarteaucitronmerinquee · 29/11/2025 23:42

I think what might comfort me slightly is that I can’t actually believe someone would travel miles to turn up with a gun to someone’s house for 50 quid. I can see why you are worried though and I am so sorry its causing you stress. Hope the police get to the bottom of it.

northern2025 · 29/11/2025 23:36

PaisleyGilmourStreet · 29/11/2025 22:29

This is horrific.
Ring your local police again and tell them you are contacting the press if they don't send officers round within the hour.
I'd also be tempted to message this reprobate and tell him the police and the press are currently tracing him.

Don’t do this. It would ruin any prosecution. This is bad advice

WearyAuldWumman · 29/11/2025 23:24

WearyAuldWumman · 29/11/2025 23:02

He's escalating. Dial 999.

You have his name, address and clear evidence.

Apologies. Have now read the update.

OneBookTooMany · 29/11/2025 23:18

Shotokan101 · 29/11/2025 22:15

Ask the police to confirm that the weapon has been identified by a firearms officer and confirmed as a replica or toy, otherwise they have no excuse for not treating it as a genuine firearm and acting properly to safeguard your family's safety.

This is a good idea.

Neeroy · 29/11/2025 23:11

There's a lot of people on MN who overreact. You, OP, are not one of them. This is insane! I would be as worried as you are. I'm glad you're home is safe and I hope the person is found and prosecuted for malicious communications.

Sassylovesbooks · 29/11/2025 23:08

Vinted is a Lithuanian company, not British, so I'm sure the police would have to contact them to ask for information regarding the profile. I doubt it's a quick process either. I wouldn't rely on the police even doing this. My advice would be to not respond to the message on the new account. If you've already reported it to Vinted then it's likely the account will be taken down. If you receive any further messages on new accounts don't report them to Vinted. The police need to see the account active, as it may make it easier to trace (if they decide too). The police seem confident in that you're not in any immediate danger, and it's likely the person is trying to scare you. Regardless of the person's intention, it's scary and not very nice. I follow someone on Instagram, he ended up with a stalker (based in the US) and she kept trying to follow all his friends/family and message them. I'd comment on his posts, and he would reply, usually amused by my comments. This woman then started trying to follow me, and sending me messages. When it didn't work, she started making fake profiles, to try and follow me from. It was utterly bizarre and it made me realise how bonkers some people are. Eventually, after several months it just stopped, never heard from her again.

Namerequired · 29/11/2025 23:04

What a sick individual. I love buying on vinted and this would put me off.
Can you see the tracking on your delivery so you can see where it started/was posted? At least then you will know if it’s nearby. He’s likely all mouth but I can see why you’re concerned. The police really should be doing better, but like everything they are overstretched

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