Daughter 100s of miles away at uni having ‘bad trip’ . Help

Glad she's ok! Sounds like you have a good relationship

> they weren’t around when I was at uni
If you were born after about 1945, yes they were

This is worrying for you and I hope she's OK.
I ate hash shortbread once at uni and absolutely freaked out - thought I was going to die! Obviously that was an extreme reaction (and of course I was fine when it passed off), but I wouldn't have wanted to repeat the experience.

Yes indeed! Good job 👏

Glad things are ok OP.

I took recreation drugs in the late 80s and early 90s which was still stupid, but less dangerous than taking them now. Back then, you sort of knew what you were taking. Now, with so many more chemical substances being shipped in from China and India and sold in clubs and on the street, and traces of fentanyl in things, it's a much scarier landscape.

I would urge any parent with kids at Uni to follow groups like 'The Loop' who share info about what is currently circulating at different Uni towns and what to look out for, and have open conversations with your kids. I have DC at Unis in Notts and Manchester - both big party cities - and I regularly share The Loop posts and info with them. Thank GOD, neither gone down the class A drugs road (yet), and fingers crossed that the moment for that has passed, but I know both deffo smoking weed sometimes with mates so I stay vigilant and keep talking. By talking and sharing updates with them, they can pass on to friends and try to prevent someone else doing something stupid, and I also hope that the constant reminders will give them pause for thought in a moment of temptation.

Hope that doesn't sound too preachy!

It's good that your DD felt she could call you. It means you are doing excellent parenting in my book.

If it’s an edible she definitely has fallen asleep which is a good thing.

when you get hold of her tell her to drink some water and have something sugary. Also of she is going to imbibe any substances she hasn’t had before she should go with 1/4 and wait an hour or two

Urgh gummies can be the worst!

im a seasoned recreational weed user, it helps my arthritis and I enjoy a little vape on a weekend but was given some 100mg gummies and omg I was absolutely fucked up by them 🤣 ended up giving away the pack.

i promise they are not dangerous or anything OP so dont worry, just intense and absolutely not to be mixed with alcohol ime!

But he was right, there was no need to worry.

Bless you OP. So wonderful that your DD feels able to call you at times like this. I hope to have a relationship like this with my DDs when they are young adults 😍

I would flag this risk as well - worth checking what their policy is and maybe could considering getting a friend's number off her (with both parties' agreement) for if it were to happen again.

If her flat mates are so unsocial can she ask for a flat swap? People will have dropped out by now and there may be spaces.?

I wouldn't read her the riot act as someone else suggested- if she's in a sticky situation in the future you want her to call you, whether that's drink/drugs/dodgy boyfriend/dodgy house party. Be nice, point out that people get spiked and she needs to be very careful in the future. If a low dose of something allegedly fun made her paranoid and unhappy she's better off avoiding edibles & cannabis. Cannabis is much, much stronger now than in the 90s

Bless you op. So glad she’s fine. Kids eh?! 🙄

Agreed. And I’ll add two words - county lines.

So glad she is ok OP. You entirely did the right thing

I’m not sure why this is seen as a right of passage or even why anyone laughs. I lived in the Netherlands and have seen lives destroyed this way. People thinking they can fly. Lives ruined by psychosis

my message to my kids is - touch drugs if you want but you risk death or permanent mental illness. It’s not ok. It ok not to want to try drugs.

Also, can depend on what type of weed was in it. Some has very high THC component , particularly parts of Europe , that can bring on a month or more of psychosis. Regular weed is generally fine, but I'd probably be going to check on her just to reassure myself if you are able to at all. You'll know straight away if she has any long lasting effects.

I’m pretty sure she will be ok. She will have slept it off. Don’t think she’ll be doung that again soon. How worrying for you but you gave good advice.x

Glad she’s ok. Now on the morning tell her what a stupid selfish twat she has been. One pill CAN kill.

Oh, phew, she's okay. Good to hear!

Based on your info, it doesn't sound like she told you what was in the edible. Yes, most commonly used for cannabis but, 1) a small minority of people react very strongly to cannabis with induced psychosis, or 2) the edible also had mushrooms or Salvia divinorum.

So a welfare check is definitely not overreacting.

Hope all turns out okay!

So glad she’s ok.
I don’t agree on the bollocking. She’s called you twice when she’s really needed you and I wouldn’t want to jeopardise that especially as she’s lonely and finding uni hard.
As someone who emerged relatively unscathed from 90s rave excess and a far few years of absolutely wild times, I experienced something similar to your daughter. The experience was horrendous and even reading your daughter’s experience, 30 years after mine, I shuddered at the memory. I never ever ever touched anything like that again. I sincerely doubt she’ll need anyone else to tell her… She’ll still be fragile tomorrow and likely deeply ashamed.
you sound like a great parent with a wonderful relationship with her. Continue to speak to her from a place of love and concern at this point.
Really glad she’s ok.

The only thing I'd add is that if you were to ever call the halls of residence for a welfare check, be mindful that some might kick her out for drug use (even though all this experimental stuff is rife at uni). So just consider how you'd ask for a welfare check.

Terrifying to read, as the mom of someone recently started at VIU