To ask how you split nights with a newborn with you partner?

DH is a professional driver so I did it all, no choice really it would be far too dangerous for him to miss vital sleep. Some nights were horrendous but I got through it.

We did do separate rooms, but my son was a determined cosleeper, so it made a difference to have the extra space, and I'd summon him if needed.

With our toddler sleeping through til 7, I'd expect him to cover what he could until midnight/1am, then be entirely responsible for the toddler in the morning.

I think like many PP we did split nights. I went to bed early (around 7) and DH did all wakings until 1am and then I did the night feeds. That gave me a decent stretch of sleep that helped me to keep going.

I did all the nights went to bed late got up early and did all the night wakes bf anyway. DH was working a big commute away leaving at 5:00am and hopefully home at 6:30pm five days a week. Fortunately I could function on not a lot of sleep.

Remember it well and DS2 didn’t sleep through until 18 months. Definitely go to bed much earlier.

I used to express earlier in day. I would do 7ish feed (just after toddler bedtime), then go straight to bed with ear plugs and eye mask. DH would then do 9ish feed with a bottle and then put baby down in. I’d then wake up for the next feed about 11/12pm. Basically I’d get 4 hours sleep in one go and that would help me deal with the rest of the night. We didn’t sleep separately and I just had the crib next to the bed for night feeds. Time goes so slow when you’re in the thick of it, but I promise it gets easier

We did alternate nights so at least every other night we got decent sleep. It was twins and doing it solo all day when he was at work was enough!

We had a two year old when DS2 was born EBF so I did all the night feeds with baby in my room. Toddler was still up frequently.
At that newborn stage I went to bed about 7.30 to get a few hours in.
DH slept in a different room and dealt with the toddler when he woke up. He got up with toddler and did breakfast.
He had a demanding job which involved driving long distances a couple of days a week so I would not risk him being over tired.
It was tiring but fair IMO.
We slept in separate rooms for about a year but had musical beds for years.

Our toddler didn’t sleep through still when the second arrived, so I did the newborn and my husband did the toddler. We both have ended up co sleeping separately.

No advice, my dd is 8 months and I'm still in a seperate room doing every night wake up. The last 2 months has almost broken me with a sleep regression, horrendous eczema and another regression. I have an 11 year old though and it does get better!

We did as some PP’s have advised- I went to bed really early, right after our toddler, and DH gave DS a bottle of expressed milk. I then covered the rest of the night but it was easier after a solid four hours sleep in the evening.

It’s good that your baby will take both a bottle and breast, not all will! Both of mine had trouble latching at first so we were given a special bottle for expressed milk until bf was established. It turned out to be a bonus as DH could feed them too. Good luck. 💐

When I had a newborn and a toddler, I did the nights with newborn and he did the night with toddler. The toddler didn't sleep particularly well either to be honest so he didn't have it that easy, plus he struggles more with disrupted sleep than I do. I can feed a baby half asleep and go right back down, he'll be up for hours by which time the baby has woken again. He would be more use to me the next day with his arrangement.

God this feels like a distant memory although we're not that far past it!
DD was 2.5 and a terrible sleeper when baby was born, I exclusively bf so DH couldn't do much with baby, lets face it they want to feed pretty much all night at that age don't they. DH slept in with toddler and I had baby in with me in our room. It seemed the best way to maximise everyone's sleep

First child was a terrible sleeper so I did it all as she was breastfed. He might try to comfort her in the evening when she was colicky. It was awful.

Second child was a brilliant sleeper so he'd have her downstairs in the evening whilst I got early night then if she woke in the night I'd deal with it.

He's taken on his share or more of the parenting since then.

We co-slept with our 17 month old and the newborn was in the crib by the side of the bed , so l could breast feed. They seemed to settle really well. So basically l did it all but it was fairly easy , l think I went were lucky tbh.

When I worked and my ex-W worked, I did all the night times and all of the getting up in the early morning. Then she had an affair and left me.

We split nights equally throughout, I couldn't breastfeed so I was pumping. We would both get up, prepare the milk and change our baby, then DH would do the feed while I pumped the next feed. All done in around 30mins, if I had done it alone it would have taken double the time. We were lucky and our baby started sleeping through a 7hr stretch at around 8 weeks.
I never considered it would be anything but equal and I dont think DH did either.

I did it all because DH was working full time. It was much easier for me to be tired at home in the day than DH be tired at work.

I did them all as I was breastfeeding but didn’t mind as that was my choice and no point two people being up (imo)

Dh did all night feeds 3 days a week (Saturda,Sunday and Monday). I did 4. He worked full time but that didn't mean he opted out nor would I have let him because I struggled. On his days he would be asleep for 9pm and then up for the 2am feed and again at 6am and would feed baby before getting ready for work. He would get a solid 4-5 hours stretch and then maybe another 2-3hours. On my days we alternated. Yes it was rough when dc1 was up a lot more regularly than that and when we had 2 under 2. The best thing was realising that we were on the same team so we put a stop to arguing about who's turn it was and how tired we were. It was a difficult time. We then had a 4 year age gap between ds and dd2 who slept through from 3 months unlike her brother and sister.

The first few months i did all feeds/night wakes as I was bf. Dh would have DS on weekend for few hours so I could nap. But dh was out the house 8am-6pm
When DS was around 4/5 month old we changed it so that dh had DS from7pm- 12pm and I went to bed (dh gave DS a expressed bottle) I slept around 5 hours and then would do night wakes between midnight and 7am. Dh slept 12-7.

If partner is doing bottle during bedtime, go to bed with your toddler and grab a stretch of 4 hours.

I always find that 4 is the magic number, regardless of wake ups and total amount of sleep during the night, if I don't get 4 in a row then the next day is rubbish.

Like many others here I went to bed really early, by 7pm. DH did last feed of evening (we had bottles from fairly early) brought baby to bed 10.30/11 ish and covered until midnight. I did everything from midnight until 630ish when DH would take over so I could get an extra hour or so sleep (obviously not on mornings commuting to office).

I did pretty much every single night as I breastfed. My husband did a very full on job that required a lot of international travel. When he was home I wanted him to be spending quality time with the kids so reading bed time stories and playing with them while I tended to do the more routine boring stuff. His job paid well so it meant we had a cleaner and I could afford a baby sitter etc. I know a lot of Mumsnetters would hate this and disapprove but it worked well for us and I’ve no regrets. If I was ill or needed help he would do so without a second thought. There was no resentment between us and we both respected each others role in the family. I think being able to afford a regular cleaner was a huge deal.

In your position I used to go to bed at 7 when the toddler did. DH would do the dream feed at 11, then I'd take over any night waking as he was at work during the week. We kept the same routine at weekends but I'd also get a lay in from about 6-10 to catch up.
It doesn't last forever.