Partner won’t change Trust

Why would you have to pay "the mortgages", they are nothing to do with you. You would, however, be homeless which is pretty shit.

I'd leave him personally. He's not all in the relationship.

Personally I don't think this, but thoroughly agree such matters should be discussed before having children

Unfortunately some women still just see what appears to be a wealthy man and believe they have it made, wilfully closing their eyes to the rest

As long as the twat is on the birth certificate…

Will be 4 more years. Then a foundation training year. That’s too long to not have security for OPs son imo.

So generally people think someone should include a girlfriend of 5 years into a family trustfund? Really?
Absolutely his child needs to be included but no I don't think you should be unless you are married , that would be reckless of him.
But when your having children with someone that is clearly wealthy these things need to be fully discussed and understood before a child is born.

OP, your son would have a claim on his estate and as he’s a dependent, it would highly likely be successful. That’s assuming he has a will that does not benefit any children.

If he has no will, your son inherits everything, in trust until he’s an adult. The trustees will be able to release funds for his benefit such as school fees etc.

But, he’s no partner to you if he won’t even tell you how much he earns.

If he's supporting you to train as a dentist I would risk staying until you are qualified. Then as soon as you can get your own mortgage, buy a property either to live in or as an investment. You need to be your own security. Don't put a penny into his property either.

I can't see a future with this man, he doesn't seem to consider you or your child's future.
It seems to be about him being a tight fisted git imo. He doesn't want you to get your mitts on the properties or investments should you marry and divorce.
I'd be looking to leave and setting up on my own with my kid.

My questions would be:

Should he meet with a tragic accident where does he think you and your child would live
And how would you support his child?
Does he have life insurance? And are you the beneficiary.
Has he made a Will? Is your child the beneficiary?
If his child is the beneficiary is there provision for you to remain on the home with a life interest / until your child is 21 or whatever
Are you named as Next of Kin on his medical records - who would make decisions about his health, funeral etc?
Is his refusal to marry based in not wanting his assets to be at risk should you split?
Would he consider marriage with a pre-nup?

and

Does he love you?

Was the decision to do your Dentistry degree supported by him? Has he agreed to support you for the duration?

Of course he likes them otherwise he'd kick them out.

He just doesn't care enough or love them enough to want to give them any security.

Right now he's got a woman giving him sex, taking care of his child and no doubt cooking and cleaning while he's out earning an amount of money that he refuses to disclose.

What's not to like?

People have to opt in to having legal protections, with a marriage contract. You currently don't have any and he could remove you from his property at any time he wants.
As PP have said you urgently need to secure your own property and financial independence, give the boyfriend as much consideration as he has to you
Here's a citizens advice link
https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/living-together-marriage-and-civil-partnership/living-together-and-marriage-legal-differences/

This. You and your son are but lodgers in his home. It's an appalling way to treat you.You need to build your own financial security as quickly as possible.
I'd be tempted to move out get your own mortgage as soon as possible, and claim maintenance payments from him. Not easy, I know...

I’m honestly baffled that you’re living and having children with someone that you don’t even know so much as his salary. Everything just seems really high risk - how old are you?

sorry my typing went awry and I wrote the wrong thing. It’s a dependency order or declaratory order.

This. Every time this.

You ca may get a charging order put on the property you live in without owning it. You’d need legal advice.

OP, your situation is this. He can tell you to leave this afternoon and you have no comeback. You are not named on the deeds of your home and have no rights.

The only thing you would be entitled to from him is child maintenance, and then only if he didn't want 50:50 custody.

Get your degree, find a job and start prioritising your finances before you find yourself on the street.

Yes your son is his family. There’s no such thing as illegitimacy in English law for such purposes (it hangs on for hereditary peerages in their letters patent but that’s not relevant here). It’s a bad will to not specify and could open up a court case for a judge to determine what proportion different relatives get, but it could easily be an expensive route that ends with the entire estate being awarded to his dependant son. Who are the trustees of the trust?

These are all questions you should have been asking BEFORE you chose to have a child with this man.

There is absolutely no reason why he should or would want to change anything because he already has what he wants.

I also doubt a man who owns multiple properties and hasn't even told you his salary has shown you his will, and I don't think any solicitor would draw it up with the beneficiary being named 'family'.

Get your degree, get a job and start saving for yourself, he isn't going to change.

you need to financially look after yourself

look at getting a house/money/savings - if you had to walk away tomorrow - can you?

I have never understood people who have children with someone/not married and yet financially depend on them- if he splits with you, you are royally screwed

I would imagine that his parents or grandparents have given him assets for tax purposes, but they are the beneficiaries if he dies unexpectedly. Outside those assets, he could certainly name you and your son as beneficiaries of his pension, death in service etc. He could also carve out the house you live in and leave that to you and your son.

How has he put her in an untenable position? Surely she has had a say over her situation, and the choices she has made to end up in it? And it was ultimately her choice to have children, and her responsibility to make sure she was in a secure position to do so.
A fair and decent man would of course want this for his partner and the mother of his children, but it is the women’s responsibility to ensure she is protected before having children.

Honestly I would bide your time, get your degree and start working and then leave.

A man who out earns his partner and refuses to give her or his child any basic legal protections is not a good person to build a life with. He doesn’t respect you and doesn’t have his child’s interests at heart.

How long until you expect to finish your degree?

I'm confused why you have called him irresponsible. You have been the irresponsible one in this situation.

Exactly. The OP sounds shocked to find herself in this position. But at the end of the day she chose to procreate with a man who clearly had no intention of doing right by her or their son. Yes he's a selfish dick, but he offered her a pile of diddly squat and she knowingly accepted it.