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Partner and my dog

90 replies

Craftydafty1 · 27/11/2025 20:13

My dog is big and liles to jump up when excited. My partber brought a parcel that had been delivered to the house.

My dog grabbed her toy and jumped at him and hit him right in his "privates" he let out a "ouch" then hit my dog with parcel.

He said it was an instant reaction to being hurt. I said it was an accident.

The parcel has a light rubber tube in it so was v.light.

He said aibu as it was a reaction and she needs trained and he doesnt appreciate being hurt. He then patted her and said sorry.

Aibu or is he?

Is this animal abuse?

Ta x

OP posts:
GucciBear · 27/11/2025 21:26

It does not matter if you do is big or minute. He/should be taught good manners and not be a pain. Would I be right in the king that he heads off on his walk pulling you along because he has no idea of how to,walk safely by your side?

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 27/11/2025 21:11

'He said it was an instant reaction to being hurt.'

Do not have children with this man, he is unable / unwilling to cotrol his reactions / behaviour.

Do not ever leave your dog home alone with him.

Did you have your dog before you met your partner

does he live with you / do you live with him.

ShesTheAlbatross · 27/11/2025 21:07

Animal abuse? Be reasonable.

Train your dog before it knocks someone over.

GingerPaste · 27/11/2025 21:05

Another vote for ‘train your dog’!

carly2803 · 27/11/2025 21:01

train your dog, they should not jump up!

Misbella · 27/11/2025 20:53

I love dogs, have a huge one and a tiny (4kilo) one. I worked very hard to make sure the large one in particular doesn’t jump up and she absolutely never would. She could really harm an elderly person or child or even just someone caught off balance.
train your dog !

Hotflushesandchilblains · 27/11/2025 20:44

Well it was not great of him, but its hardly animal abuse. You need to train your dog. He needs to be clear he does not get to him it.

Mischance · 27/11/2025 20:37

God I feel so sorry for dogs - they are forced to live with humans who train them to behave counter to their instincts. It is arrogance of a high order.

They are bred for humans, trained by humans, dominated by humans ......

Our relationship with dogs is seriously weird.

No dogs here nor ever will be.

SeaAndStars · 27/11/2025 20:36

What is it recently with all the my/my partner's dog is big/bouncy/sits on my head posts?

Kleeneze · 27/11/2025 20:34

Train your dog fgs

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 27/11/2025 20:33

Train your dog. I don’t think tapping an animal with a light parcel constitutes animal abuse, not training a dog however…

Fidgety31 · 27/11/2025 20:31

You need to train your dog. It’s not acceptable for it to be jumping up people .

WilfredsPies · 27/11/2025 20:21

He’s an arse for not learning how to control his reactions. Would he have reacted the same if it had been a toddler?

You’re an arse for not training your dog properly. If you can’t be bothered to train it, you aren’t up to the responsibility of having a dog.

The only one not an arse is the dog!

Peoplemakemedespair · 27/11/2025 20:19

A person got hurt by your untrained animal, reacted by touching it with a light object, and then patting it and apologising to it. It’s just shit dog ownership. Did you apologise to your partner? Are you correcting your dogs behaviour?

mbosnz · 27/11/2025 20:16

Do your dog a favour and train it.