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Craftydafty1 · 2025-11-27T20:13:53+00:00

My dog is big and liles to jump up when excited. My partber brought a parcel that had been delivered to the house. My dog grabbed her toy and jumped at him and hit him right in his "privates" he let out a "ouch" then hit my dog with parcel. He said it was an instant reaction to being hurt. I said it was an accident. The parcel has a light rubber tube in it so was v.light. He said aibu as it was a reaction and she needs trained and he doesnt appreciate being hurt. He then patted her and said sorry. Aibu or is he? Is this animal abuse? Ta x

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 28/11/2025 13:02

then hit my dog with parcel.
He said it was an instant reaction to being hurt.

and he will do the same to a child...

KStockHERO · 28/11/2025 12:58

Your partner's a cunt.

If someone hit my dog (for any reason but especially an accident) I'd break their fucking jaw.

RunChristmasIsComing · 28/11/2025 12:57

So he has a history of being scared of dogs…

And then a big, untrained dog jumps on him, and claws him in the bollocks?

How are people blaming the bloke here?

WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 28/11/2025 12:53

WilfredsPies · 27/11/2025 20:21

He’s an arse for not learning how to control his reactions. Would he have reacted the same if it had been a toddler?

You’re an arse for not training your dog properly. If you can’t be bothered to train it, you aren’t up to the responsibility of having a dog.

The only one not an arse is the dog!

Hard agree

Ablondiebutagoody · 28/11/2025 12:49

Your dog sounds awful. I once ditched a boyfriend for having a dog like that

Shatteredallthetimelately · 28/11/2025 12:36

Is this animal abuse?

More a case of the dog having an owner that can't be arsed to train it.

luckylavender · 28/11/2025 12:33

Train the dog before someone harms it. You’re in the wrong here.

Fascinate · 28/11/2025 12:31

WilfredsPies · 27/11/2025 20:21

He’s an arse for not learning how to control his reactions. Would he have reacted the same if it had been a toddler?

You’re an arse for not training your dog properly. If you can’t be bothered to train it, you aren’t up to the responsibility of having a dog.

The only one not an arse is the dog!

This!

Spidey66 · 28/11/2025 12:31

Another (dog owner and lover) saying train the dog. He was hit in an instinctal reaction with a light object. I hate animal cruelty with a passion, but this was not cruelty.

AlphaApple · 28/11/2025 12:16

Reverse?

itsnotpenny · 28/11/2025 11:59

Craftydafty1 · 28/11/2025 11:37

I should add that before he met me he was scared of dogs. He doesnt trust othet dogs but trusts my dog as he trusts me. He said he alsp reacted the way he did as he was frightened having a big dog (albeit knowing it for years) charge at him.

Love how you ignore everyone saying you need to train the dog.

snoopythebeagle · 28/11/2025 11:56

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 28/11/2025 11:47

Ah rubbish ! he is making excuses now for his bad behaviour !

so

what happens if you have a son with him, and son comes running to meet him and in his excitement runs directly into him and by accident head butts him in his balls, is he going to punch the child in his face
as he cannot regulate his emotions control his anger

what happens if he is feeding a daughter in her highchair and she is happily kicking her legs, she drops her spoon he goes to pick it up and he gets kicked in the face, will he slap her legs because he got hurt and likes to use violence when hurt.

I don’t think you can compare a badly trained, out of control dog with a tiny human.

snoopythebeagle · 28/11/2025 11:55

Craftydafty1 · 28/11/2025 11:37

I should add that before he met me he was scared of dogs. He doesnt trust othet dogs but trusts my dog as he trusts me. He said he alsp reacted the way he did as he was frightened having a big dog (albeit knowing it for years) charge at him.

I don’t blame him in the slightest - big dogs can injure people very, very easily.

Your inability to train your dog shouldn’t be other people’s problem to solve. If you can’t stop her from headhunting people and jumping up at them then you should keep her on a lead until you’ve trained her.

IhadaStripeyDeckchair · 28/11/2025 11:51

Train the dog
You know it jumps up at people, so restrain it.

Your dogs behaviour is a direct reflection of you. Anyone who acknowledges their dogs poor behaviour but does nothing about it is lazy & 100% at fault if their is an incident involving the dog.

BauhausOfEliott · 28/11/2025 11:47

He tapped a large dog with a parcel containing an almost weightless item? Of course that's not animal abuse.

You need to do better with your dog. A large dog shouldn't be jumping up like that.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 28/11/2025 11:47

Ah rubbish ! he is making excuses now for his bad behaviour !

so

what happens if you have a son with him, and son comes running to meet him and in his excitement runs directly into him and by accident head butts him in his balls, is he going to punch the child in his face
as he cannot regulate his emotions control his anger

what happens if he is feeding a daughter in her highchair and she is happily kicking her legs, she drops her spoon he goes to pick it up and he gets kicked in the face, will he slap her legs because he got hurt and likes to use violence when hurt.

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Craftydafty1 · 28/11/2025 11:37

I should add that before he met me he was scared of dogs. He doesnt trust othet dogs but trusts my dog as he trusts me. He said he alsp reacted the way he did as he was frightened having a big dog (albeit knowing it for years) charge at him.

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Mischance · 28/11/2025 08:35

FastFood · 27/11/2025 21:44

What is your point exactly? Because it's not very clear if I'm honest.

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Dogs exist now because humans breed them. We breed them to satisfy our needs and not to allow them a natural life. We train them to be what we want them to be, rather than what nature dictates.
OP's dog is simply behaving like a dog. It is doing what it is born to do. It is humans that dictate how we want them to behave.
The whole concept of adapting another species to satisfy our whims is questionable.

InterestedDad37 · 27/11/2025 22:25

From personal experience, I concur with the following "AI Overview" :
Yes, lashing out as a reaction to being hit in the testicles is a normal and involuntary response to severe, acute pain. The intensity of the pain, coupled with the body's "fight-or-flight" response, can cause a person to react physically and emotionally.

snoopythebeagle · 27/11/2025 21:59

Maybe you should train your dog not to jump at people?

Missj25 · 27/11/2025 21:58

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 27/11/2025 21:11

'He said it was an instant reaction to being hurt.'

Do not have children with this man, he is unable / unwilling to cotrol his reactions / behaviour.

Do not ever leave your dog home alone with him.

Did you have your dog before you met your partner

does he live with you / do you live with him.

🙄

SavageTomato · 27/11/2025 21:56

It's 'animal abuse" to keep a dog you are not already training. It's dangerous to have a dog you can't control already. Do everyone a favour and rehome it, or put it down. Can you meet It's needs every day while also working? Because that's the test for having a dog unless you don't need to work.

KimuraTan · 27/11/2025 21:54

Your dog shouldn’t jump up - you’re in the wrong and your partner has every right to defend himself. Sounds like a true knee jerk reaction. Train your dog and be a good pet owner. Dogs shouldn’t jump up and not be protective of their toys/food etc. You’re creating a large monster if you don’t get hold of this situation.

FastFood · 27/11/2025 21:44

Mischance · 27/11/2025 20:37

God I feel so sorry for dogs - they are forced to live with humans who train them to behave counter to their instincts. It is arrogance of a high order.

They are bred for humans, trained by humans, dominated by humans ......

Our relationship with dogs is seriously weird.

No dogs here nor ever will be.

What is your point exactly? Because it's not very clear if I'm honest.

LoveWine123 · 27/11/2025 21:31

Animal abuse? What’s the matter with you?